How do you transition from general chit chat to expressing your interest and building attraction?

deceptek0n · 2015-08-05T05:27:03+00:00

What works for me is just being open, honest, casual, and comfortable.

If I think she looks good in that dress, I'm going to say it, and I don't make a big deal out of it. I don't look for a reaction or try to build on it, I just put that out there mid conversation (when the timing is right, of course.) "You know for whatever its worth, you look gorgeous in that dress." bam. simple. done. Conversation moves on and now she knows that I am attracted to her. Maybe if I make her laugh and can see shes visibly comfortable I'll introduce some touch, talk a little closer, and casually compliment her again until we see where the night goes?

i think a big part of it is just... confidence. When I compliment a woman, I'm not doing it for her sake, really. I'm doing it for me. I dont need her to compliment me back or to get red in the cheeks and twist her hair or something. I just want her to know that I think she looks cute. simple as that. just keep strong eye contact, talk with passion, and dont stress about anything but being fun to be around. I find that the rest comes quite naturally after that

FlyinBryan3 · 2015-08-04T23:15:53+00:00

Check out this article. The concept behind this is honesty. Funny story actually, when I was in Venice beach, I went up to this gorgeous fit redhead and opened with, "Hey I just saw you and I love redheads, I have to talk to you, who are you?" She told me her name. "Wow, youre so pretty, I dont know what to say" I just sat there in silence She began to talk to me chat chat chat I got her number The point to this is, being brutally honest is very attractive.

https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/3fs4uu/nice_guys_are_assholes_mindset_of_direct_game/?ref=share&ref_source=link

pickupchange · 2015-08-05T16:08:08+00:00

The secret is to flirt from the beginning, as soon as you can start. The girl should know from the beginning "this guys is flirting with me"! There should be no doubts about that! The worst mistake that you can do is to cover your intention and give her the impression that you're there just for a chat. Naturals never hide their intentions. They are completely clear for the beginning and that's why they have all this success.

Le_Model88 · 2015-08-05T07:57:33+00:00

Thanks for the food for thought, gents. I'll keep this in mind when I'm talking to the next person I meet. I'm trying to get in the habit of dropping sincere compliments to everyone when something catches my eye, whether they're a friend, family member or stranger.

philosarapter · 2015-08-05T17:49:03+00:00

I find it easy enough to just notice something about them. "I've just noticed you have the most adorable dimples." or "You have such gorgeous eyes, has anyone ever told you that?" or "I love your accent, its so sexy." or really any genuine complement that is thoughtful and original.

pacg · 2015-08-05T19:19:30+00:00

By disposition I was never comfortable being touchy-feely with anyone except my girlfriend. Over time I gradually experimented with different kinds of physical contact: double handed handshake, pat on the back, touching a girl's arm when sharing during an intimate conversation, offering my arm while walking, hand on the lower back or elbow when directing a girl through a doorway or hallway, etc.

Basically I practiced various forms of physical contact often pairing them with things like the arc of a conversation. As I'm sure some have already noted, small escalations of physical contact transition an interaction from mere friendly conversation into something more intimate.

Spacedust_ · 2015-08-04T23:02:12+00:00

I gotta tell your post is little bit confusing in terms of "interest" and "attraction" or I got confused because English is my second language. You dont express your attraction, you express your interest....

So are you asking building attraction or expressing your interest to women you meet.

Building attraction is the whole game; challenging them, push-pull, calling them out when they tell something bs, being dominant, being someone they can learn something with, being less judge-mental, having a commanding voice, being social and preselection, list goes on and on....

Expressing your interest is simple; just be direct, tell them what you like about them without a needy way, like you are talking to one of your male friends, and dont wait for a reaction because you dont invest in her opinion of yours. Make sure you look them in the eye when you are speaking. Also as a leader you need to touch them without hesitating , hesitation and being too nice will turn them off. I am not saying act like a cave man but dont hesitate putting your arm around their waist or shoulders when they seem interested in you.

newtrowaway53 · 2015-08-04T23:06:54+00:00

Eye contact

Title	How do you transition from general chit chat to expressing your interest and building attraction?
Author	Le_Model88
Upvotes	40
Comments	19
Date	August 4, 2015 10:37 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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