We know behavior is attractive. Most of who have had "success" in the past, have been succesful when we were in the present moment and didn't care that much about the outcome. But this creates kind of a conundrum. Is it possible to not care at all ? We all want intimacy, it's ingrained in us. We all want to ace that job interview. We all try to make ourselves presentable when we leave our house. Also : not giving a fuck probably doesn't matter if you don't have a certain threshold of desirablity. A young, beautiful woman won't care about whether a 5'3 short, old man doesn't give a fuck or has abundance mentality. He still won't get her.

On the example of hair loss : My hair line is receiding. I've found a way to reduce the hair loss without side effects. But the commitment is a pain in the ass. I genuinely wouldn't care if I didn't know that it reduced my visibility greatly. I only care about my looks because of the benefits. But it goes against the idea of impermance and letting go. I just don't want to care about it all but the fear is there that it makes me more unattractive.

By not caring about the hair loss, my subconsious may adapt the belief that I'm not dependant on anything external for my self-esteem ( which is good). By holding on to my hair, it adapts the belief that I am dependant on external factors (which isn't good) but I would gain tons of objective attractiveness and dating prospects.

Not giving a fuck vs objective markers of attractiveness

See what I'm saying ? Would love to hear your ideas on this one.