How do you avoid beeing "that guy that hits in every girl"

TheXXL · 2016-05-26T14:25:50+00:00

If so how do you avoid beeing that dude that "hits on all girls?"

What does that even mean? I don't "hit on girls" i enjoy the exchange and get physical when i feel attraction. Even if it is with multiple girls. Who cares?

The only way you will be the "creepy guy, hitting on all women" is when you act like one, for instance: "wanna fuck?" bad example but i think you get the point. If anyone has a problem with you being a man that likes women, that flirts with them etc. then that's their problem.

You might not care abt it but in the end it does decrease your chance with girls since they dont be just one of the girls.

Whatever you do, it doesn't change the fact that women don't want to be that kind of girl, at least for their social circle. That's why there are techniques to counter that.

They eant to be special...

Of course they want that, and again there are techniques to make her feel safe. It mostly boils down to overcome her bitchshield by being unimpressed and therefore showing her it's not a big deal, and then making her feel that it is indeed not a big deal that she craves your dick. Have confidence in what you do, then she will follow your lead.

stuckit · 2016-05-26T14:48:09+00:00

I dated two girls that I hit on at the same very small wedding reception(cousin of the bride and her MoH). The family just watched me going back and forth between the two. Don't worry about it.

ThrowawayPUA · 2016-05-26T16:19:13+00:00

You could avoid being "that guy that hits on every girl" by not hitting on every girl.

A lot of guys start out by approaching and talking to everyone, just to get some experience. At first you just get rejected. As you develop skills, you can easily come off as "too gamey" and while sometimes you might make progress, usually you are poorly calibrated and you end up rejected. But with enough experience, you become more selective, and you have enough skills to avoid being "gamey," you seem more natural.

KawnN · 2016-05-26T16:21:23+00:00

At first you become know to the girls in your college, and by that I mean you become friends first. You meet them as a friend first, as many girls as possible. Then you talk with them, tease etc. You will feel it in the moment when they are attracted, then you act.

katalis · 2016-05-26T18:09:01+00:00

Having criteria. I don't hit on aby girl, only on those i am attracted to. However, i am social with anyone. Because i enjoy people and be social with them. And if by any chance i hit on more than one girl at the same place, i dont make a huge deal of it. People stop caring if you dont care.

Murfdigidy · 2016-05-26T19:34:25+00:00

I think Neil Strauss who wrote the game said it best. When youre really good at the game your game comes off very unassuming. Meaning a girl that likes you doesn't say, oh wow this guy is saying all the right things to me, I like him. No they just like the way you make them feel. Attraction isn't a choice it's a feeling. I can't not be Attracted to scarlett johansson I find her so gorgeous. I don't say, oh wow I like the curve of her cheek bones and the plump bosoms, I just find her hot, I can't explain it I just find her beautiful. SAME GOES for men, now women are more into the way a man carries himself than looks alone. Men are typically much more about looks, but either way if you are a sexy guy the girl doesn't say, oh wow he's so sexy but he's such a player I'd never date him. It wouldn't matter, you see if the guy is truly a player and really good at seducing girls, no matter how logical she is and no matter how much her friends try to talk her out if, she's going to go after the guy because of this attraction.

Again if done right, guys really good with women are very unassuming. Reason is they're typically just good with people in general, so everyone welcomes them, not just girls he's after.

StevieBoyB · 2016-05-26T22:49:48+00:00

Best advice talk to loads of people guys/girls attractive/less attractive. Good for building social skills and you won't come across as "that guy".

recyclablebanthas · 2016-05-26T23:32:34+00:00

Obviously if speaking to random girls on the street its kinda different than trying to speak with girls from college courses/ any other activity related courses or even home parties.

Really though, these situations are not inherently different.

Seduction, at its heart, is merely socializing. The difference between chatting up an old lady in the grocery line and a girl at a party, is mostly intention and kino, really. Both times it is about making some kind of connection.

e.g. Do you hit on multiple girls on one event/party? If so how do you avoid beeing that dude that "hits on all girls?"........ in the end you might end up having a bad reputation.

If you're flirting with girls and having a good time, that's one thing.

But if you're awkward at kino escalation and take it too far without realizing that girl isn't there yet, that's a problem.

And if you're treating interactions with women on the street as if you're trying to burn through a speedy interaction to get them back for sex immediately, then you may reconsider this tactic.

And certainly trying to reduce your interactions with girls, to a single-minded race to sex, is going to result in a reputation.

You might not care abt it but in the end it does decrease your chance with girls since they dont be just one of the girls. They eant to be special...

So focus better on connection. And don't rush in like a bull with the kino escalation. And look for incidental contact that might look more innocent from the outside but would be clear to her.

CA_Tenant · 2016-05-27T15:40:32+00:00

If you have the charisma for it, I think being the guy that hits on all the girls is a good thing. If you're charismatic, they'll be receptive. If they're receptive, other girls will see that. Those girls that see that will view you as someone other girls desire. If you are seen as someone that other girls desire, then other girls will desire you.

Being the guy that can get with other girls and perceived as something of a pimp will help your game because the girls you flirt with will think "This guy that other girls like to flirt with is flirting with me! What makes me so special? I better show this guy that I'm special."

The girls that you don't flirt with but know that you have a reputation will say to themselves, "This guy that flirts with girls and that girls like to flirt back with isn't flirting with me! What's wrong with me that he doesn't want to flirt with me?" When you do end up flirting with these girls, they'll think, 'Yay! Finally!"

If you've ever been in a relationship, you know the paradox that other girls want you more when you're taken but won't talk to you when you're single.

So in the end you might end up having a bad reputation.

You will only have a bad reputation if you are bad at flirting and uncharismatic. Learn to build rapport first. However, it is better and easier to be known as a wild, flirty guy and then work your way down to a nice, reasonable guy than start off as a nice, reasonable guy and work your way to the wild, flirty guy.

Tyler shows how girls beta shame. It's an amazing video and I learned a lot. Watch the whole thing. I'd rather start off risque and crash and burn and likely to have success than start off conservative and fight a huge, up hill battle.

SunTzu111 · 2016-05-30T01:47:41+00:00

Funny question, when I did French immergent in this tiny little college in the wilderness, (so no cold approach sets), I decided to not give a fuck.

I spoke zero words of French, so I couldn't really "game", flirt, chat, story telling, or even use humor on girls if I wanted.

I literally asked out/made a move on any girl that was decent. I asked out the the girl working at the cafe, bartender. Sometimes I would just go for a girls hand with no context or pre-convo (though when no one else was looking).

And guess what? I hooked up with the hottest girl within a week, and later on had a girl pick me up, because she saw me hook the first girl.

My game and observation of my own position was terrible, I could have easily hooked more chicks. Did I get a reputation as "weird" guy, no idea, and frankly I didn't care. I went in not giving a fuck if people hated me or thought I was weird, that mindset is what got girls to REACT, and got on their radar. I had hot jail baits wanting to hook up (I refused).

Did girls go around telling each other that I just randomly grabbed her hand and one point? Honestly, I have no idea, but from my experience, girls don't really talk about that.

I was also super touchy with all the girls, and girls even told me to be less touchy, but guess what worked?

Title	How do you avoid beeing "that guy that hits in every girl"
Author	seducerjanus
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Date	May 26, 2016 1:45 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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