How do you handle constant rejection?

Codi_Banks · 2022-05-05T04:58:14+00:00

I know everybody is just going to tell you its an inner game problem but let me give you an example of your perspective and what you should change it to.

Imagine a man that likes to take a metal detector to the beach. Most of the time he just finds bottlecaps or other debris but every once in a while he finds a nice trinket. This is just a fun little hobby to get out of the house. Now imagine that person lost his wedding ring and went to the beach with a metal detector to find it. Its a totally different vibe. Every beep he hears is a rollercoaster of emotions. He is desperate, every little thing he digs up depresses him because its not what he is looking for. Its not a fun hobby anymore.

You are setting the stakes too high my friend. Approaching girls is just a fun little hobby. You dont have to completely rewire your brain, just adjust your aim. The people that truly master any skill are the ones that learn to love the process, not just the end results. Dont approach girls just to achieve a goal (number, date, sex, girlfriend, wife, etc.), approach girls just because you want to talk to cute girls lol. There is also this concept of "borrowing abundance from your future" meaning have enough faith that you WILL improve eventually just because of sheer practice. Once you learn to believe that those goals are inevitable, the pain of rejection will lessen and your game will naturally improve.

Just keep approaching, friend. Everybody has to get through this wall of self doubt at some point. Just keep going.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-05-05T03:08:25+00:00

When you approach girls you are doing social experiments, so the result of those experiments is just a reflection of those experiments, not a reflection of your worth or competence.

Artist-in-Residence- · 2022-05-05T04:58:35+00:00

I think your problem is that you consider this a sort of numbers game, as if you're trying to get people to sign up to buy some unnecessary insurance policy.

Women can sense that you're being inauthentic, that you're just trying to "score".

Whereas, if you have a genuine interest in the person you're approaching, odds are that they will respond better.

atomant88 · 2022-05-05T03:51:20+00:00

my self esteem comes from within. rejection has zero impact on my self esteem. i dont need to 'handle it'. it doesnt matter to me. it shouldnt matter to you either

incognito3107 · 2022-05-05T05:50:11+00:00

Imagine that you are just approaching girl to find if you would be cool together instantly. How many people you get the liking for within first few minutes? Not much, and so is the case for her. No reason to get bothered much about it then.

yourcousinrafa · 2022-06-06T17:18:23+00:00

I wrote a post on the subject that might help. cheers

https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/v5zqej/rookies_guide_to_approach_rejection_isnt_what_you/

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-05-05T02:44:39+00:00

Constant rejection means that your inner game is off. No other way around it. You still hard or delusions of inadequacy.

Title	How do you handle constant rejection?
Author	pipsnchips
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Date	May 5, 2022 2:16 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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