How does Reddit feel about hooking up with ex-girlfriends?

ThrowawayPUA · 2013-02-08T19:16:15+00:00

Try to remember why she is your ex.

Every woman comes with a cost you must pay. The time you are spending in a relationship that will go nowhere is time you cannot spend in pursuit of a good relationship. That is called "opportunity cost."

2013-02-09T00:19:37+00:00

Don't press rewind in your life.

User_0 · 2013-02-08T20:29:35+00:00

I haven't hooked up with an ex very much, but each time it was amazing. Nobody had even touched her in a long time so when I hugged her it was game on.

It can result in some disasters too. She's your ex for a reason. That reason may not apply anymore or it might.

Just be careful. It's easy to get your feelings wrapped back up in that relationship instead of focusing on others.

time_and_again · 2013-02-09T02:20:52+00:00

This is a timely post for me because I recently had an ex get back in touch after 5 years of no real contact. I think you have to be careful about what her motives are and what your goals are.

If she's single and your breakup wasn't bad, it's probably okay. Just use what you've learned here and maintain a calm, confident leadership role in the relationship. Better yet, don't even consider yourselves exclusive until she proves herself.

If It was a bad breakup or she's involved with another dude, it's likely not worth it. You'll learn more by pursuing new women. She's likely a comfortable and safe choice, backed by past emotions, but it's not worth orbiting around her to convince her everything's changed.

I think whatever you choose, you have to stay outcome independent. Know that she's not your only choice and if things go south again, you have what it takes to meet someone new.

nycprowl · 2013-02-09T03:11:14+00:00

Pretty terribly.

MatchPUA · 2013-02-09T05:03:27+00:00

If it didn't work the first time, it's not going to work a second time.

IBeLikeYoWhatUp · 2013-02-08T19:13:20+00:00

Hook up with exes as much as possible. It's good fucking sex

caesarfecit · 2013-02-08T18:24:48+00:00

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oreopimp · 2013-02-09T01:48:45+00:00

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DrunkAtTheWedding · 2013-02-09T10:53:33+00:00

Just as long as you don't catch oneitis, hook up with them all you want!

DrunkAtTheWedding · 2013-02-09T10:55:27+00:00

But Serious Bro. Oneitis Will Kill You...

Methaxetamine · 2013-02-08T18:24:10+00:00

Good. It's still gaming in a way. In a relationship, if you stop gaming them, they don like you anymore.

Plus you are more likely to have sex and have good sex since you know what they like and vice versa.

Title	How does Reddit feel about hooking up with ex-girlfriends?
Author	scales484
Upvotes	5
Comments	15
Date	February 8, 2013 5:41 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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