How far into the conversation do you stop talking when she's not reciprocating?

Umbran_scale · 2020-02-15T14:57:20+00:00

3 one word answers in a row and I'm out.

salemslots · 2020-02-15T14:19:53+00:00

The advice you'll likely get is that you should have been making cold reads/assumptions/statements instead of asking questions, but i've found that to be completely irrelevant and no better than just asking questions. However, try them for yourself and report back. I think you'll discover the same thing as me

Girls who are interested in you tend to make it obvious almost instantly in my experience, and as JulienRSD said, questions are fine. He pretty much just asks name, age, where they're from etc etc after opening in the vast majority of his sets. (In fact, Bobby Rio PUA also said something about how the 'Don't asking questions' thing that PUA's try to push tends to just make interactions even more awkward/make you look odd lol)

The girls in your OP would have asked you something back after you saying 4 things if they were interested, so yeah, at that point, you're probably flogging a dead horse (you don't want to be like Todd V in that viral clip lol).

Go out with a really good looking friend (if you have any) to confirm this. When I watch my handsome friend say 'hi' too a girl and ask her what she's up too, she gives long ass answers, and always flips the question back on him. She tries hard and there's never a danger of 'running out of things to say' since she's so engaged. It's about her attraction level. Not your 'technique'

So yeah, you stop talking and eject once it's clear she's not interested, which is usually obvious within 5-30 seconds or so

dranthah · 2020-02-15T15:08:25+00:00

Idk if this will help, try to take your time and say nothing .. see if she will react .

Edit: this always works for me. I have noticed if am not to much imposing they try to be socially cool. Still doesn’t mean a thing but it’s an opportunity

pureresilience11 · 2020-02-15T15:58:02+00:00

Ask open ended questions. Plow for a bit as you were doing. If still nothing then move on

omega_kush · 2020-02-15T16:42:50+00:00

It sounds like you are starting with the wrong questions...use open ended ones, or ones that take her by surprise that no one asks with a little humor added in. Starting with a little humor opens them up quicker.

You dont want to sound like you are interviewing her, or ask questions every guy asks at first.

Matilozano96 · 2020-02-15T16:53:58+00:00

All your examples are pretty much yes/no questions. There wasn’t any interest on their part, sure. But you weren’t inviting them to talk about themselves, either.

Ask them why did they choose their specialization. How’s their country like?

Anything that requires an elaborate answer is better than a yes/no question.

smgtn · 2020-02-15T22:48:47+00:00

In daygame I don't have that problem, because in most cases conversation doesn't even start, so there's nothing to stop 😆

Not_a_robot771 · 2020-02-15T17:35:37+00:00

Don’t be afraid of awkward silences!

I don’t remember which book I read this in. But it’s made a huge difference in my dating life.

I used to always be the guy trying to fill silences and trying to lead conversations. Not only do you look very needy, it’s also a bad way to have a conversation.

Another point would be to change your questions. You’re maybe asking interview style questions, too formal. So instead of asking, “where do you like to go skiing”. Ask “what’s your favourite ski resort” and then “why?”. It will show more interest.

Last night I was on a date with Miss -my city-. During the conversation when things went silent I wouldn’t say anything and just wait for her to fill it. Most women also hate silences and will fill it themselves if you wait long enough:).

pablodiablo906 · 2020-02-15T19:21:25+00:00

If I get a few one word answers generally I’d toss the Hail Mary pass of 1-10 how would you like to sit on my face? It la both a fuck off and occasionally a win. So you know not bad odds for getting an acceptable response, to you.

2020-02-15T23:53:30+00:00

I’d recommend asking more open ended questions. It’s harder to give a one word response to something like “how are you finding University?” Or “what is it like in (insert country name)?” That being said, conversation takes two people. You can’t carry a dying conversation by yourself.

caesarfecit · 2020-02-16T02:44:14+00:00

This is an issue where polarization comes in pretty handy. If she's uncommunicative from the start, she either needs to be polarized or she's not interested. If things started off well then they trailed off, then she definitely needs it.

Basically a flirtation or move that forces an up or out decision on her part. It also has the side benefit of testing her interest level conclusively. If she doesn't respond to being polarized well, she either wasn't interested or wasn't your type. And if she does, then that's both progress and valuable information.

The secret to dealing with girls holding back over texts is to put yourself out there, and let her show you where she's at. You don't have to propose marriage or send her a dick pic, but you have to put yourself out there far enough that if she doesn't respond, a reasonable person would assume you won't. And if you do continue after that, you're either being stupid, chumpy, or creepy.

In order to hold on to your balls with women, you have to be prepared to walk away and let her go if she doesn't play ball. Otherwise she'll eventually get wise to that fact, and then you're in for pain.

fenlx1906 · 2020-02-15T15:40:43+00:00

You are making boring questions. Noticed what she is wearing or how she looks and make a coment about that or if you don't see anything to talk about just say you think she was cute, and you want to approach her. Example: the other day I start with a girl saying she was cute, and then I saw the she didn't had a shoe, and asked her if she was not with cold, and then she said that she made a tattoo 2 or 3 days ago, that's why she didn't have her shoe (btw she was sitting drinking beer, close to the river, perfect scenario). And then I had a topic

dbake9 · 2020-02-15T16:09:59+00:00

Ask fewer questions make more statements.

Title	How far into the conversation do you stop talking when she's not reciprocating?
Author	yahboy1998
Upvotes	20
Comments	19
Date	February 15, 2020 2:08 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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