how do i stop my behaviour from changing based on the girl?

Skip_Azzi · 2015-04-08T13:44:35+00:00

With prude girls you need to make them feel special. You need to make them trust you enough to give themselves to you with out any worries. For some reason this is how she was brought up, or what she believes in. If you like a girl enough, it would be worth putting some time and effort into, you never know what will happen in the future.

joemantos · 2015-04-08T06:16:53+00:00

I would like to know too. I think in the end you just really need to do like with the other girls.

Iloveyou-Iknow · 2015-04-08T06:31:28+00:00

I don't know if this is a joke, or serious but I will answer anyway.

By prude girls you mean unattractive, shy, et cetera?

Firstly you should never judge a book by its cover, she could be laying 10 guys a week and appear prude and unkempt in her social circle.

Secondly, let's assume she really is prude.

She has low self esteem, she doesn't have that many guys hitting on her as opposed to her attractive/party girl friends; so she will doubt your intentions when you approach her. Also she hasn't had life as easy as her attractive friends, that's why she isn't socially calibrated and experienced. She might not get jokes, she might not get you are flirting with her, she might not get that you are teasing her and start crying.. think about that. You may end up hurting her feelings and taking her self esteem right under her feet if you approach her like you approach party girls.

She might go home and kill herself after a nuclear-option type of neg.

In my experience, and I don't approach women who don't make my heart beat whoom whoom, it's almost never worth my or her time to approach and game girls who seem introverted, anti-social, lonely, unattractive. When an attractive, well dressed, smiling man approaches them , they think "why me? logically he should be talking to cute girls, he probably wants to hurt me or prank me". Yes that sounds depressing, and sad. But keep in mind that you can't use your teases, negs, busting her balls, ignoring her.. Since you are the only man with game to approach her in the last 2 years (oh losers and grandpas who think she is fair game for them because she is not popular or attractive might be advancing in the most creepy ways possible...) she may doubt your true intentions and react very.. loudly. After you sleep with her and get bored, you will be hurting her deeply if you just go sarging for new girls. It's not like the bar girls who won't mind.

There is a lot of bad karma to be gained in your quest, but not enough sexual pleasure or fun.

hardly_incognito · 2015-04-08T07:02:00+00:00

You seem highly outcome dependent based on this post. Going into a conversation with this mindset already defeats you.

Over time I've learned that people are a lot alike in many facets. If you really push your social boundaries and attempt to be friends with various groups, you will see this. Everyone makes lame jokes, everyone wants to be happy, and everyone wants that guy/girl of their dreams.

Moving on, as cliché as it may sound, you have to learn to be yourself in all scenarios. Now this doesn't work because you're some magical fucking guy who everyone loves, no. You will meet people who don't like you. Of course with time and experience, your personality will naturally grow to polarize more people, but that's another story.

My suggestion to you is simply to start speaking with everyone. Typically others you're uncomfortable with. When talking, maintain frame and be yourself. You have no purpose other than talking to see where it goes. Work your way up, and eventually you'll be swaying hotties that are your kind of girl. Because believe me, those prude girls may put on a facade that they are very proper, but once you actually get to know them.... You'll see who they truly are; sometimes for better, sometimes for worse.

Cheers.

News_Bot · 2015-04-08T13:48:27+00:00

As long as your de-facto behavior with "outgoing girls" isn't "being an asshole" then you should just treat them the same. That is, talk to them, be somewhat interested, touch, tease, etc.

Base your actions on her reactions. The more you think about it the more you set yourself up to fail. Social interaction isn't all pre-planned, you need to be able to adjust on the fly if you want to have any success with people in general. Does she seem uncomfortable when you touch her arm? Back off for a while and see how she reacts after talking more. Does she never look you in the eyes? Cool it with the eye contact, etc.

DaygameCoach · 2015-04-08T17:09:13+00:00

Self limiting beliefs: If you think women are prudes, they are. As your attraction game improves, you will find less women who won't let you escalate (I assume that is what you are talking about). It will still happen, but less. I don't consider women prudes; if they don't want to escalate, fine, I move on...I don't just type them all into one category.

Title	how do i stop my behaviour from changing based on the girl?
Author	throwawayintoface
Upvotes	10
Comments	6
Date	April 8, 2015 4:46 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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