How do regular people usually get girlfriends without knowing about pickup or /r/seduction?

joshsway · 2013-12-06T14:45:06+00:00

PUA and Seduction is about efficiency and improvement. It's not like you can't get women any other way.

ThrowawayPUA · 2013-12-06T06:37:11+00:00

They do it the same way PUAs do it, the same way everyone does it. First they create attraction, then comfort, then they seduce. They just don't realize that's what they're doing. They blindly stumble through the seduction sequence by accident. That's why they call it "getting lucky."

rusty84 · 2013-12-06T05:39:25+00:00

In my case, four girlfriends that I had before I got into seduction hit on me, and I treated them like friends when they talked to me and apparently that made them want me more until eventually they just jumped on me or asked me out on dates. I had no game whatsoever, one time I had a friend ask a girl out for me because he had more charisma than I, sadly she rejected. And, as I identified, because I had no game, the relationships did not last more than 2 months.

I agree with you, I don't know how its possible for a guy to get and keep a girlfriend without any knowledge on seduction though.

theninefingers · 2013-12-06T05:43:28+00:00

Literally just be genuine and nice and good things will come your way. Also clean and smelling good helps never underestimate good personal hygiene.

BansheeThief · 2013-12-06T08:47:45+00:00

I feel like one of the most important thing to take away from all pickup stuff is just having confidence in yourself and enjoying your life. If this is the way you live your life, how can people not want to be around you?

I don't think you need techniques or routines or advice on how to escalate if you are just confident with yourself, honest with what you want/do not want, and pursue this.

It doesn't come naturally to everyone though, so don't be hard on yourself. My advice would be to move away from learning "game" or "pickup" and instead focus on building an awesome life, you are proud of.

PUA_Training_Student · 2013-12-06T10:38:33+00:00

Looking back, I realise that a lot of women seduced me in the past instead of me seducing them.

stigma17 · 2013-12-06T10:41:43+00:00

I'm here because somewhere along the way I lost how to talk to women and be attractive. It's like forgetting how to ride a bike. Some people don't forget though and it all comes naturally!

thaway314156 · 2013-12-06T14:40:18+00:00

Heh, a female friend of mine got into a relationship with a guy she told me was creepy, because he was constantly texting her after meeting her, asking her to go see a movie, she declined, he replied with the neediest shit of "I don't care what we do as long as I get to spend time with you." and she was infuriated/creeped out. 1 month later, Facebook official. From what I can gather he declared his love for her and she found it sweet and so now they're together, although she moved to another city to go to school, and each new male FB friend she added, he's asking her "Who's that guy?".

So I learned, you can be a useless needy idiot, but if you manage to find a girl that has little self-respect (her girlfriend said "you should break up with him", and she responded "but it will make him sad!"), it will work too...

Manny_Rize · 2013-12-07T00:01:05+00:00

In the last year or so of elementary people begin to see past the "cooties" in the opposite sex and get into innocent relationships on what they believe is the proper way. Thats why kids new to dating are constantly telling each other "i love you's" they dont know any better. Eventually those who stay active collectively learn the unwritten rules of what is wrong and right within their age, and those unaware get ridiculed. The older you get the more you're playing a game of catch up and the pressure is heavier, that's why so many people remain virgins past their 20's. They cant push past the pressure of their inadequacy.

reneezillweggar · 2013-12-13T05:08:04+00:00

yes, there some cases that boys pick up women like there's nothing happening they're just simply talking but the girls are being seduced.

Title	How do regular people usually get girlfriends without knowing about pickup or /r/seduction?
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Date	December 6, 2013 5:27 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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