~ archived since 2018 ~
Popular
Other
[deleted]
[–]Impulsive666 24 points25 points26 points 5 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
The response rate measures IMHO how interested she is and not your texting game. The goal shouldn’t be to „talk“ much when texting but to set up logistics for a date. This has various advantages:
saves your time. It’s valuable and you have better things to do than „provide value“, which is a nice way of saying that you are validating yourself to them.
You can’t really gain attraction through texts, but you might lose it.
Polarize the women that actually want to meet (right back to 1).
It’s ok to take it slow if your week is already planned out with dates etc. and you know that you can’t meet her before next week anyways. In that case I‘m fine with just texting a few times during the weekend, giving it a bit of rest and text again starting Thu to set something up for the following week. There are a few good texting guides out there.
[–]mikasabestgirl1 10 points11 points12 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes a relationship I had ended via FB chat. Talking via messages is riskier than in person since you can't really show each other your emotions.
[–]Vaibhashi69 5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sorry to disagree with you. It all boils down to how good you are on chat. I've been fortunate enough to have most of my initial communication via text messages and almost all the time, the girl was very eager to meet in person. I don't want to brag, but once, a gal flew over from a different state, just to meet me, after a few weeks of chat.
I'm not saying that it came easy to me or I was born with golden fingers (pun intended). I developed my game over time and once I understood what clicked, there was no stopping.
[–]JohnnyLazer17 7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don’t necessarily agree. Some of my friends have great text game. They get a girls number and later on they get home and text flirt with her for hours and the next day if she wasn’t super into him before she is then. It’s a skill that admittedly I do not have at all but I wish I did.
[–]kaiser789 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
So this girl I am talking to lives in another city. And due to covid and lockdown restriction I might not go there for like atleast few months. How do I keep the energy alive?
[–]Impulsive666 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Tough situation. You should have dates lined up from your city anyways and just occasionally say hi to different city girl. Are you still locked down? Because where I live we’re pretty free again to do most things, so better make sure she’s not using that as an excuse to be entertained without intending to physically meet.
Anyways, if I were in your shoes I‘d pull away my attention to local prospects and say hi 1-2x per week. I’d do some jokes but mostly send pictures of cool stuff I‘m doing or if I saw something funny. Needless to say, but cut out all neediness and don’t get super personal. No „what’s your purpose in life“-questions over chat, just keep it short, funny and demonstrate that you have your shit together (without talking about it - that’s needy) and are living your life, which (unsaid) she has the choice to step into.
[–]kaiser789 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks dude. I am from Asia and it’s pretty worse here. Will try to chat with girls from my local town. We do intend to meet after I get my vaccine and travel back to that city. We do video chat mostly or talk on the phone every other day.
[–]Humble-Language1269 6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
Be brief but direct. Use the phone only to set a time and place to meet, not have conversations. I repeat, do not have conversations via texting.
[–]bububeti 5 years ago* [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
I heard it a lot. But how you do it without a preliminary conversation?
It falls into the category of frame and being congruent (make your intentions clear). Your goal is to get a face to face meeting. If you’re happy just texting it can be interpreted as neediness (read Models by Mark Manson if you haven’t already).
It’s fine to text a bit lighthearted back and forth for 1-2 days, but pretty much as soon as you feel she’s interested go over to something like „hey I think you’re interesting, let’s meet up for drinks / workout / climbing / whatever on Thu“.
[–]Global-Bridge-6787 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just tried this; worked like a charm!
[–]loofyd 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Can you please make a post about this ?
As a guide to newbies
I have trouble taking girls from dating apps to whatsapp - they're very uptight when it comes to asking for their numbers
Cheers
[–]Humble-Language1269 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Say "Hey, I'm a very busy guy, I'd love to take you out but I have no time to interact with pixels on a screen all day. When are you available next week?"
[–]Lov3sin2 points 5 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Hi,no reason to worry about transitioning from an app to getting her what's up. When with both apps you can accomplish the end goal which is to meet up . I personally like to keep the conversations on the app. Through txting feels more personal and unnecessary . Unless they ask for your number it's all good. Been proven
[–]kaiser789 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
[–]Humble-Language1269 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Say "hey, I don't give a flying fuck what dr fauci says, I wanna see you. If I get sick, then my flintstone vitamins, teddy grahams, and sprite will fix me just fine."
Haha guess I have to plan to go there.
[–]maplemario 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I think the collective wisdom here would be you just don’t. Move onto other girls and re engage her after.
[–]El_Marlin 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Provide value. Start with a joke and make engaging conversation that she might like. At first it might be dry, even boring, but thats OK. You're trying to slowly get her to buy in.
Remember, she has tons of guys texting her. Be different. Have her going from texting "yeah" "ok" "nice" to "oh that's so cool!" "Yeah I'm a big fan" and finally to "paragraph" or just call her lol.
[–]Impulsive666 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
That’s a sure way to end up as the „nice guy but didn’t connect“.
[–]El_Marlin 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I didn't say suck up to her. You provide value. Think: "I didn't like him that much at first, but like we kept talking and then I just started to fall for him"
This is only if you're actually really interested in this person.
[–]Ok_Influence_5342 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Right, I'm sick of this text game bullshit. It doesn't work and it is straight up simp behavior. No self-respecting man is going to try and escalate on a girl over text.
Do you want to be the type of man who gets to enjoy the rewarding feeling of boldly taking risks in the flesh where things are exciting, uncertain and fun or the type of man who takes his risks hiding behind a screen?
[–]Karoshi31 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
“The phone is only for setting appointments”-Corey Wayne
© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.created by /u/dream-hunter
[–]Impulsive666 24 points25 points26 points (6 children) | Copy Link
[–]mikasabestgirl1 10 points11 points12 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Vaibhashi69 5 points6 points7 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]JohnnyLazer17 7 points8 points9 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]kaiser789 1 point2 points3 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]Impulsive666 3 points4 points5 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]kaiser789 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Humble-Language1269 6 points7 points8 points (11 children) | Copy Link
[–]bububeti [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]Impulsive666 3 points4 points5 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]Global-Bridge-6787 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]loofyd 2 points3 points4 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]Humble-Language1269 2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Lov3sin2 points [recovered] | Copy Link
[–]kaiser789 0 points1 point2 points (3 children) | Copy Link
[–]Humble-Language1269 0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]kaiser789 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]maplemario 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]El_Marlin 3 points4 points5 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]Impulsive666 0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]El_Marlin 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Ok_Influence_5342 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Karoshi31 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link