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CMVMq200/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 12:57 AM
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Sure :p
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 11:37 AM
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How do people always manage to reframe things in such an insane manner
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 01:43 AM
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Deep down, I'm a sensitive man who wants love. But I'll never tell my girl that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 12:42 AM
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I know but having kids in your 50's is kind of cringe in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 11:43 PM
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When would you say its too late to settle down and start a family ? Honestly, I think it's 35 for women and 38 for men. Meaning, a woman should be partnered by 34 and a man by by 37 or else it's not going to happen imo
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 11:16 PM
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They do - if you are desirable in other ways too
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 11:08 PM
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My dating results improved when I became more masculine (less neuroticism, action-oriented, more reliable, more competent, just do it mindset, stronger), they never improved when I became "prettier".
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 09:45 PM
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The problem is that friends become less of a thing in your 30's and up as almost everybody settles down and retreats into their own little space, i.e. family creation. So, the best way to have a social life seems to do the same thing. They think in terms of how useful a person is to them and like that person is optional This isn't just men, it's everybody. People befriend people when it makes sense to befriend them contextually. If someone believes they're not getting anything out of the relatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 02:59 PM
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Because there's no poetry in ideal scenarios
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 12:56 AM
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"I never loved my brothers. It's a sad thing to admit but it's true. You were the brother I chose" Good lord, is there a better compliment than that somebody could give you
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 12:35 AM
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The key to getting something seems to be not want it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 12:23 AM
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finally someone understands
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 12:22 AM
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I think the more effort you put in, the less likely you are to find them though
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 11:26 PM
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But I feel like it's true
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 11:09 PM
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Who here thinks that you will meet your significant other when you least expect it ?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 10:46 PM
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I do feel like the supposed optionality we have today is a massive illusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 10:44 PM
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I think most people marry their dream person. That is almost certainly not the case. Why spend more time with someone you don't like?? Makes zero sense. It's not about not liking them
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 10:40 PM
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lmaoo
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 09:57 PM
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I sat down with my mom and we had a bit of a generational dating talk. We analyzed her friends and my friends and everybody else and we came to the conclusion that most people do not end up marrying the person they want lol. Or at least not their dream person. Friends talk about this openly to each other. For example my moms friends admitted to her they kind of wished they bagged somebody else. And I don't think this is tragic by the way. It's normal. Either that or end up alone forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 09:55 PM
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No I mean they will not make much of a difference. Strength training and diet belong to the same thing. Skin care is kope, it's about sleep. Social skills are obligatory, you don't get brownie points for that
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 09:42 PM
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If you're the less powerful player in a game, you'll have to shut the fuck up and keep your head down. Play the game. Because you're not going to win by attacking boldly. In Game of Thrones, king Robert Baratheon despite being a legendary warrior known for his strength and what not, asks his best friend Ned to go easy on Tywin Lannister because the guy shits gold and he needs him to keep things running. I've been in situations where I thought my opinion mattered just to realize nobody gives a fu…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 09:37 PM
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meh..
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 09:30 PM
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Not much you can do tbh aside from strength training.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 09:27 PM
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But they still enter relationships with theen. Most men don't have their pick of the litter. They get what they'e able to get, not what they want
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 09:25 PM
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Not really..you can't drastically alter your desirability, usually
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 09:15 PM
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Most men can get into relationships. It's just not with the women they want. There's a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 09:06 PM
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Good point tbh. I would say though that parents shouldn't put unnecessary stress on the kids either,as in use their power to torment them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 09:06 PM
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She's not but she's got twinkle in her eyes which is hot and seductive
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 03:25 AM
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Thoughts on Mamdani's wife ? There's something about her.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 01:11 AM
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Art hoes will go for musicians, cheerleaders for athletes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 12:20 AM
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Mark is r.pilled. He just knows that you can't be as blunt if you want to be mainstream so he repackages ideas in a more softer and acceptable way. He did precisely this in his book 'Models' which is a good book but none of it is new.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 10:16 PM
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Would you say it's awkward or acceptable to go there if one is one's 30's ?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 10:14 PM
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Did she ?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 10:04 PM
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Agreed.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 06:57 PM
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Unlikely. He's a relatively unattractive comedian, he can get a gold digger. Jason Momoa can get a baddie without the fame.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 06:35 PM
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Comedian couple Tom Segura and Christina P from the YMH's podcast are getting divorced after 18 years of marriage. People are (jokingly?) saying that now that Tom has lost some weight, he think he's hot shit and can get someone better. Jason Momoa recently got a divorce too and got himself a new baddie. I think this Tom guy is about to find out very soon that he's not Jason Momoa.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 06:27 PM
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Social media has really convinced us that we are connected with other people to the point that it can lead you to having parasocial relationships with people who don't even know of your existence. It has also made people believe that everybody can just open up an online business when in reality 99 percent people won't do that. Very strange. Best to just nuke it all imo
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 10:59 PM
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Wow, I did not know that
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 08:56 PM
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I prefer "Sire" with an -e- at the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 08:36 PM
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It's kind of like when someone tells you they're self-made and then you find out they had huge trust fund (which applies to most "self-made" people)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 08:31 PM
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so what are you doing these days ?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 08:29 PM
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You will though by training reguarly ?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 06:05 PM
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I don't understand why they dress like that. I guess money doesn't buy style ?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 04:36 PM
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Happens more in sitcoms than in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 04:34 PM
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If you want a woman with a nice body, you have to have a nice body yourself. Meaning you have to go to the gym regularly. Either that or your face is nicer than hers so she still accepts you as her superior despite not having not the aesthetic body. Those are the two options you have. Either that or drop your standards which works too of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 04:27 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:38 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 09:03 PM
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Outcome independence seems to be key for everything in life. Just start doing and shit and don't worry too much about the result. Anything else is a recipe for neuroticism and unhappiness
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 11:44 PM
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I agree with this tbh. You have to live in the present.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 10:47 PM
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Hmm, I disagree with this. A lot of people I know who were romantically succesful in high school have really bad relationship these days and others seem to thrive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 10:46 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 10:23 PM
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A 35 year old and a 70 year old definitely have or have had the same dating experience /s
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 09:00 PM
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Health is the most important aspectof SMV. Without it, there is no lms. Actually, it should be HMS - Health, money, status.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 09:10 PM
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n
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 04:44 PM
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Quentin Tarantino in real life acts like one of his movie characters Lmfaoo https://youtube.com/watch?v=BxYHxJahzmU
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 02:06 AM
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that's me at least 6 days of the week
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 12:46 AM
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It is what is. You got an alternative ?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 11:07 PM
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Most of us will be wage slaves until the day we die lmao. It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 09:59 PM
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I think it's excellent advice. Everytime I've intentionally focused on getting dates, nothing ever came out of it. Everytime, I focused on other stuff, either a friendship or a mate appeared.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 09:56 PM
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In hindsight, Batman was and is the best superhero. Fuck those other aliens. Batman was a real person on a mission with vulnerabilities and an interesting background. Goated. "You are not brave. Men are brave".
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 10:21 PM
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That's the nature of the reddit husband. Every reddit husband is superman incarnate
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 08:27 PM
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They virtue-signal because they need to. It's their only form of currency.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 07:47 PM
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That's what you want to believe. nonchalance breeds anxiety and who tf wants that Women do. Competition anxiety urges women to become more loving as research suggests.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 07:29 PM
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People will downvote me but this was the case for every single long-lasting relationship I've seen. Women will stick to and with these man whereas they will remove themselves from clingy men without a purpose.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 07:24 PM
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Fact: Women hate romantic men. There is nothing worse than a romantic man. It shows that his soul is corrupt. A woman should always be wondering, at least a little bit. Why is he not romantic like that ? Is it because I'm not good enough ? Or is it simply his nature ? And why do I love him so much nonetheless ? Sometimes I feel like I don't even know him.. I wish I could read his mind. A woman cannot love a man until he loves something more than her. His mission in life - to leave a dent in the …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 07:13 PM
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And now think of how much progress we could make as a species if women were as loyal as dogs..
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 05:24 PM
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Obedience is one of the sexiest traits a woman can have. A good woman is an obiedent woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 05:18 PM
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Al Bundy is the archetype to strive for. You should be annoyed by your wife wanting to have sex with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 12:17 AM
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I mean it though when I say that the woman should be unstinting in her praise. Shower him with affection and attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 09:17 PM
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Love is what they gain.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 08:59 PM
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Women should triple-text. If he doesn't react initially, text him again. And again. And again. And again. With smiley faces. Make an effort. Win him over. If she's not triple-texting, I don't want her.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 08:47 PM
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Baristas are very promiscuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 08:45 PM
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I've seen people complain about dads who weren't there because they worked too much and I've also seen people complain about dads who weren't able to provide much financially whom they considered kind of pathetic because of that. Dads can't seem to catch a break.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 04:40 PM
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Completely agree. I think italian 'culture' is overrated in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:32 AM
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There's something so unattractive about someone saying they want a serious long-term relationship even you yourself want one. It just sounds so formal. It sounds even worse when they're like 'I'm done playing games'
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:31 AM
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People be obsessed with doggy. I on the other hand, I see myself as a premium horse of the best kind, waiting to be ridden. She has to put in the work. Plus, if she has a great body, her on top is a so based.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:30 PM
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Here's a controversial take and this will get me in some hot waters but missionary, when done right, is the best position. Woman on top is also based. The rest is way too much work. I don't understand the love for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:18 PM
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You think wanting to get a bj by a sexy slut is linked to not being loved your grandma ?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 07:52 PM
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If she's not naturally into doggy, requesting it herself, that's already a red flag. She should be begging for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 07:49 PM
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Come again ?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 07:33 PM
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Would you say that Yugoslavia is proof that multi-culturalism doesn't work or do you think that this is an incomplete historical assessment ?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 07:32 PM
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Fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 07:30 PM
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My love language is getting my dick sucked. What's yours ?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 07:16 PM
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If you can get a better deal without repercussions, you'll often do it. It's a dark part of human nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 06:15 PM
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I agree on the validation part. It's also why I say that men need to have a mission even if they have a family of their own. If you have nothing to do, at some point, your own kids will start getting annoyed by you. “please tell me I’m pretty” and as a man you do *not* need to emanate that second category I've definitely done this before in the past. Very cringe.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 06:08 PM
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Yes, I would say especially as you get older. Women 25+ (even before that) are strongly attracted to competence and physical strength is a form of competence, physical competence in this case. It's biological essentially. Attractiveness=good hunting abilities. A man with a pretty face but no skills is a bad hunter. I also believe that there should come a point in our lives where we do things because we want to challenge ourselves, not in order to please women, in this going to the gym. And I do …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 01:59 PM
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I got this sudden to urge to renounce my riches and make the world a better place, to leave a legacy. Not that I have any riches but you get the idea. Sometimes, you have those existential moments where you ask yourself 'what is it all for?"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 10:39 PM
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Let's be honest, "game" has never gotton anybody women. What it did and what it does is prevent men from fucking up. Basically, "game" refers to basic social skills which are indeed very necessary but it doesn't turn an uninterested prospect into an interested one.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 10:35 PM
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Yup, it's all about market value.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:22 PM
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The bigger the daddy issues, the better her skills. And you know what skillz I'm talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 12:16 AM
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Well, you'd be surprised how many guys with options, non-single ones too, will talk like this. So no need to feel sorry, nobody cares
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 08:58 AM
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Beckys sometimes have extreme high standards and the mechanism behind it is gene correction. By opting for a very attractive man, they hope that their own lack of attractiveness balances out by mixing with an attractive man, thereby resulting into a semi-acceptable off-spring. It's an interesting mating strategy, I must say.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 03:48 AM
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Having the right shoes (right size, heel drop and wide toe box) will make a huge difference in your quality of life. If you find the right ones for you, you can kiss your back pain goodbye.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 06:32 PM
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They all are preoccupied with their relationships. I feel like most friends disappear if they get into LTR's
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 01:52 AM
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Life is pretty lonely if you're single tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 01:32 AM
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I really hope this will be the case for me. I don't vibe as well with my friends from high school anymore and my 20's weren't as fruitful when it comes to friendships.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 02:50 AM
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You know what's kind of interesting... even the people who say they don't care about looks still know what 'good-looking' means.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 01:33 AM
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Bro, this is so true. I still have a hard time accepting this. But also people keep telling me how they have all these great great friends and brotherhood who would move mountains for eacher
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 12:54 AM
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So, you are actually don't know
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 12:14 AM
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Would they give you money ?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 12:03 AM
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I actually believe, you only have 1 real from childhood and 1 from college - making it 2. Over the rest of your life, another one might join the party, making it 3. That's it. You have 1-3 friends in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 11:28 PM
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So, why ask for help if the help is not delivered then
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 11:21 PM
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A lot of dating and 'compatibility' is just.. nervous system matching.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 11:00 PM
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but why do people then say that it's okay to ask for help. "Talking it out" isn't of much help to me. It's about resources.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 10:39 PM
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You or we, everybody needs to understand that most people don't really care that much about you. Nobody can go to the gym for you, take care of your health for you, take that exam for you, make money for you. Nobody actually cares that much about you, that's why you need to care about yourself. For a long time, this view has depressed me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 10:18 PM
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I don't give a f what feminists think about cold approaching. I just don't think it's as effective. Like..do you know someone who got in a relationship over it ? I personally don't. It's usually via friends, shared interests or just coincidences.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 01:44 AM
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I don't give a fuck about A.I. Only autists are obsessed with it
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 12:36 AM
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Life is a solo project. You might be under the illusion that you're not alone but you are. Friends even old friends will leave you if they see fit.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 12:46 AM
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I try to solve this problem by combining it with joggers so it'll come off as an casual athletic look My justification comes into play with “I didn’t build a physique and continue to working at it so I can keep it a secret” z The best state to be in is still if you're so jacked that it shows even in a t shirt. Not an easy state to achieve though, I'm trying to get there
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 03:32 AM
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Interesting. I've always felt a bit of cringe wearing cut off-shirts and tank tops, at least in combination with jeans. Like I was trying to show-off.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 02:40 AM
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in men ?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 02:24 AM
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Fully agree. whats your fav color
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 01:21 AM
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Can we talk about how boring "black" is as a shoe color. I get it, it goes everything but it's pretty boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 12:19 AM
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Yeah and it seems to me like whatever path you'll choose, you will experience regret. I do think however and I'm increasingly coming to this conclusion that following your passion will lead to less regret. Doors might also open up, as in you will meet people (friends, maybe even a future spouse) you might not meet otherwise. Also, if you don't do what you're interested in, you're at bigger risk to not finish whatever you started.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 12:05 AM
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Well yes but the problem is what if you end up broke doing that. The only problem is that chasing material comfort only is spiritually devoid of meaning and it can lead to other problems too, like dropping out of whatever you're doing because you're simply not interested in it so you stop giving a fuck so it's tricky
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 11:55 PM
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I used to think following your passion is bad advice but maybe it's not as bad after all.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 11:41 PM
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My honest opinion on dating apps is, even if you do well on them, it is a sign that you're not being social enough. It's just the truth. Life is full of opportunities (coffe shops, libraries, gym etc) which suggests that if you resort to dating apps, you're simply not being social enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 11:40 PM
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Idk,I feel the guys who have options and are aware of it end it instantly
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 11:38 PM
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Rarely. They might be more competent in how to deal with kids or the household or family matters but oustide of that no. I get what you're saying but money matters and generally speaking I don't see women with men who are overall, all factors combined less competent the men they are with with it working out in the long run
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 09:57 PM
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It's not common at all. It's common in sitcoms which aren't reflective in reality. Research shows that women still tend to marry up educationally and especially socio-economically.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 09:53 PM
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What about how the third servile war though. That shit was badass as fuck
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 07:57 PM
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Definitely not true since women mate up when it comes to over all competence, especially long-term. Women are repelled by men dumber than themselves. Some men (the engineer types imo) usually come to this conclusion because they don't perceive let's say.. the verbally fluent guy with a master's in communications who is good with women as intelligent (he is). They then conclude that women don't like intelligent men. It's obviously not enough. You have to be her type too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 07:41 PM
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The funny thing is it's not that 'society' or men who are against this as often propagated. It's women who are against this lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 07:34 PM
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awful women in relationships with decent men I've never seen this
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 06:54 PM
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There's a reason why single women are single. If it's not their standards that are too high, it's because they're annoying or they identify as "strong women". They usually have that abrasive and annoying tone in their voice too. Men tend to avoid that like the plague.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 06:18 PM
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For me this has always resulted in poor results.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 10:15 PM
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The 20th century kind of showed us that it was never about love. The ability to freely divorce has shown that it was never about love, it was always about trying to get the best deal you can get. And if you believe (usually women, not always but usually) that breaking up that unit makes sense because you can still get something better (a better life or a better spouse) based on your own calculated market value and without severe consequenses - then that's exactly what you will do. Man, it sucks …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 10:10 PM
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What I'm saying is everytime I cared a lot, things didn't work out. When I let go, things began falling into place.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 08:59 PM
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Real talk, when I was at my most succesful with women, it was never when I looked my best. It was always when I cared the least - and had other shit going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 07:18 PM
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A classic for sure. One of my favorite headlines of the last few years is "20 years ago, Tom Cruise jumped on a couch" lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 05:31 AM
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I don't think there will be another movie star like Tom Cruise, certainly not soon. The guy may be crazy but you couldn't make a better movie star if you wanted to. Extremely dedicated and passionate. Most of actors today are too soft.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 09:31 PM
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Pointless practice.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 04:54 AM
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Plus, kings are fucking cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 03:21 AM
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Men of culture, would you date a woman who doesn't suck dick ? Dealbreaker or not ?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 02:05 AM
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So here's a hot take: Monarchy is a better form of government than what we have now. You You can't trust an elected ruler to have the long-term best interest of the nation at their heart. He has to be raised to be his nation's leader. An elected leader sees it as a job. A king sees it as his life duty. People are starting to realize that modernity is a farce. We have been duped.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 01:49 AM
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A lot of them are trying to deny it these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 10:55 PM
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Have you noticed how angry atheists get when you tell them that Jesus existed. I don't know but why this seems to provoke unparalleled anger in them. They'll usually start coping with saying shit like "We don't have ultimate proof!" Get the fuck over it, the guy existed and changed the world - even if the theological narrative about him is made up.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 10:51 PM
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The whole idea of how men are insecure dating women who make more money than them is so cringe. Most men don't give a fuck, it's the women who care.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 09:30 PM
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It's interesting what Will Smith was tall, decent-looking and status-maxxed but he still had a shit relationship/marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 05:49 PM
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For the same reason, any writer does that : To get it out of their system
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 01:39 AM
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The reason why men are hesitant to get married is because the social contract has been broken. They'd be lining up for marriage if they felt like they gained a loyal spouse and divorce court wouldn't destroy them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 12:27 AM
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Describe your experience for us. I completely agree with you by the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 12:11 AM
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Q: How would you feel if people found you reddit account or your phone/laptop and logged in and all your vulnerable thoughts got exposed to the world ? Would it bother or would you not give a fuck ?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 12:09 AM
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I think having standards is fine. A woman wanting a man who is approximately her height is not a crazy standard. A crazy one would be to only be dating guys who are much taller. Not wanting to date a fat woman isn't a crazy standard either for example
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 12:08 AM
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interesting perspective, thank you. I feel like we would be all better off switching from a fun-seeking way of life to a life of meaning and service
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 02:35 AM
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so, it erradicated your hedonistic tendencies ? feels much more obvious that I do not understand the perspective of others and cannot assume theirs to be similar to my own. making presumptions about other people says more about my own experience than theirs. Would you say that therefore people are fully responsible for whatever situation they find themselves in ?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 02:26 AM
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I was asking you a question cause I was curious. I'm actually interested in the topic
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 02:17 AM
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It's just something I noticed in people. Not much seems to change for them after that. "It is a stark reminder that my world is heavily based on my perception of it, and that reality can be very different from the way I'm perceiving it." can you make an example ?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 02:13 AM
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Ego-deaths, induced by psychedelics never or rarely remove the biological reality of your life. There is no way to escape regular life besides living in a monestary.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 02:09 AM
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Work is not to be enjoyed. It is to be endured.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 12:19 AM
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I think yes since even non-volunteering women work there, like educators, psychologists and social workers. A lot of them are good women too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 12:19 AM
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Looking good is one thing but it's not enough for be a high quality wahman
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 02:25 AM
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Her hypergamy would be fulifilled in that case. It's still the same thing. Generally speaking, pretty women don't date straight up fat guys though, I would say that's correct
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 01:34 AM
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Many of them don't at all since they see no point in it. They are also desirable enough to quickly secure LTR-commitment from a desirable man
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 01:22 AM
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Very desirable women don't engage in casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 01:01 AM
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betas gonna beta
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 11:29 PM
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Sure https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11790284/
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 11:24 PM
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And coincidentally enough, you always 'love' somebody who is a better than you in several areas whereas men don't which is all backed by research too. Hmmm, what a coincidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 11:19 PM
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No, that's 'womanese', i.e. the inability to speak straight - which is why spheres like this were created. A long-term LTR that is satisfying for the woman is always one where the woman perceives the man to at least be slightly better than her. There's also usually an underlying understanding in both that this is the case. That is healthy. You not wanting to acknowledge that because of your ego is an example for womanese.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 11:11 PM
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You think of them as better than you if they're actually better than you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:39 PM
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I'm telling you what most people do. People want to be in relationships and you can't just magically increase your desirability to a significant extent. And you could be perfectly healthy, it wouldn't change your need to be in a relationship. People crave social and romantic opportunity, irrespective of how healed they or not. Therapy won't change that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:37 PM
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The upside is that you don't end up single for your whole life. Only a very small minority of men can afford to not lower their standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:11 PM
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Women need to stop with the nose rings. It's looks and is ridiculous honestly. Get over your daddy issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:04 PM
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But that's not punching above his weight. If the guy is significantly better than her in one or several areas that are important to her, her "hypergamy" (to use this cringe word) is satisfied. Which means she gets with him because she perceives him as better than her
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 08:28 PM
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When a woman is really into you, it's always because she perceives you as better than her. It's actually incredible how reliable this is as a predictor.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 07:21 PM
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https://external-preview.redd.it/V-YBUl7xAXwYpkI4ZiJVeFarm9ZQ6rySUmw-k8FLAhU.jpg?width=1080&crop=smart&auto=webp&s=1086d5308afd34f26d039284ac7a0fcfaf226e80 People will pull shit like this and then wonder why they're alone lmao. Let's be honest, we've all done this shit before.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 10:26 PM
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but the interaction has often went on after I kissed her on the 2nd date for example
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:09 AM
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Hmmm. Whenever I didn't kiss at the first date, they were texting me first after the first one, requesting a second. Whenever I kissed on the first date, it didn't lead to much
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 12:18 AM
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Whenever I got laid, I wasn't intending to. I had other stuff to do which I liked to do. Whenever I was obsessed with getting laid, things simply wouldn't fall into place. I l looked the same too. Weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 11:58 PM
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I just learned that the brands Puma and Adidas were created by two actual biological brothers who had a huge fall-out (apparently for political or personal reasons) and they feuded and competed until the very bitter end of their lives with their respective companies becoming symbolic for the feud as well. Did any of you guys know this ? Jesus Christ, talking about sibling rivalry. There really is noone that can rile you up more than family.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 02:25 AM
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why are you so keen on this ?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 11:38 PM
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dude, a woman who's attracted to you is fine with going on a walk without anybody having to pay for anything at all
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 11:24 PM
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Nah, I think there's often reasons, sometimes they're logistical reasons or otherwise
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 11:23 PM
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then its on to the next one
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 11:03 PM
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Thoughts on texting a date years later (3 or 4 years later) you had a good first date with and both of y'all wanted to see each other again but it's unclear as to why that didn't happen ? Would it be awkward or strange to hit them up ?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 10:53 PM
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The truth is that if she's into she does not give a fuck if you pay or not. If you have to jump through silly hoops like that - it's already over
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 10:45 PM
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My honest take on this is that most things are overrated. I don't really give much of a shit about exotic food, I care about the quality of my relationships. I think people are a bit more social in places like south-eastern europe like Greece for example. But western or northern europeans on the other hand are far more autistic than americans
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 10:40 PM
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You inspire cause you're older than me (with kids even I believe) and you still see the value in socializing. And here I am, in my 30's sometimes believing its too late to establish long-lasting ltr's.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 10:37 PM
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And let's be honest, it's pure strategy. If you want to have kids, you can drop off a bit earlier since your family will be your social circle by then. If not, you need people to feel sane. And even if you have kids.. the whole saying "it takes a village to raise a kid" doesn't come from nowhere. You always need people.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 12:18 AM
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Imo, between 18-40, you should socialize as much as possible. Use every single minute because whatever you want to achieve, you can't do it without other people. It's people who open doors. Also obviously, if you want a romantic partner, you need to socialize too. And by socializing I don't really mean "partying". Agree/disagree ?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 11:56 PM
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Mastering something is more satisfying to me than just chilling at the beach
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 07:25 PM
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There is no such thing as 'legendary models' though. It's not really a reputable profession. Acting is a bit more respected on the other hand
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 10:18 PM
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For me it's a bit the opposite. I wish I would have spent less time with friends and more time on my professional path
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 10:05 PM
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Idk if this is just me but at my most "handsom-est", I was my most useless self too. It's like I saw no point in making something out of myself because I was already handsome. There's a story in greek mythology about this. The character in the story is called "Narcissus" The bible has one too. These ancient people knew a thing or too
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 09:25 PM
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what for
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 08:37 PM
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Hiding or not hiding feelings has no effect on me. I need resources or concrete pathways on how to solve my problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 08:22 PM
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I'm the opposite. I instantly lose interest if I see that she plays games
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 09:29 PM
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I'm starting to think, maybe money isn't that important after all. Some level money yes, but ultimately it's about relationships. If you don't cultivate those, what do you even need that money for. Having a nice talk and walk with a friends is better than going on vacation alone
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 09:28 PM
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Everybody who accuses others of being weak-willed because they are struggling or who claims they simply need to pull themselves by their bootstraps possesses or once possessed resources at their disposal to provide them with backing and support, far more so than the people whose struggle they mock. You have trust fund kids out there, holding 'inspirational' speeches, preaching self-sufficiency. Even a middle class kid is priviliged compared to people who have actually struggled but he doesn't re…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 12:38 AM
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Men, cross-culturally have a more direct manner when they communicate whereas women don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 11:47 PM
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men aren't into verbal euphemisms. We see things what they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 10:25 PM
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People who talk about how dysfunctional casual sex is and the people who have it. Sure, maybe. Probably even. But have you actually looked at most LTR's ? A lot of them are just sad, almost pitiful arrangements and just as dysfunctional.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 10:13 PM
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To keep the illusion alive I guess. People are raised on fairy tales and they want to keep believing in them
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 09:56 PM
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Women will be like "I don't care about (his) money. I just need him to make at least as much as me" That is caring about money.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 09:45 PM
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Before Abraham was, I am
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 10:47 PM
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You got this. Report back how it went (but we already know it went well)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 10:46 PM
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I bring good news, everybody: We're all gonna make it
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 10:28 PM
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Thank you. The only problem is most pleasant women dont have that much money and they're also unwilling to date men below them
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 06:33 PM
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I lowkey hope my future wife is loaded and supports me through whatever I want to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 06:04 PM
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Whom is a man really loved by though ? Maybe his mother, a sibling, one or two good friends max I would argue. I think the focus on appearance is ridiculous but more importantly it's futile. It won't do much for your life as long as you're not fat. I've known very good-looking men with really,really bad lives (they also tend to have bad relationships)..but I've rarely seen competent men with bad lives and research confirms this. Strength training is great but beyond that, I believe men should fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:33 AM
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Having observed mine and the life of other men, it gets proportionally better to you becoming more masculine and competent. Your dating life becomes much better too, way more options. Basic evolutionary psychology. The better of a hunter you are so to speak, the more desirable you are. It sucks that people can't love you for you unfortunately
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 10:20 PM
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Watching people in general makes you trust people less. I agree. Maybe you noticed this but people are extremely utilitarian and pragmatic. They'll allign themselves with whoever offers them the greatest benefit. I mean the fact the US is in business with Saudi Arabia for example is hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 09:31 PM
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Do guys really do that though
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 08:35 PM
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Suppose you experienced or observed it, doesn't matter, anybody else find it cringe when you're with a couple and the chick is flirting with you ? It's more cringe than flattering imo. Idk how you can be so blatant about finding another Guy hotter than your Boyfriend/husband
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 08:15 PM
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Fukkkkk Dating apps. Everybody let's go outside and talk to people and stop hiding like a bitch between "witty openers".
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 01:17 AM
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Accepting your fear and doing it anyway is one of the most powerful techniques there is. Trying to combat your negative thoughts is just tiring.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 12:04 AM
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People who've never gone struggled in their life are boring as fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 08:25 PM
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Anybody feel like money solves most problems ? Based on the most cases I have encountered and seen, money blows all modalities like meditation, therapy or whatever, out of the water as a problem-solving mechnamism.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 04:08 PM
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so love over money= dummy ?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 01:16 AM
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Many women would rather marry a charming, decent-looking guy who makes 30k a year than an average guy who makes 80k a year in my opinion. They'll accept the problems that come with a lower salary if that means don't have to endure an average guy. Thoughts ?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 01:06 AM
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Couldn't the right just go out, too ?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 11:54 PM
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I don't, I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 09:42 PM
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How is that mean ? It's supposed to be uplifting
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 09:37 PM
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This is true but when it's your, it gives off wholesome vibes
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 09:36 PM
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Do you listen to podcasts while doing that ? I dread chores and what's helped me greatly is to put on some bluetooth earbuds. It makes the process 100x easier
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 09:35 PM
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and let's be honest, most relationships are bad-to mid
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 09:25 PM
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I agree, we really do fall into that trap of looking for the other person to be our everything instead of finding peace within and in our own lives first. Look at what happened to Will and Jada
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 09:18 PM
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Yup, "relationship problems" at that age are irrelevant. The only really relevant relationships problems are the ones with your wife/husband or/and when kids are involved. The rest is trivial
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 09:11 PM
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You can and should cheer up about being single. Because you can take comfort in knowing that there's not much love and satisfaction in most relationships. So, you're not missing out on much.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 09:08 PM
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I've noticed that women really like it when they see out, having coffee with your mom, having a good time for instance. It seems to signal that if you're cool with the woman who raised you, you're probably a good guy. It's also gives off a mature vibe
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 08:35 PM
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Big boobs don't always make up for a lack of facia aesthetics. Don't be fooled.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 12:41 AM
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Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 09:06 PM
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Why the need to specify it though. A woman knows where she stands and she goes for men who are her equal or a bit better
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 08:40 PM
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Nope. But you probably identify with him Than her, not her parents
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 08:26 PM
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There are some very jacked guys who walk the city in very revealing tank tops with the aim to display their 'guns' so to speak. It's usually guys who are facially below average. The equalizer idea: "At least I get recognized for this". They don't understand that women and people in general recognize this as him being low in emotional intelligence because what's attractive is when the guy is built but doesn't feel the need to show it to everybody in the most blatant manner. It's usually hardly hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 08:03 PM
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That many.. are you trying to get away from your partner or what lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 02:27 AM
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Sure but marriage is the end game
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 02:11 AM
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Find things you love to do and do them more. I feel like most people just like to have one hobby and beyond that, get married and just raise their kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 02:00 AM
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Do you guys ever experience that "I'm annoyed by people and want them to leave me alone but I also want to be among them" impulse. It's like you can't win
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 01:27 AM
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But you need it to look up stuff, write e mails and order shit
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 12:31 AM
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How will you live without a computer/laptop in 2026 though
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 12:28 AM
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Everything is a red flag. Breathing is a red flag, too
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 11:16 PM
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Have you ever noticed how women are into really unfunny shows like 'Friends' ? Is there any man in the word who has ever thought that Friends is a funny show ?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 11:13 PM
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Aren't there podcasts for that
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 12:44 AM
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Thoughts on 30 year old women going on 'girls trips' ? My thoughts: Pretty big red flag
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 12:43 AM
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Well think if they guy isn't able to provide stability by 28, he gets dumped
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 12:35 AM
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Moreso in your 20's imo. In your 30's credentials beat vibes because people crave stability as they get older
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 12:27 AM
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I agree but not as much
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 10:34 PM
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You're a man. Men care less about this stuff than women
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 10:27 PM
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One could argue that caring about symbolic credentials is just as shallow
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 10:26 PM
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College-educated women don't get with or at least they don't marry men without degrees, even if they're good-looking. Have you ever noticed that ?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 10:15 PM
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David Goggins might be a bit crazy but there's one good thing that he did. He got people going. Lamenting about how unfair life is doesn't make your life better. Get up and get shit done. That's a good legacy imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 06:44 PM
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I think people rarely get arrested for simply speaking to others
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 03:01 AM
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Good idea. It's just hard to accept that we were sold a lie. I guess there are still very succeful youtubers but they're a tiny minority really
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 02:51 AM
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I think you're right. It's just interesting how we thought there's this whole new world where you can make tons of money but it turns out the boomers were right: Study and get a good job Even the idea of starting a youtube channel seems tedious these days
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 02:31 AM
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I mean everybody was inexperienced at some point. You 'practice' it by accepting failure and adusting like with every single thing in the world. There is no other way. You can't dance around failure, you have to go through it. Even the greatest athletes.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 02:07 AM
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Guys, is there any legit way to make money on the internet ? Or is it all bullshit and not worth the stress.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 02:04 AM
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I'd have to agree with that
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 01:31 AM
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My commets are actually pretty uplifting. I have the greatest comments !
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 01:31 AM
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Well since you identify as a 'feminist', it's a safe to say that you have no access to desirable men. Because no men with option would tolerate a woman who goes on rants about feminism. You just get weeded out instantly
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 01:24 AM
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Actually, what you're doing is trying to get men on your side to go to war (figuratively) against other men by throwing them a bone . Tale as old as time. The problem is it has zero effect on men with options. But granted, it will work with some men
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 01:17 AM
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Yes, everything is a plot for feminists. There's always an underlying reason for the world that conspires against women. It's never about being below average in attractiveness or/unresolved trauma related to the male care taker which then sparks the adoption of feminism as a protective mechanism
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 01:06 AM
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It's a proxy debate and a code for 'I'm not that into him'. Nobody cares about an 'orgasm gap' if the guy is her best option. In fact, and some men can attest to this, it seems like the less the man cares about 'making her orgasm', the more she's into him. If a woman talks about 'the orgasm gap', get another one
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 12:24 AM
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That's what they do. The goal is rarely the truth with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 08:32 PM
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Research suggests that female basketball players on the same team show less affection towards each other than male players on opposing teams. Men seem to be the compassionate sex. Why is that in your opinion ?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 07:30 PM
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Not all but many of them, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 07:20 PM
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Good point. It doesn't make sense for them to cheat because they have no access to desirable women
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 07:16 PM
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Not by much. His actual market value doesn't change.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 07:15 PM
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They don't receive advances in the first place, that's the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 06:51 PM
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Meh, not really. Most average guys are married and they aren't desired by attractive women
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 06:50 PM
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Hookers are not what counts as 'options'
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 06:49 PM
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Options signal themselves to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 06:49 PM
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Decent-looking short guys rarely struggle with dating tbh. But I've definitely seen bad-looking tall guys struggle to get dates
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 06:36 PM
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Men who pride themselves with being loyal to their wives/gf's (but who clearly have no options to be disloyal with desirable women) are kind of funny. Are virtuous or are you disguising your pragmatism as virtue ?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 06:35 PM
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Standing on your principles while you have no power or way to enforce them will just get you cucked and swamped. Nobody cares about your principles. Like Kanye once said."Wait until you get your money up"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 11:29 PM
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I'm not trying to be. But I can still leave my mark
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 10:32 PM
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Let's talk in 5 years. I'll show what a man with a cause is capable of.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 10:24 PM
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Men who focus only on romantic love are fucked in the long run. Also forgotton. Either way, history doesn't talk much about Casanova. People like him are obscure side characters. It's people like Alexander the Great, Jesus, Buddha who leave an impact.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 08:46 PM
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Have you ever noticed how atheists are often fat, unathletic and unkempt ? It's almost as if they are angry all the time. Maybe..they are angry at God.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 08:44 PM
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The problem is that there's not much you can do. Either, you're better than them or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 07:11 PM
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The hoe phase was promised to you 3000 years ago. But it's probably since hoe phases are more for 'mids'.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 07:09 PM
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Complaining about how women have standards or that you have to compete for them is a waste of time. How do you expect a fit woman to be into you if you don't work out yourself ? Or how do you expect a woman who values education go for a man who doesn't have a degree or does not value it ? Seems kind of crazy to expect that you are just loved for "you". No such thing really
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 07:05 PM
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if I get older and the dating market just becomes utterly irredeemable regardless of my skill level then maybe I'll consider settling. When are you planning on doing that or when do you think that happens usually ? I feel like 34 is a good age we should shoot for. Anything above that and we'll have to date single mothers which is a night mare. None of us wants that
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 03:05 AM
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I agree with you but how likely is it to meet an incredible woman ? Not very likely I'd argue. And the hot ones tend to be high maintainance divas. So, it's either mid+ good character or hot+ shit character
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 02:43 AM
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When straight women make out with each other, it's because they want attention from men or they want to be whorish without the moral repercussions. Meaning, it won't be penalized like getting fucked by a man will. It's their "way out". Crazy what type of things they come up with just to avoid scrutiny. Sisterhood above all, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 02:25 AM
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The ones I know are usually with women who have their own money so how is that a financial trap ?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 02:01 AM
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I feel like this is true. Most relationship problems aren't as unpredictable as people claim they are
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 01:19 AM
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It's not just women. People who are in a more priviliged position than you will always tell you that whatever the situation you're in is completely the result of your bad actions and whatever good situation they are in is the result of their good actions because they are such an enlightened being.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 01:17 AM
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Do betas win in the end ? I feel like they are the guys who end up having good, long-term LTR's
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 01:06 AM
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Thanks, buddy
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 01:03 AM
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Nobody is stopping you from doing anything
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 12:54 AM
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That's the truth
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 12:48 AM
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The Problem with this is that women feel entitled to speak on this (which is dumb on their behalf) which triggers a counter-reaction in men which leads to some juvenile tug-of-war kind of thing where the goal isn't to come to a truthful conclusion but to validate one's opinion via convincing the other. How important sex is varies from person to person and from relationship to relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 12:37 AM
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Well, do you find it annoying or do you shrug it off and accept it as a "camouflage is the woman's way" kind of thing ?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 12:52 AM
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You will also be incompatible with most women who find you viscerally attractive at first. So, there goes the dream of being a walking bitch magnet.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 12:23 AM
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Q4men: What do you think when you hear women say they're into "ambition" - knowing that it's a code word for climbing the status/money ladder but they disguise it as 'ambition' so they don't come across as shallow ?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 12:21 AM
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The idea that you become a walking chick magnet once your appearance is great is such a ridiculous statement and shows a total lack of life experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 11:53 PM
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Aren't most people not 'impressive' as one of the comment suggests ? Most people are ordinary
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 12:45 AM
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if she doesn't want to marry him without the whole trappings, she's not that into him.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 12:38 AM
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If a woman who has her own job and money is with you it means she's with you because she likes you because she technically doesn't need you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 01:23 AM
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It doesn't necessarily have to be depressing. One can accept how things are and still enjoy the ride. Acceptance is a powerful tool. But yes, for more sensitive and introspective people, it can leave a bitter taste in their mouth. Understandably so.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 11:18 PM
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It's pretty rough but I believe it's still possible to conduct a good LTR. But realizing the mechanics behind it can be very dooming indeed. I think it's because men are more romantic than women who are essentially very pragmatic when it comes to romance.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 10:59 PM
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Q4men When did you realize that a woman can only love you if she feels like you are her equal or you are (slighty) better than her (in whatever regard) - and how sad did the realization that 'love' as disney teaches it is a ficiton make you and it's mostly all about biology instead ?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 10:25 PM
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Apparently Trump called a news station once in 1991 under a false name (pretending to be a friend?) to let them know that Trump just got divorced and is extremely popular with women and therefore isn't ready to make a new comittment yet. He was in his mid 40's around that time. That's so hilarious. The fact that he felt the need to make sure others know he's very sought out by women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 07:10 PM
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It's never late too start!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 06:52 PM
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It's definitely not like water.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 06:52 PM
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But I have the reference experience myself too. I went from hardly any dates in a small town to many dates in a bigger city and then again to very little dates when I returned to a small town.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 06:48 PM
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Can we talk about the location pill ? I've known people who have found their significant other simply moving from a small town to a mediums-sized city. More people, more options. More desirable options, too. I might do the same thing soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 06:37 PM
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What would be the best way to get there ?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 01:47 AM
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Men need a goal. They cannot live for the sake of women. Women, however, do not need a goal to will. They can be content being the mother or husband to a strong man.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 01:44 AM
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good point
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 01:22 AM
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i think it's about validation also. They need it more.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 01:03 AM
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The seduction community is aight although it's geered toward short-term stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 11:23 PM
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Chubby chicks are very horny, typically. Why is that in your opinion ?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 11:20 PM
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Ever noticed how one never gets nervous around people who are below you in the attractive hierarchy ?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 08:51 PM
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I agree and often they are way too quick and eager to use it. It's just kind of strange how you sometimes manage to solve your own problems than a doctor can who has studied medicine for years. Still glad they exist but it's kind of strange
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 07:09 PM
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As annoying reddit can be, I've found more helpful info on here than anywhere else in the internet. People here in their respective subs know their shit. One time, my back was hurting, I searched for a solution and people knew to recommended some shoes that would make alleviate the pain while walking. The psychology subs are also good
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 06:36 PM
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Has anybody made friends here or via the internet in general ?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 12:51 AM
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From my observation, very decent-looking guys who get attention from women, run into massive trouble down the road (both in their relationships and in life as well) if they have no interests ouside of women. Seeing women as the center of life is a big trap.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 10:55 PM
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LTR's and conducting them is far more difficult than hook ups. The latter are fairly easy to pull off.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 03:20 AM
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Impossible is nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 03:12 AM
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whatever they're interested in
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 03:04 AM
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Because that's what you want to see
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 02:02 AM
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True, face and vibes are king.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 01:45 AM
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That's a whole debate in itself. Social media was probably a mistake. The couples I know that actually have good and long relationships almost never and sometimes actually never post photos of themselves on social media. So, that's telling.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 11:28 PM
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Nothing about that is natural or normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 11:20 PM
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Another one.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 11:05 PM
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Many couples go on trips but they don't see the need to tell the world about it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 09:20 PM
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Everytime a couple posts a picture on social media for the world to see, it's a sign that things aren't going well behind the secenes. The photo is posted to get reassurement from yourself and from others because you know the stability isn't there.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 08:28 PM
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To be honest, and that is a bit ironic, the less I cared, the more they liked it. Sex is a psychological experience for women for the most part, what matters is if you're better than her. The men who have to do 100 things to get her hot and what not are usually not that attractive. Since most men aren't, (some) women lament about this stuff as a proxy argument. But it's also a genuine expression of how I view it. I don't view it as a performance. It's a connection between two people. If the conn…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 12:56 AM
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Not believing is also fine
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 12:41 AM
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As I said, I am fine with it being perceived that way or it being that way. It has no effect on my well-being
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 12:38 AM
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I know it's not a flex, I've mentioned that myself. But it's perfectly with me if that is how it is perceived
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 12:33 AM
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And yet, many others don't
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 10:22 PM
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Idk, selfish men don't seem to be lacking in options
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 10:16 PM
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Not a proud admission and I may get roasted for this but honesty prevails: In my opinion, I'm not good in bed. I'd say I'm below average, in the technical sense for sure. But I also don't care. I can't believe there's people out there who worry about this either. "Oh my god, the orgasm gap, the orgasm gap!" "What if she Bro, I could not give less of a fuck about your orgasm. Here's how it's going to down: You will present yourself in an appropriate manner at a requested time. And then you're goi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 09:55 PM
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Well, fucking a good person doesn't carry much risks. If she gets pregnant on accident, who cares ? You'll raise a kid together. That's why LTR mogs.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 02:12 AM
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The good thing about not engaging in casual sex is that it removes all the worries like std's, unwanted pregnancies, regrets etc. I know there are measures to reduce the emergence of those risks to a great degree but by not engaging in them at all, you completely remove them. Which is kind of cool. Peace of mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 12:57 AM
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what about for men
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 02:42 AM
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Yeah, they decide within a few minutes. Performing circus acts is ridiculous. Louis CK has a funny bit about this: https://youtu.be/yRzs7v0do_Q?t=207
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 02:00 AM
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What if you just don't have what people want ?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 01:36 AM
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I did in my teens I think. But I realized at some point that if you're at a point where you're trying to impress or convince her, you've already lost. She should want you without much effort
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 01:27 AM
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In your opinion, is loneliness self-inflicted ?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 01:25 AM
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"Owning a business" is overrated and entrepeneurs are kind of cringe. They seem to be pretty lonely too
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 08:42 PM
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(Some) women seem to really like that 5'o clock shave. It signals you can grow a full beard but you still choose to shave it (because you're not in need of demonstrating your beard-ability) and it already creates a shadow after a few hours. What does it symbolize to you ?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 12:37 AM
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Therefore, acquiring good inlaws feels even more rewarding if you didn't get that from your family of origin.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 10:59 PM
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Can we talk about how much of a privilege it is if your partner comes from a good family, has a good relationship with their parents and ideally even siblings ? You'll gain a whole new family that makes everything in life easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 09:58 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/shorts/NXyBHdmM9gU
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 06:32 PM
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Notice how supershort women are really into tall men. It's almost like they hope to correct their inferior dna. You really think I'm going to mix my rich gene pool with you just because you're hot ? Get the fuck out of here, gnome. Recreational use only. I'm not cucking my future son. He has an empire to lead.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 05:48 PM
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Q4men: Do you feel like most people don't care about you or men in general ? How many people would you say would be there for you if you are no longer useful and what does 'being there for you' entail ?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 11:36 PM
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"Oh no, she's settling for me! What should I do?" Never understood this. You think I care ? I'm settling for her too.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 09:53 PM
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When do you plan on settling down ? Personally, i'm kind of getting tired of going on dates
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 08:43 PM
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My most succesful phases with women were never when I looked my best. It was always when I cared the least (not in an ignorant way) and when I had other things going on that I was passionate about.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 01:29 AM
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Random question, non related to your comment: How much attention and play does a 39 year old chad get from women and what age range specifically ?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 11:59 PM
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I'm aware of Joseph Goldstein. Pretty based guy If you had to choose between being poor but being able to meditate vs having money but not meditating, what would you pick ?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 11:52 PM
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Nina Dobrev was a smokeshow.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 11:50 PM
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I don't idolize spiritual Guru's. They have important things to say but they're really annoying too. I find Gabor Mate's work very helpful who is a retired doctor. What about you `?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 11:01 PM
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Q4men: Do you sometimes cringe at women attempting to be funny ? Reminds of Christopher Hitchens when he said that women aren't funny https://youtube.com/watch?v=XpLik9VOdQo&t=145s
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 09:48 PM
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Funny you mention it since I've been trying to make it a habit for the last two months or so. It's not as easy as I thought. Women are much better at this stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 09:35 PM
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Being battle-tested is underrated. Theorizing is fun. But having survived many battles gives you that grounded, calm confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 07:57 PM
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How do you deal with loneliness, especially as you get older ? It seems to me that the general trajectory is to start a family (which many people do to escape loneliness). If you don't follow the most common life paths that are available, it looks like you will be left out and the consequense will be loneliness. Am I wrong ?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 01:03 AM
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It's good that we have research that examines that
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 12:56 AM
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furthering his competency skills if you will
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 12:41 AM
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Women who give a man a chance when he has nothing (maybe even proving herself willing to take a reputational hit by doing that) will be rewarded with eternal loyalty when he finally begins to make strides. But most women won't do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 12:33 AM
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Perky C's go hard though. Very primal and sensory pleasing without being too overboard.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 01:24 AM
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It makes a lot of sense and people generally have a relatively good intuitive understanding of where people are at hierarchically in spite of the sporadic emergence of not wanting to acknowledging the palpable dynamics at play.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 01:08 AM
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It's more about the shape than anything else, let's be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 12:54 AM
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The whole conversation about men crying and showing vulnerability are always held at the surface level. You can cry as much as you want if you're cuter than her and if your life is in order. Nobody cares. You can be as stoic as you want, nobody cares if she's cuter and more competent than the man The relationship will not work out, no matter how stoic you appear to be. People don't want to get this, it seems, deliberately keeping the conversation within the superficial, symbolic framework.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 12:50 AM
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Women are strongly repelled by indecisiveness in whatever shape or form. They really don't like that shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 12:33 AM
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I do feel like all those perks make us more a-social though. Think about it. If it didn't exist, you'd be forced to make friends in real life, to flirt with people, to talk, to socialize. If you know you can fall back on social media, you won't do it in real life. Well not everybody of course. But my psyche (maybe related to ADHD) does work like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 08:13 PM
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I know people who met people on there who became good friends after that. (I personally haven't). I kind of fear on missing out on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 08:08 PM
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I actually mean older people. Like 25,30,35 etc. What's the benefit of this age group being on facebook ? I've always thought it was about being able to stay in contact with people but you never are in contact with them anyway. I feel like it would better to delete everything, fill your real life with meaning - and then in old age maybe create a new account and see what's what and who's what.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 08:03 PM
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Interesting distinction. Do you think it'd be a good idea for younger people to delete it so they can focus on life - and when they get old go back to it ? Because I do feel you waste so much time on it as a young person and you're not really getting anything out of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 07:54 PM
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What about the utility of facebook (informative groups for example or not losing potentially interesting people) ?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 07:39 PM
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Do you feel like social media made the world better or worse and why ?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 07:34 PM
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That can't be because being a pick me works. Being a simp does not.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 06:12 PM
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"Pick me's" win in the end. You ain't 21 forever, my love. You wish you'd put more effort in by then. Disregard the propaganda and be a pick me instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 06:01 PM
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Autism and charisma - how does that go together though ?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 10:13 PM
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I have rarely seen a guy I would find handsome but didn’t have any noticeable muscle. Johnny Depp would be an example
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 09:44 PM
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Well I think being hot without social skills gets you largely expelled from the dating market too. Because a man who is incapable of creating allies, that man's family is fucked and women instinctively sense this
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 09:32 PM
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I don't think that's true at all. Most men aren't even handsome. Most people general are kind of average.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 09:29 PM
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What I'm talking about has nothing to do with gold digging. Even the men I know care about a woman being employed and not being a relentless spender.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 09:20 PM
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There is a need because women need to make a choice before 35 and serious women want to choose a good man.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 09:19 PM
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Hotness doesn't create stability. Plus, a beautiful face is more important than something everybody can train. You can't train your face. The humorous slogan "No gym for your face" describes this phenomena surprisingly well.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 09:04 PM
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True that.If you're talking physicality, they care more about face and height. No dumb woman gives a shit whether you have big muscles or no because it's the face and your height that is directly hereditary lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 08:45 PM
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Women care more about money/drive than muscles. Way more.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 08:01 PM
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It's more about wanting to influencing the world and wanting to be remembered for something. It's more satisfying to be Alexander the Great than Casanova
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 08:55 PM
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It's true. Men who are obsessed with it, haven't experienced it much. Men who have have greater visions for themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 08:51 PM
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It really isn't. But a guy who's never experienced it will be obsessed with it, of course
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 08:47 PM
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Hot take: Being respected by men is more satisfying and useful than getting validation from women. The latter isn't worth much.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 08:38 PM
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Dating apps are retarded - even if you get good results. It's a sign of being a passive and asocial, lets be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 08:10 PM
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Put it like this, it's not enough. Relationships are value exchanges and if the exchange is satisfactory for both , you can still have a long, sometimes life-long relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 07:18 PM
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She is mine and I am hers
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 10:54 PM
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Obv but what if she expected getting pounded afterwards but you're too tired/too busy/want to do other shit
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 08:16 PM
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Let's say you're not in the mood for more, would it be rude to have a chick blow you, come on her face and then send her home ? Thots ?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 08:01 PM
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I think it's wildly accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 08:49 PM
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YAH
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 08:08 PM
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Find yourself an ugly duckling that has blossomed later in life. Because the woman for whom being beautiful has been the norm throughout your life, won't develop her character. Because she never had to.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 08:04 PM
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Imo, we should all delete social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 07:07 PM
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I find it more difficult to train with earbuds on. I'm way more distracted when I listen to stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 07:07 PM
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True. But nobody wants to see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 06:20 PM
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Kind of funny how nobody wants to see ug people bang. Who wants to see fat people fuck? Fat people fucking looks more like a siege than anything. Only when two beautiful people do it, sex becomes art.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 05:05 PM
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Many women want to get married. They don't want to be married.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 08:09 PM
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What about when you're in your thirties though. Where to go ? Meeting people are in your twenties is easy compared to that.
/r/seduction17/04/26 08:00 PM
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A short man who is very muscular is looked at as funny and overcompensating whereas a tall, muscular guy is looked at as a titan who the gods consider their equal. I just think that's interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 06:17 PM
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Strangely enough, receptionists or assistants at the doctor's office seem happier to me than the doctors themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 10:34 PM
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1 or 2 dates are necessary for men to see if they like the woman too. You reach a point where you have no time for annoying personalites.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 10:31 PM
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Has anybody here managed to have friends whom they're closer with than their siblings ? Bonus if later in life too
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 08:01 PM
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I cannot remember the books I've read any more than the meals I have eaten; even so, they have made me. Wow, that's a really good quote. In case you think having read a book was a waste of time because you don't remember much of it, it probably influenced you in ways you don't realize.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 11:41 PM
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You hated him, didn't you. How could you not hate him? The walking, talking reminder that the honorable Lord Eddard Stark fucked another woman. Jeez, if that's not a bar, I don't know what is.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 08:38 PM
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It's only a waste of time if the boyfriend isn't as valuable in her eyes. If he is, it would have been worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 07:51 PM
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The perks of strength training is that the path to it is more linear and the progress is always visible when you look at yourself. It is also felt in whatever you do during the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 02:35 AM
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Probably everything. Men want to achieve shit. And the path to increasing strength is well studied so it's easy to follow if one is disciplined.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 01:55 AM
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I have this sudden urge to be/get jacked. You only have your 20's and 30's to do that without the help of enhancing drugs. I just wonder whether it'll feel hollow afterwards. According to Socrates it is a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 01:39 AM
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"Confessing your love" is especially awkward because if she found you attractive, something would have happened alreaedy. It's a desperate last move.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 01:25 AM
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The woman should be more excited to enter the relationship than the man.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 12:21 AM
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What if you don't do it to increase your appearance ? I also disagree that you don't see it through the shirt.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 10:10 PM
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What about college friends ? I kind of missed out on making lasting friends that unfortunately
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 04:21 AM
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Do you still maintain contact with your high school friends, 20 years later or so ? Have you gotton new "key" friends ? Is that even possible ?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 01:11 AM
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And as long as you have that mindset, you won't grow up.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 11:21 PM
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The moment you go to the gym irregardless of whether it's going to make you more attractive to women, the moment you finish your degree etc, regardless of whether it's going to make you attractive to women - is the moment you grow up as a man. Before that, your life is remote-controlled.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 10:54 PM
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Thought on age gap relationships ? I feel like 0-4 age difference is ideal (research seems to support this). 5-8 is okay. 10 is already a bit too much imo for a LTR that's supposed to last a lifetime.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 11:35 PM
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Jack was low class but handsome. He gets a pass (even if only a temporary one)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 10:13 PM
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haven't seen it
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 08:35 PM
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Titanic is not a romantic movie. It's gynocentric supremacy. A young, poor guy sacrifices his life for some rich, rebellious hoe he met a few days ago who uses his working class vitality to reconstruct her ego. After he's fulfilled his purpose, he gets thrown away, literally. Remember, women all over the world consider this "romantic".
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 08:26 PM
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Yes, very true. Women in their early 20's or late 30's (divorced) are also the most open to casual encounters. The only problem is that my ultimate preference is women my age or a few years younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 12:16 AM
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This might be too loaded for this place but I think a lot of physical symptoms/illnesses go back to unresolved childhood trauma. There's a lot of literature on this topic and the more I familiarize myself with it, the more convinced I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 12:11 AM
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a) wake up at the same time evey day b) exercise regularly I feel like if you do these two things, you don't need to bother with any type self-help advice. There are millions books on life advice but essentially those two cover most things
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 02:36 AM
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Yes, I've swiped left on many people I've found visually attractive but that appeared annoying to me. I've also gotton good results on hinge and I know that it's possible to get a LTR off it but imo it's still a sign that we're not being social enough. All generations before dating apps were able to date regularly. Why shouldn't be able to do that ?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 02:19 AM
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That's how it starts !
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 02:17 AM
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I just don't need it to live. Reproduction is more important.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 12:05 AM
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It boggles my mind that there are husbands complaining about "lack of sex". I could not give less of a fuck about lack of sex. I care about producing off-springs and heirs. There's zero chance I can be blackmailed with sex lmao. The average man today really is one fragile piece of work.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 11:51 PM
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Once you have your close circle those How many people would you say should one opt for ?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 09:31 PM
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Aside from economic planning, I feel like the other things just make you feel even more alone. It's one of the reasons many philosphers didn't do well mentally. I don't think you have to be extroverted to have intellectual ability though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 09:08 PM
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That's how Stannis got wrecked in GOT. He believed some "priestess hoe" and the result was self-destruction. No, thank you. Never put your fate in the hands of a witch.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 08:45 PM
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We need to stop romanticizing introversion. The introvert is at a massive disadvantage in life if he he doesn't make an effort to go out there and make things happen. People open doors. The whole world is about relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 08:41 PM
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It's no secret why blue-collar guys tend to have hotter partners and more sexual experience. But they also have dumber partners. I find uneducated women very annoying even if they're hot. Obviously, educated women can be annoying too but some baseline of intelligence is required for me to enjoy the interaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 08:23 PM
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Masturbating = throwing away your life force Masturbating with porn= nuking your dopamine system (takes days to recover)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 08:20 PM
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Watch porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 10:09 PM
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Would you say it's unethical to text multiple people at the same time, setting up a date with them - if you're single ?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 10:03 PM
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Men, stay away from women who pride themselves on being "witty".
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 08:56 PM
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I used to shit on CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) but I do think it's useful. Just because it's easy to understand, doesn't mean that it's easy to do. A cbt therapist holds you accountable and makes procrastination far less likely. Without one, it's easy to postpone whatever you wanna do until eternity.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 10:28 PM
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But most couples are of similar age so how does that go together ?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 10:21 PM
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Am I the only one who fondly remembers their elementary teacher as well as one or two of their high school teachers ? Is this normal ?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 02:46 AM
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I've re-ignited a conversation once after 6 months.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 01:05 AM
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Somewhat. Women in their 30's prioritize cues of dominance more than younger women. Womens sex drives also increases during this time and the guy that looks like he "can get shit done" triggers her desire more than a guy who looks good like a statue
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 12:40 AM
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Right. Men with a strong jaw can get away with the beardless look though
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 11:18 PM
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Women in their thirties are very hot. Niqqas is lying if they pretend otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 10:53 PM
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Very little
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 10:38 PM
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Almost all or at least most 30 old women would chose a tall, decent looking and well-built guy who's completely bald over a thin-nish type of guy with a full head of hair of medium height.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 10:16 PM
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From what I've seen men who have no purpose outside of being married and having kids seem to be kind of miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 02:42 AM
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If I'm more attractive than her
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 09:14 PM
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No such thing as a 'lesbian'. Only women who were unable to secure the men they truly desire, therefore causing them to enter (often temporary) phases of rebellion.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 09:00 PM
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I kind of want a chick with a phd tbh. It'd be also cool if she made more money than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 01:27 AM
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I mean, everybody kind of goes through that, don't they. It is what it is
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 01:26 AM
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Do you enjoy listening to music albums ?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 01:23 AM
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Or as philospher Lil Wayne used to say "Young Mula, baby!"
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 11:59 PM
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What are your thoughts on (online) side hustles ? I feel like as you become a bit older, you kind of realize that all the hype (making money via the internet) is bullshit or simply not worth trying. It seems like our parents were right. Go to college or acquire equivalent skills - that's how you'll have a decent life. No escaping having a "job".
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 11:51 PM
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They all love it - despite claiming otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 11:18 PM
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The women on reddit, but more so here, have all ideal relationships and incredible husbands who call them queens everyday. Wow, that's a really high concetration of great husbands. Strange.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 09:33 PM
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Men are not supposed to fall in love. Women are. Man must fall in love with God and woman must fall in love with (her) man. If man falls in love with his wife, his wife starts falling out of love with him. That's why women dislike romantic men. They know they're not safe. A romantic man is not a man you can trust. His psychological structure is impaired.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 01:52 AM
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Strength training brings you closer to God.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 01:06 AM
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Oh My God, It even has a watermark.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 12:03 AM
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Men are more romantic than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 09:26 PM
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There are no healthy LTR's without money. Don't need to be rich but you need to be able to care of yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 01:54 AM
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If you burn for him, it doesnt matter what he does for a living You're going to be in for a rude awakening once you encounter adult relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 02:56 AM
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Women usually don't get into LTR's with men who are of lower status than themselves and if they do, they break up with them at some point. 'Status' is usually a combinbation of things and it also encompasses (overall life) competence. If he is 'broke' but he shows signs of competence (verbal fluency, health) he still has status. Because that is status. Status doesn't mean having a shiny car or other bs. Women don't want to be with men who have overall less life competence than themselves, it's a…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 02:52 AM
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The more times goes on, the less I am impressed by beauty, more specifically beautiful women.Enriching the world with what I have to offer seems like a more exciting challenge now. Seems like I'm maturing. If you think about it, this is what a RPG is about. Romance is a side quest, not the main goal. I am however impressed by how a woman behaves much more than her visuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:38 AM
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Cringe
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 11:51 PM
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Parents do have a favorite kid and everybody knows it. The parent knows it, the kid (often the first-born) knows it and the siblings are begrudgingly aware of it too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 03:26 AM
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Saw a therapist post once that while therapy can be helpful, in her estimation what most people need is money. One of the most answers I've heard people say.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 02:53 AM
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I do think it's funny that the guys who mock the idea of EQ (emotional intelligence) are also the ones who also have relationship problems, sometimes to the point of not even being able to form them
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 11:51 PM
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You can't "out-therapy" her desire to get with a better man.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 11:45 PM
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Depends on the woman. Many don't want a provider but they still want a guy who makes at least as much as them
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 01:29 AM
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Shoulder length should be mandatory imo. Some women can pull off neck length/ Chin length but they're rare
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 09:43 PM
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I am not fucking a hoe with a buzz cut.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 09:01 PM
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Women should not have short hair. Full stop. There should be a mandate for this.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 08:43 PM
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And coincidentally, love happens if the guy is her perceived best option
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 01:11 AM
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Love is not enough for a good LTR though as research shows us
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 12:48 AM
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Your nervous system is part of your market value/smv. It should be called LMN. Looks, money, nervous system.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 07:52 PM
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So nihilism basically. I agree that we should stay from that ideology.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 11:57 PM
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Good point. But if most relationships aren't these fantastic arrangements (they aren't, let's be real) - doesn't that mitigate the doom-and-gloom nonetheless ?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 12:56 AM
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If you find a woman with a good character, who goes out of her way to make your life better but she's not the hottest (just okay), seize the opportunity because it might not come again. Good character is paramount in a LTR. I've seen some men, having to deal with their crazy and disrespectful girlfriends and..oh my god that shit is torture to watch. Now imagine having to experience that. It's even worse if you have kids with her. So, if you're a man and an average looking woman with good charact…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 12:51 AM
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30 year olds are definitely familiar with dating apps and social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 12:43 AM
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So, most men over 30 are in a relationship. Does that counter the whole doom and gloom narrative that's floating around ?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 12:07 AM
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Of course, imagine not doing that
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 03:11 AM
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For some reason, I can't imagine Leo Di Caprio ever having intense, passionate sex with a woman. Maybe it's the whole "I'm an international superstar, I don't need to perform in the bedroom. My life itself is a performance, it speaks for itself" kind of thing. But even if we brush that aspect aside, he just doesn't seem like the type. I feel like Di Caprio has only ever had cordial and polite intercourse. For instance, you can imagine Jason Momoa giving it to his girlfriend but not Di Caprio.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 02:27 AM
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Women detest romantic men. They want to be the 2nd, 3rd or 4th most important or interesting thing in your world. Never the 1st. They will hate you for it if you make them their Nr.1
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 09:51 PM
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You should probably only bang people you would be comfortable starting a family with. This way, even if pregnancy occurs unwillingly, it's not that big of a problem. Because you know the person you banged will probably still be an okay parent, therefore averting a poor outcome for everybody involved. Good decision-maxxing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 01:45 AM
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It's probably the most reliable path to meaning for people.
/r/seduction09/03/26 01:37 AM
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Late 20s women can be found through your social circle, at "classier" night life venues like cocktail lounges/wine bars etc, the gym, farmers markets, hobbies, grocery stores, parks, rec sports leagues. Thank you. Would you say moving to a bigger city might be a good idea as opposed to living in a small town ?
/r/seduction08/03/26 11:57 PM
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Thank you, very good to hear. I do want a woman to desire me for me, not for my wallet though. That's why I have a strong preference for women in my age range.
/r/seduction08/03/26 11:56 PM
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There are men who have never picked up any weights but have that calm aura that attracts women
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 09:05 PM
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We got this.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 08:57 PM
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Happy international mens day
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 07:04 PM
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Why wouldn't English majors be competent ? Being articulate is incredibly attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 07:21 PM
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College is an exception. It is assumed that people who are in college are making something out of themselves. The metric that is being screen for is still competence in some shape or form
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 01:07 PM
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I feel like most women would rather be with a decent-looking guy who makes 40k a year than an average one who makes 100k a year. Agree/disagree ?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 02:25 AM
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I feel like most problems in life can be solved by waking up earlier and working out lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 12:01 AM
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Most break ups happen over financial issues. Isn't that interesting. And it's pretty certain that when people say 'financial issues', it means the man not knowing how to handle finances.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 11:24 PM
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Women who post regularly on social media= huge red flag. What's another one people should look for out ?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 07:15 PM
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People will only value you once you create success for yourself I really hate that this is the case. I sometimes have trouble accepting that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 12:29 AM
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yeah true, I am thinking of starting bjj lessons just because of this. Find a tribe via common interests and cultivate it, that kind of thing
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 10:10 PM
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Priviliged women have no business lecturing men about this
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 09:48 PM
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Men, love yourselves and take care of yourselves like your life depends on it. Because it does and noone else will. You don't have the luxury of having vast support systems to catch you when you wall.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 09:37 PM
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I disagree. It makes you act more often which gives you more practice which in thrns makes you better at Something. Acting imperfectly breeds Training and Progress. Whereas perfection leads to Stagnation and procrastination.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 12:34 PM
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I haven't looked at corn in over two months and I intend on keeping it this way for the rest of the year. You miss it sometimes but it feels really good to not poison your dopamine system. Anybody else ?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 03:01 AM
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It's time to allow ourselves to be imperfect. To have the imperfect body. To have an imperfect income. To be an imperfect parent. To be an imperfect partner and friend. Some people for example worry too much about not being a great parent because they want to avoid the mistake their parents made. Newsflash: You are also going to make mistakes. Allow yourself to be human. Let's get' em.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 10:38 PM
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It's just observing and experiencing reality and putting the truth over what you want to be true. It's a difficult concept to understand for some people though, I get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 10:07 PM
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It's womanese as well as cognitive dissonance. Logically speaking, your partner can't be 10/10 perfection or the hottest person ever. Neither does anybody think that of their partner. That's not how relationships work. They have trouble understanding that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 09:31 PM
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Still high
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 09:04 PM
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The current divorce rate wants to have a word with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 09:01 PM
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Who says that you shouldn't do that ?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 08:47 PM
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No, in terms of appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 08:39 PM
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When opting for marriage and family creation, go for a woman who's a 5 or 6.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 08:27 PM
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Funny how people react with a pikachu face when they experience betrayal, yet everybody knows that it never your enemy who betrays you. It is your friend or your loved one who betrays you. That's why it stings so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 10:45 PM
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Better than the digital stuff. Reading a newspaper is/was relaxing. Having endless options on your phone while having 10 tabs open is distracting.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 10:22 PM
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What does the hero journey entail or look like in the modern world ?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 02:15 AM
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Relationships are value exchanges. If the value exchange moves out of balance, i.e. if one person gives way more than they receive, said person will end the relationship, be it a friendship or a romantic relationship. Loyalty therefore, more often than not, is a deliberate cost-benefit analysis. In the romantic realm, the person who believes it's worth starting over, will do so - if the cost-benefit-analysis (based on their own market value) makes sense. This is also why most divorces are initit…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 02:08 AM
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Their cheerfulness will likely go down as a result of how everybody around them reacts to them
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 11:19 PM
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Men that are depressed and anxious are shunned and not accepted in and by society. The only way to be accepted while being depressed as a man is to excel in other areas, i.e. your profession. Depressed but visibly competent or succesful men are accepted. Depressed and useless men are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 10:15 PM
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Depends on her upbringing as well as how his desirability measures up to hers.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 08:00 PM
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I feel like if you don't get out of life what you desire, romantically or life-wise, at some point you have to ask yourself whether you might be the problem. The universe isn't conspiring against you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 07:35 PM
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Only once and after you become a respectable man, a respectable woman appears in your life. Before that, you will be dating concubines that you will grow tired of. It is the same way thing for women and how they come across respectable men. By becoming respectable themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 01:57 AM
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Too petty for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 12:39 AM
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Even kings and princes would care about having a reasonably educated wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 12:30 AM
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Nah, it's called assortative mating/matching. Even kings and princes would care about having a reasonably educated wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 12:25 AM
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Yeah but his long-term relationships are a mess and his dating pool will also be much more narrow. Many men don't consider that preferable. Because high quality women have access to attractive men who also are doing something with their lives instead of a man who's just attractive and nothing else.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 12:19 AM
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I feel like women are pretty lax about a man's occupation. They don't care much about a man being "hugely succesful". Sometimes, they're even put off by it. But if you have no occupation at all and just lie around all day, you're toast. So, they care about a man, having a baseline of competence in a reasonable job. But anything beyond that isn't going to get you lusted over.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 12:07 AM
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I don't know anybody who has 25 close friends..
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 11:35 PM
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How many close friends do you have ? Especially you men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 11:01 PM
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Liberal women are more feminine and more enjoyable than conservative women. Very conservative women are a turn-off.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 07:30 PM
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It's kind of interesting how too much muscles (for men) and big boobs (for women) is considered low class or at least associated with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 12:46 AM
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"It is better to live alone in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife, Proverbs 21:19" The wisdom of ancient people remains underrated.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 08:36 PM
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Complaining about how unfair a game is has never gotton me anywhere. Better to accept it, master it and play it to the best of your ability.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 12:50 AM
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I agree but men are less likely to obsess over that stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 04:47 PM
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Men really need to stay away from women who over-identify with being "spritual". They're usually nuts and ironically very egotistical.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 03:52 PM
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Women who are in your vicinity will make it known to you if they find you attractive. They might not flat-out hit on you..but if they find you attractive, you will know. A glance..a smile.. you will know.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 07:26 PM
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Only 25 percent of men over 30 are single. This suggests that if a man in that age bracket is single, he's in the minority. I'm sure this adds to the self-perception of something being wrong with you. And honestly...there might be. The solution then is to sort yourself and the issues you have out.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 04:52 PM
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People need to stop using youtube, instagram,tik tok and the internet in general as "evidence". Get out the house and see for yourself. As for this chick, why do I feel these women who spew black and white non-sense like this look and talk all in the same way ? Hate to be prejudiced but it's like you can somewhat estimate someone's intelligence based off gesticulation and countenance
/r/ExRedPill03/01/22 05:10 AM
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Honestly, if your gf is a qualit girl, she'll tell him off instantly.
/r/seduction21/12/21 06:23 PM
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I do feel like it's also because people give less value to looks as they older. As a guy I'll always be attracted to visuals even I have noticed that it's becoming less and less important for me, as long as there is a minimal level of attraction. It also depends what girls these "loser" guys are going for. They'll do better with younger girls who are looking for "fun" instead of relationships. That's the spot I'm currently in. A lot of women my age are taken or more educated than me, at least on…
/r/seduction18/12/21 09:01 PM
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Isn't this only true for younger guys ? I don't see men in their thirties or even late twenties being losers on paper and being popular with women. Especially knowing that college-educated women are attracted to equally educated (or better educated) than men. There's also the question of children that comes into play once you enter your thirties and stability makes a man attractive.
/r/seduction16/12/21 02:47 AM
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I don't use either though.
/r/seduction10/11/21 05:26 AM
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It still looks okay. Kind of like Henry Cavill's recession. I think you're talking about Neil Strauss. The guy had status which accounts for most of his success. This idea that Neil was a lady's man isn't accurate. Strip away his status and he doesn't get any action or barely. I would still love a take on how the two presented opposing ideas would effect an outcome though
/r/seduction07/11/21 09:39 PM
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A 30 year old is not an ancient guy. But it becomes increasingly more difficult after 30 but especially after 35. Also, sex and a good time is worth a lot to women, these days. The reason for this is simply that most male actors havent built their brand yet so they become more noticable and known to the general public.
/r/seduction27/10/21 07:44 AM
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Mid thirties is usually the cut-off point. And 10 years age difference, too. Although I wouldn't say one can "easily" date women that are ten years younger. Most still prefer still prefer guys their age or a handful of years older but generally speaking not ten. Surely you can date in your forties but you're mostly out of the game for young, beautiful women, that's what I meant to say. There's alao the qustion of having kids if that's something a man wishescto have
/r/seduction27/10/21 07:31 AM
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No I didn't. I never had sex with her again as she went on vacation soon after thatn and I moved. I was saddened that she didn't hit me up again and while I don't know - it may have had to with her not having had a great experience with me.
/r/seduction26/10/21 08:42 PM
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Oh my. I made this mistake once. We were in bed, she was really horny and she even mentioned to me that she's in for a "warm-up". I moved my hand down her vagina but eventually didn't finger her. And even after the sex she's like "so.. you're not really a fan of hand play, are you..". She gave me two very, very obvious hints. I didn't finger her not because I didn't want to. I did. I didn't do it because I wasn't experienced with it so I didn't want to appear clumsy.
/r/seduction04/10/21 11:25 PM
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I think we should focus to be social in real life. Build a steady social circle and do shit together. Go hiking, go to festivals, organize events, play volleball. This is where it's at.
/r/seduction04/10/21 07:17 PM
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I'm curious, you said you couldnt enjoy it at 39. Do you mean having fun with women ? And when do you think it's too late ? I'm 29 and I want to make up for lost youth but at the same time I think I will deeply regret it if I don't get my act together financially and career-wise. My main goal is also to create a family with a woman that I like and find attractive and who feels the same about men. And for that having an education or job prospects are important. Really curious about your opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 06:17 AM
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The problem is what you and most people in this phere are doing is, pick extreme examples to make a point. Yes, Bill Gates is not a physically attractive man and his status doesn't make him sexually attractive. But the world isn't as black and white. You're not either Bill Gates or Brad Pitt. People exist on a spectrum looks-wise. Which means status, intelligence and personality all make you more attractive if you're at least average. Even I, as a man, who is is supposed to be very visual, will …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 02:19 PM
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The point I'm trying to really convey is that the ultimate goal shouldn't just be to chase women, but to become a man that's at peace with himself, and exudes strength. Well said. I think this - once again - comes from some misinformation online. There's this idea that you should get experience with women while you're still young because this is the only time will know what it's like to feel genuine attraction from women because no 25 year old girl is going for a rich 40 year old. This is actual…
/r/seduction10/09/21 06:32 PM
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I see. Do you mean the whole hyperfocus on "game" ? I would certainly agree with that. If you don't have a job or a social circle, it's not game you should prioritize and you probably shouldn't waste your time doing pickup. Unfortunately I think a lot of seduction coaches are responsible for touting this bs for obvious monetary reasons. I've never seen a smart and beautiful girl be with a guy for more than a couple of dates who sits around all day but stays with him because he has amazing "game"…
/r/seduction10/09/21 06:10 PM
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You're right in a sense that self-esteem and confidence are internal beliefs. Beliefs are formed by experience and positive feedback. How well you feel usually has is somewhat tied to how you're doing in life. The answer is not to fix your "inner game" but to work these deficits so you can gain confidence. If somebody is jobless and sits around all day, he doesn't need to "fix his inner game", he needs to ge a job and be productive. Nobody feels good sitting around all day. And yes it's true tha…
/r/seduction10/09/21 06:02 PM
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I think this is sort of misleading because it's pointing out exceptions. I'm decent looking too and I suffer from depression. We very likely have had traumatic childhood experiences. But not everybody has these. It doesn't mean that looks generally speaking don't lead to some basic level of confidence. Self-esteem and confidence is the knowledge that you possess ablities and atributes that are desirable. This is why I'm confident when I step on a volleyball court because I know I'm good at it. I…
/r/seduction10/09/21 05:51 PM
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Were there a lot of people in your age bracket ? I don't mind people a couple years younger me. In fact I don't mind anybody but it does feel nice to socialize with people who are somewhat close to your age and not necessarily 10 years younger. And I do feel like the youngings feel the same about older students, I might be wrong though.
/r/seduction09/09/21 04:38 PM
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Yeah I agree with that and a friend of mine had the same experience. I dropped out some years ago and I'm thinking about to go back, partially due to the benefit of a social circle. I am 29 though and I wonder if that even would work since most people will be younger than me.
/r/seduction09/09/21 03:16 PM
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Women like familiarity and most importantly - a guy who makes her & others feel comfortable. This should be emphasized WAY more in this sub instead of being too dependent on cold approaches or dating/fucking strangers on Tinder. That is low-value and last-resort behavior. Thank you for this. In the past I have fallen in to that mindset of wanting to fool around a lot through tinder but I realized it's not doing my mental health any good. I feel like the desire to fuck as many people as possible …
/r/seduction09/09/21 03:01 PM
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Not downing other men. There arealso men far more attractive than me. I've seen and experienced how lacking in certain aspects one's dating life which is what I was trying to share.
/r/seduction08/09/21 06:21 PM
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I've had zero social circle the entire time I've been into GAME, yet I sleep with 100+ girls a year on average for the past 10+ years. I don't even think famous musicians sleep with 100 women a year.
/r/seduction08/09/21 05:32 PM
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IYeah I think location is another important aspect. With online dates, I almost always go for a walk. I've been unemployed too and had hookups but I usually would run of things to talk about at some point so the interaction wouldn't transition into a fuck buddy or more. I have never in my life seen a homeless guy hookup with a self-respecting, hot and smart woman though.
/r/seduction08/09/21 05:21 PM
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Yup. I've had the same experience. I've gotton hangout requests even at minimal socializing but I've kept turning them down, especially becaue I have trouble regulating my sleep schedule. But I feel you. The commitment is something to talk about. But after 28 years and realizing the consequense of the lack of a social circle over and over again, I feel like the commitment may be worth it. One can always girls without it but is it the type of girls you're interested in ? I feel like the best ones…
/r/seduction08/09/21 05:12 PM
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Living an interesting life usually includes socializing.
/r/seduction08/09/21 05:09 PM
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Depends what you mean by own place. Living in a shared flat is perfectly acceptable for university women. But yes, living at home is very bad. Car barely matters honestly.
/r/seduction08/09/21 05:08 PM
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What books or genres do you prefer and do you have some book suggestions ?
/r/seduction08/09/21 04:12 PM
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how can you be an interesting single person ? I think my point is that stories are central attraction. It's how we connect socially and emotionally. Interesting activities involves getting involved with other people in my opinion. And as you've said in your other comment. Unemployed guys who get laid are guys who have a social circle
/r/seduction08/09/21 03:46 PM
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I don't live in my homecity either and I wonder if I should move back. How far do you live from your home city and do you have a social circle where you currently live ?
/r/seduction08/09/21 02:59 PM
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Honestly, I don't get why you're framing my comments in a certain way. Didn't say I figured it all out. Didn't pity myself.
/r/seduction08/09/21 02:12 PM
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What will be your major ? Is part of your reason for going back to school to meet women and build a social circle ? It's certainly is for me but I wonder if it's the correct motivation. Anyway hit me up if you want. Always good to exchange knowledge with people who are in a similar situation
/r/seduction08/09/21 02:08 PM
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It may be easier to consider the opposite scenario. Surely you know of "successful" people who are still not happy, right? This is not a good argument. This is like saying that there are people who work out, are physically active, have friends, have a relationship and still aren't happy. What people who bring this up miss is that if those people didn't have these things, their would be even worse off. Health and contenment is much more about well-being than happiness. And there are universal mea…
/r/seduction08/09/21 01:59 PM
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It doesn't but it makes it more likely.
/r/seduction08/09/21 01:48 PM
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Team activities. Volleyball is great for meeting women.
/r/seduction08/09/21 01:47 PM
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I mean we were having a discussion. You asked me something and I responded.
/r/seduction08/09/21 01:46 PM
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You don't. But then you'll have to accept solitude and human beings aren't built for that. People who have intimacy and conncetion usually live longer and healthier.
/r/seduction08/09/21 01:26 PM
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I believe stories make you interesting. They allow for development of humor and interesting experiences. We relate to oneanother through stories. It's a fundamental way of bonding emotionally and socially. All those things you mentioned are great and fine but they usually don't make for great stories or trigger another person's emotions.
/r/seduction08/09/21 01:19 PM
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Yeah, the first part of your comment wouldn't happen to me. If the girl makes it clear to me that it's over, I will never contact her again. I definitely look back at conversations from dating sites after the fact. Thanks for the insight. That's an interesting point. Do you that even after years ? I imagine an attractive woman has countless of conversations so it's be too much effort to scroll down and look at a chat of a former hookup. From my perspective, don’t be awkward about it. Just be you…
/r/seduction08/09/21 12:55 PM
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But that's my definition of status. Social desirablity. If you live a boring life, you don't have any "status" and you're not socially desirable.
/r/seduction08/09/21 12:42 PM
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Well, unfortunately I don't think it's ever going to go away. We're born, we fuck, maybe be reproduce and then we die. And whether we get to fuck or not seems to be based upon our survival value which is made up of different components
/r/seduction08/09/21 12:34 PM
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This is a good point for debate because I constantly think about what leads to self-esteem so let's get into this. Where does confidence, non-neediness, calmness come from ? In my opinion and experience it comes from the knowledge that you possess abilities that are desirable to other people. The level of value you can give. What value can you give if you're unemployed and don't have an active social life ? ​ If you feel low status because you don't have a job, she ll pick up on that. But what l…
/r/seduction08/09/21 12:28 PM
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Being socially desirable always matters. You don't need to be a cool kid but you need to have at least some kind of social circle and engage in acitivities you're passionate about. I never understood the whole "inside" you thing. Maybe you can elanorate. In my opinion there's no seperation between external and internal. The external inadvertently influences the internal.
/r/seduction08/09/21 12:10 PM
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You still need to lead an active social life. Height alone ain't gonna cut it, trust me. You want a girl who is sweet, kind and attractive and these girls have standards.
/r/seduction08/09/21 11:43 AM
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How old are you two ? Also keep in mind that men don't care as much about a woman's social status as a woman does about a man's.
/r/seduction08/09/21 11:36 AM
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Yeah, I would usually run out of things to talk about on the third date.
/r/seduction08/09/21 11:30 AM
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You want a second date and a third one after the first date. I would run out of things to talk about on the third date usually and when asked about my plans for the day, I would reply with "working out". I still remember the girls sensing that I didn't lead an interesting life. You can't make up activities for too long.
/r/seduction08/09/21 11:30 AM
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Well said. It's really strange isn't it ? How exuding that you only do things because you want to hookup repells women despite life being about reproduction in some sense. I sometimes struggle with this as I feel like most things people (but especially men) do are to gain access to sex. I think it's the reason why people socialize in the first place. Yet exuding that is unattractive. The solution seems to be really find joy in activities.
/r/seduction08/09/21 11:23 AM
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The only thing that may pose a problem is what if you don't really care about building a big social circle ? Sometimes I struggle with this as I go back and forth between wanting so socialize a lot and working on my newly set goals. But I have noticed the consequense of the lack of a social circle and long dry spells ( Over 2 years now) are making me invest more in building a social circle.
/r/seduction08/09/21 11:18 AM
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Yeah. I don't understand how people and psychologisits say that self-esteem comes from who you are and not what you do. I've never met an unemployed man with no social contacts who was feeling great about himself.
/r/seduction08/09/21 11:12 AM
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This applies even more so in the UK, where a lot of American "advice" just doesn't make any sense whatsoever I'm european as well and this is a very important insight I gained over the time. I started to realize that a lot of the american advice doesn't work over here. Actually, most of the stuff dating advice from dating coaches is non-sense. Likely, even in an american context I've been unemployed/part time employed/temporarily employed my whole working life. Curious to know how this has influ…
/r/seduction08/09/21 10:50 AM
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Yeah true
/r/seduction08/09/21 10:43 AM
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Around 6'1. But in my exprience most women only care about you being taller. And height comes with expectations. Being assertive, being dominant in bed. They have this strange archetype in their head. If you don't fullfil that, she will end up disappointed. I have had this happened to me before. I've seen so many shorter dudes be more successfull. In my opinion, barely anything can be a subsitute for having a social circle
/r/seduction08/09/21 10:39 AM
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You are spot on with the thing about social circle. As a decent looking guy, I constantly wondered why lesser attractive dudes are way more succesful than me. Here's the thing I would ask you. I'm currently deciding whether I should go back to school (29 year old guy here) or do what I really want. ( I actually want to go school but not now, rather in a year). University is incredible for building a social circle. You don't even need to do anything. Just attend classes seminars and social circle…
/r/seduction08/09/21 10:35 AM
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You mean having sex doesn't have a lasting effect on your self-esteem ?
/r/seduction08/09/21 10:02 AM
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So you mean the solution to your insecurity was to just not care about it ?
/r/seduction08/09/21 10:01 AM
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This has been one of my biggest problems as these are the girls I vibe with the most. I recommend getting into a shared flat. Otherwise it's really difficult.
/r/seduction08/09/21 09:58 AM
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Late reply. Yes I agree. However, I would argue that reading about studies, surveys and statistics is not good way to go about your social life. It sets you up for failure and everything will become a self-fullfillimg prophecy. Socialize as much as possible amd see for yourself. Thats the advice I would give people
/r/ExRedPill07/09/21 08:31 PM
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Most university educated women aren't looking for a provider. The men they go for are the same men they went for when they were younger. So looks and personality are still very important
/r/seduction07/09/21 03:46 PM
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Well early and late thirties is different with regards to dating pool. Of course, I still find younger women attractive and I would consider them for short term fun bit I'd rather settle down with somebody thats closer to my age
/r/seduction07/09/21 03:44 PM
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well I think it does depend why that person is settling. As you said the ones who enjoyed their twenties will settle by choice. Personally I do like the idea of starting a family. I disagree with your dating pool not shrinking. Yeah you wil be able to date older women but most men aren't interested in that. I think men are at their best between 20-30 and then 30-35. Generally speaking most women don't men 10 year older than them. And frankly I don't want women 10 years younger than me honestly. …
/r/seduction06/09/21 03:52 PM
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It is true that most people around have had well-off parents while I didn't. I had nothing. However, these guys in the demographic I'm surrounded by are almost all university educated and they're not working at mcdonalds. the things you've accomplished I've accomplished nothing so far except for being depressed. I did manage to figure out that I have ADHD but that's faily something to talk about as a value conveyer. I'm soon turning 29 and I'm in need of getting my high school diploma ( I droppe…
/r/seduction06/09/21 03:42 PM
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Can you clarify what you mean by media marketed reality ? I don't see how not wanting to be an older dad or the dating pool shrinking is anything other than the cold reality. Right. I do feel like most people settle from abundance though. They were lucky enough to live their youth and are now comfortable settling down.
/r/seduction06/09/21 02:46 PM
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Respectfully approaching somebody is fine but I do agree that people are being sold this idea by dating coaches that you need to do it. You really don't. In general, there's this sense of urgency that's being sold. Unfortunately, that's the case with anybody who's trying to make money off you via the internet. Always remember, these people are businessmen first.
/r/ExRedPill21/08/21 01:35 PM
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This is a very important thread. There'a lot of talk in this community about how you should make time to get with women while you still can. What people forget to mention is that women want you to have other shit going on. If you don't, it will come out on the third date the latest and that's an instant repellant. I've experiences this myself. Not being productive is an attraction killer. So I think people shouldn't be hit with the fear that they'll have to little time on their hands to pursue w…
/r/seduction20/08/21 02:04 PM
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Do you still have any people you could contact or do you have to start over ?
/r/seduction02/08/21 09:35 AM
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Absolutely. I'm in my late twenties and still impressionable. But I've started to realize that this is the main goal of ads : put you in a state of fear. Understanding that helps. You can never go wrong with pursuing meaning. It's a great anti-depressant.
/r/seduction02/08/21 06:37 AM
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Honestly, knowing myself (and my ADHD), I probably just may miss the date.
/r/seduction01/08/21 11:19 PM
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You never know what's going through people. There were times I didn't text women for weeks and months and not because I was not interested. I often take days to reply. To friends and to women. Generally speaking though women are better at this so if they don't respond for a reall long time, then something's probably up. Maybe she's not interested in you or maybe she's not meeting anbody at all. These women exist. They're more into the validation game.
/r/seduction01/08/21 11:07 PM
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I've came to accept this a while ago. Some level of aloofness is necessary. Not in a disrespectul or player type of way bt in a grounded type of way. This is especiall true for on online dating when you haven't met those women yet. After getting the number, don't just ask straight for the date but keep bantering a little bit and then elegantly and patiently steer the direction towards meeting up. Never aggressively.
/r/seduction01/08/21 11:04 PM
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But again, basic social skills are necessary for all human interactions not just women. They are important but there is no need for crazy "game". Be attractive enough, in her demographic and playful and relaxed. That's it.
/r/seduction21/07/21 05:50 PM
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Why do you care if it's acceptable? Or how it's going to be "viewed by others?" Do you want it? Then, it's acceptable to you, which is all that matters. It doesn't matter what ppl think dude. I struggle with this idea. Not just related to women but in general. Caring too much about what other people think is bad but not caring at all about what other people think, I don't think it's possible for a socially calibrated person. Psychopaths don't care about other people think. How you meet the women…
/r/seduction21/07/21 04:41 PM
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I think trying to "show" is probably never a good idea. I also think authenticity is important and avoid trying to be something you're not, people see through that. I also think women make their interest known if they like somebody so maybe that solves the "awkward hitting on them" issue. Other than that, when I was 26 I briefly dated a 21 year old and this wasn't really an issue.
/r/seduction21/07/21 04:37 PM
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​ My point is that by developing hobbies and constantly socializing you develop charming qualities and social awareness naturally.
/r/seduction21/07/21 04:22 PM
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I honestly don't know what "cool oder guy" means or how that would look like. I'm not in the US, people can drink legally at 18 and earlier where I live but either way I'm not looking for that demographic. But to your point, yes for long term relationships I'more interested in somebody around my age or minus 5 years or so. For short term I'd be open for women in their early twenties.
/r/seduction21/07/21 04:14 PM
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This absolutely correct. The more experience I've gotton, the more I realized how wrong a lot of "experts" are. I text as well and not just for logistics and no this is not the end of the world. Take care of your looks, get a job and some hobbies and friends and put yourself in an environment that is frequented by women. That#s it.
/r/seduction21/07/21 03:56 PM
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Game is bs in the sense that you can't turn a woman on that doesn't already like you. Physical attractiveness and shared interests are more important.
/r/seduction21/07/21 03:27 PM
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Height, jaw, nice eyes and being eloquent and playful comes pretty close though.
/r/seduction21/07/21 03:24 PM
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I agree. I'm actually looking for longer term sexual relationships and not hookups. In your experience, do the highs fade away even in a relationship ? ​ Well, I guess the irony is that if a man really focuses on getting on women, women sense that and it often doesn't workout. Seemingly, you need to have more shit going on. And at the same time, only focusing on yourself and not going actively for women won't get you anywhere either. I wonder what the middleground might be. I guess at least put …
/r/seduction21/07/21 01:10 PM
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It flips flops with me. I have phases where I stop caring but it never lasts too long. Testosterone kicks in eventually.
/r/seduction21/07/21 12:42 PM
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Nice. I think having a full head of hair makes a huge difference.
/r/seduction21/07/21 12:01 PM
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This is what I fear. But at the same time I wonder if I will miss out. The reason why I focus on it is because I know that I'm at an age where it's still possible. I also worry that if I don't do it, I will always "be in my system" and I can't move on to other endeavors.
/r/seduction21/07/21 11:57 AM
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well, 32 and 26 is still viable for long term. Also, men at 32 can still be very attractive but onc you hit your mid thirties, it becomes difficult. How did the encounter happen with the 22 year old, did she find it that odd that you were hitting on her ?
/r/seduction21/07/21 11:46 AM
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There is a cutoff point where you're still attractive to young women though and I'm wondering when that is. I believe it's your mid thirties at the very latest.
/r/seduction21/07/21 11:33 AM
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Women are attracted to good looks but they're also attracted to "being good at Life Very true. I realized this when I wasn't particular "good at life". However I would argue, it needs to be a combination between being physically attractive and being good at life. If you're good at life but lack in attractiveness, you're still not getting any.
/r/seduction21/07/21 11:07 AM
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You really can't. I guess sleep and nutrition may help ? You think we can drag it until let's say 33 or 34 ? Do you think balding plays a vital role ? I definitely believe so. Interesting. In Europe there's a program called "Erasmus". It's students going abroad for a semester. It creates kind of a "what happens here, stays here" mentality among women. Never did that but I'm kind of mad that I didn't lol. I don't think there are better conditions.
/r/seduction21/07/21 11:04 AM
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Thanks for your insight. My appearance hasn't significantly changed in the last 5 years but I suspect that it will after hitting 30 which I'm slightly worried about. How has your experience been with that ? As of now, I don't do cold approaches. I realized that by having a social circle you get acess to a lot women fast and that's what I'm trying to tackle. But of course, there is still the age difference. Almost verybody will be younger than me. Very true, I can't help my attraction and I'm not…
/r/seduction21/07/21 10:22 AM
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This is not difficult to achieve though honestly. Basic social skills will get you there.
/r/seduction16/07/21 09:06 PM
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I'm saying that the discrepancy shouldn't be huge. Why did I dwindle their hope though ? I know a lot of average looking guys who are in relationships
/r/seduction16/07/21 09:03 PM
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Basic conversation skills means being an emotionally healthy person who ha socialized enough that he is aware of social cues. This is a prerequisite for all human interactions. Also : Women who feel that you are a catch to her are not going to "test" you significantly. People in manosphere communities define alpha as some weird, hyper-dominant behavior that magically is going to turn her on. Which it is not. No amount of "alpha" behavior is going to do that. Also, on the issue of looks : Height …
/r/seduction16/07/21 12:12 AM
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I think values are a good point. Can you make some examples on the impact of them in a relationship ? On the age thing : Outliers exist of course. And you seem to be very self-aware in knowing why you were attracted to your husband. I get the maturity thing, I think this is why women usually don't like to date below their age as it causes discrepancies in communication.
/r/seduction15/07/21 11:59 PM
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I think these people are compensating for something. I honestly don't think reasonable people believe that having a yacht will make you happy. Friends, hobbys and enough to support oneself, one's hobbies and their loved ones. There are also studies that show that money brings happiness if it lifts someone out of poverty. This is why people's happiness seems to rise up to 70k a year and after that not anymore.
/r/seduction28/06/21 07:05 PM
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A yacht is not a source of happiness and it never will be Having enough money to buy clothes, food and pursue hobbies and realize your ambitions is a source of happiness.
/r/seduction28/06/21 06:22 PM
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I don't think that's worrysome because most people won't have access to tons of money and many attractive women.
/r/seduction28/06/21 05:49 PM
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There's numerous studys that dispute exactly that.
/r/seduction28/06/21 05:18 PM
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"A healthy man in his 50s can get women half his age." Absolutely not. No young, semi-attractive woman who doesn't have major psychological issues would be with a 50 year old. I think this major coping.
/r/seduction17/05/21 07:08 PM
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Exactly. "You don't need women in abundance in your life to have an "Abundance Mindset". It certainly helps, but not necessary." Can you ? This always looks like coping to me. I don't think I've met a happy guy who has been single for an extended period of time without being with a woman. I'll be interested in how one ought to create that woman-independant abundance you are talking about. Hobbies, friends ? ""Scarcity Mindset" means you gonna accept any shit behavior, because you're too scarred …
/r/seduction17/05/21 02:00 PM
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Yeah being abundant around girls your age is not that hard, especially when you're 30. But this is only the case because women who are 30 suddenly start realizing that they're running out of options and time. By older they usually mean 5+ maximum. There's always outliers generally speaking couples who are of similar age tend to be the most succesful ones.
/r/seduction17/05/21 01:47 PM
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care to elaborate ? I think it has decent ideas but obviously flawed.
/r/seduction23/04/21 09:43 AM
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See, this is what I consider a good approach and more realistic than the idea of being 100% upfront about everything. Intrigue is very imporant, especially on first dates. Since you mentioned the importance of intrigue and having your agenda- how would you handle the situation if you were Jack - if you were getting asked all these concrete questions about your education and everything else ?
/r/seduction23/04/21 09:42 AM
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Honestly, I agree. Out of curiosity : How would handle it if you were Jack ? Let's say you knew you were getting asked all these concrete questions about what you have done in the past few years and whether you managed to finish your degree or not, knowing that you haven't and had other demons to battle.
/r/seduction23/04/21 09:37 AM
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Do you think that's a fair comparison though ? Most guys are content with a girl who's decently attractive and has a likable personality. Men are also more forgiving on mental health issues on women. Men on the other hand know that women are attracted to men with the same status or higher. Men are also judged harshly on anything that indicates mental health problems. I think this makes it so hard for men to be "completely" authentic even if they want to.
/r/seduction23/04/21 09:33 AM
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Truly inspiring. We all can learn from George.
/r/seduction20/04/21 07:07 PM
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This is my experience as well. People of a similiar level of attractiveness end up together which is detrimental to the idea of the whole af/bb thing. I think a lot of people also think people are banging each other 24/7 in college which is not the case. Also so called "chad-like" behavior would get laughed at in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 11:12 AM
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Confidence as in verbal intelligence, wit, humor, assertion and basic knowledge on how to flirt is attractive. Game as in overly complicated psycho mind games, negging and other odd techniques are not sustainable.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 11:08 AM
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It's not an unsupported point of view, it's how everybody in the real world thinks and lives. And once again you are providing me with things you see on the internet. No sane women yearn for serial killers or some narcisstic man baby like Trump. No women that I interact with do this. I feel like there seems to be a huge difference between university-educated women (and people) in general and different demographics. I think the reason why people experience and observe different viewpoints because…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 11:05 AM
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You were talking about dating a 30 year old younger attractive woman who is in love with you and you are raging in the thread. Let me tell yourself something, With all due respect, you are deluding yourself if you think an emotionally healthy woman will be in "love" with a 30 year older man. This does not happen. But you do you,man. But I really hope people don't believe stuff like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 11:32 AM
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Interesting, what makes you think so ? I'm curious. I have the opposite impression. In my experience unemployed people have less money for social activities. They also have more shame causing them to withdraw as they have nothing to talk about in conversations as being employed is usually considered a vital part of a person. Whereas an employed person of course works most of their time but when they socialize, they do so more eagerly. They also interact with more people during the day. They also…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 10:43 AM
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Well there you have it. They have social lives. Keep in mind though that unemployment more often than not reduces social opportunities. On top of that it can lead to low self-esteem which then again may reflect a man's charisma. Of course even then it's possible. Anything is possible. I've had sex when I was unemployed. But loads of it ? Rather not.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 10:34 AM
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" Do I give two shits about a male body attached to a penis? Nope. Dildos handle that. Company? I have women for that. What do you offer?? " I'm not exactly what you guys are arguing about but sex usually releases different hormones and more serotonin than masturbation. Both sexes usually crave physical intimacy which is healthy
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 10:14 AM
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Finances matter more in your thirties (in your forties even more) than they matter in your twenties. That is correct. Status as in social status still matters in your twenties, as in having friends, being social and being part of activities. Having some level of access to money is still not completely unimportant in your twenties as it widens your possibilities to be part of fun activities. Also I would argue education (which is a form of status in itself) may matter more than raw money. People …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 09:19 AM
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Okay my guy
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 08:06 AM
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Honestly man.. I'm not trying to discredit you or your story but being with somebody who is 30 years younger/older is absolutely not the norm and usually there is something else going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 07:46 AM
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Why are you stating that confidence is attractive though as some type of antidote to what I said ? Everybody knows confidence is attractive and I have not disputed this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 07:30 AM
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You are providing me with an internet article as evidence. Anectodal on top of that. This is exactly what I'm talking about, dude. We know so little about the dynamics within that incident. How attractive were the women, how educated,how mentally well ? And so on and so on. I can tell you one thing though " Two of the women tattooed the inmate's name on their bodies" No mentally well person does this. Stories like these do not apply to regular people and offer no credible conclusions.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 07:21 AM
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I mean..whatever floats your boat I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 06:33 AM
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I don't have enough time to respond to everything right now but " Wrong. If this were the case woman would be scooping up all the ugly hard working nerds in high school and college, because those traits existed back then, and it's what made them rich now. But that doesn't happen. It's about the money. " As I said, yes if you're significantly below average in terms of physical attractiveness (short height and unattractive face and unattractive body and attractive voice) then yes, you will probabl…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 05:49 AM
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It's funny how this is how I felt after experiencing casual sex and feeling how I was not enough for more. I felt pretty pathetic. I guess the grass is always greener on the other side ?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 05:18 AM
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Physical attractiveness is important, I agree with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 05:15 AM
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Well, I do think romantic love is hollywood bs. "Love"is a word we've invented as we're concept seeking creatures and we need words to describe complicated concepts for the purpose of simplicity. I think what love means is heavy compatibility. This is why "love" often happens where there is : Similiar level of phyiscal attractiveness, intelligence, age and having similar interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 05:13 AM
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This is a very good point. Hollywood does a piss poor job on showing how social dynamics work. I remember being very young and trying to emulate James Bond/Hank Moody type of figures and realizing later on how embarassing that type of behavior is in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 05:04 AM
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Well, if you're very tall in your area, this may be it. Some, especially very short women, get off of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 04:25 AM
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Well, the engineer example I agree with. I do think a lot of people automatically equate "Guy has money/status= beta bux. If he didn't, the girl wouldn't be with him". And I think that's a false dichtonomy. How would you define character ?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 04:24 AM
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How are we disagreeing here ? Famous people, musicians and athletes have always been attractive. Publicly acknowledged status is an attraction booster. We're not talking about famous people. An uneducated drug dealer won't get with an attractive college-educated woman because of too much friction and disparity in demographics. He may be popular with a woman within his demographic.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 04:00 AM
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The only way of this happening is if you're really hot and she's way below your looks level so you're special and a big win in her eyes. But most men don't want women way below their looks level because that would mean the women aren't attractive. They want women they find at least slightly attractive. And for those you need to have more going on than your looks since they often do, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 03:40 AM
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Sorry, I tried to shorten it as much as possible. How much money was necessary for you and in what ways did it help you and how did you put yourself out there? ​ I agree with your points.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 02:58 AM
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" She is going for casual sex, and when that is what she is looking for, the alpha who is hot but has nothing else going on is exactly what she will be fine with. " Again, this does not happen. Even in a friends with benefits type situation you need things to talk about. In order to have things to talk about, you need to do interesting or valuable things. Most time spent together is not having sex, it's spent conversing and doing stuff. In order to have things to talk about, you need to have som…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 02:39 AM
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Also : I never said that "game" (I don't even like that term honestly) will you make you super attractive. I actually think that dating coaches blow the value of game way out of proportion for obvious reasons that benefit them. I'm talking about how compatiblity creates attraction ( girl with high verbal skills will fall for a guy with high verbal skills and not some roided out airhead). Of course, having some level of physical of attraction will always help.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 02:14 AM
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" 6'3 Chad can literally order random female strangers to his place to fuck through dating apps." No, he can't. I never see this happen, nor does anybody whom I know. Again, this is what I mean when I say people socialize too little or have too little awareness, I'm not trying to insult anybody when I say this. So called "Chad fish experiments" are useless because people doing them don't follow through. Also, sexting or getting nice reactions in a chat does not equal meeting up and having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 02:06 AM
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I may be responding more to the black pill community with that one. If I recall correctly though, according to TRP, women fuck so called alphas in their twenties even if they have nothing going on for them or are not compatible with each other in other areas, neglecting the things I mentioned in my op such as the relative nature of attractiveness and compatibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 02:02 AM
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I'm trying to achieve wealth and power. Jokes aside, I'm trying to be very specific about some preconceived notions about the issues mentioned as I think a lot of people lean to very black and white thinking .
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 01:53 AM
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Exactly. I understand that hearing about other people having dates when you don't have any yourself can be discouraging. I'm saying that it's not this pleasure island it's made out to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 01:48 AM
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Thanks for sharing. Before I've been with a girl for the first time, sex was really important to me. I wanted to know what it's like. Maybe even just to confirm to myself that I can do it and that I'm not a weirdo, I don't know. I think a lot of people feel like this. So I can empathize with you very well. And there are still many things I want to experience with regards to intimacy. I do wonder if it's actually necessary though to feel complete . I wish it weren't but I have my doubts. Also agr…
/r/seduction19/01/21 02:13 AM
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This why I don't really get when people make claims like those in my op. I really wonder if I'm missing something. I guess the only thing I see that could work against you is that one may adapt a certain "pleaser mindset". As in feeling like you have to prove yourself or achieve things to get a girl, thus adapting a submissive attitude. For example going into a career which you think will be attractive to women or choosing a well-paying job over a fulfilling job for a similar reason. But still, …
/r/seduction19/01/21 01:47 AM
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Aren't they though ? As I mentioned before, the urge for sex and intimacy can be overwhelming. I realize it again and again -anytime I've convinced myself that I've found a deeper truth (often achieved through meditation) - at some point my instinct to reproduce aka my sex drive tends to kick in.
/r/seduction19/01/21 01:28 AM
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So it's actually not possible to feel confident without achievements or at least just as confident as other people or more confident.. So much for the bs psychology self-help stuff la "real self-esteem is based on who we are" and "contigent self-esteem is conditional and based on what we do". I never understood that saying. In my life I've always observed that skills and achievements are the one things lead to confidence the most. I can't count many achievements that would be achievements in the…
/r/seduction11/08/20 08:20 PM
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Because when following your gut leads you to where you want to be.. Doing what you truly want to do and willing to do more will yield you far better rewards than slowing yourself down to accommodate some status quo. Can you elaborate on this or set an example of how this has been the case for somebody or maybe even in your life ? Really appreciate your great insight.
/r/seduction11/08/20 08:18 PM
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" Honestly yes. I'm a virgin, yet I still feel sexual reproduction affects most of my decision making more so than the achievement and consumption. " Can you make some examples ? Would be interested in knowing what it's like for other people.
/r/seduction11/08/20 07:55 PM
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Can you elaborate on the notion of "value" ? What if you don't actually bring "value" to the table on an objective scale (looks, status, social circle). Myself as an example. I'm fine with looks but I'm 28 and haven't done anything in life yet while most of my peers ( girls and guys) are finishing their degrees. Feelings of inferiority occur, precisely because I know I am inferior in those regards. Confidence comes from competence and achievements at the end of the day.
/r/seduction03/08/20 04:18 PM
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I'd be really interested in an example of that balance. It's something I find hard to create. Also, when you say "Sex shouldn't be an endgame and you shouldn't plan your life around it" - what if you're conscious of it actually being an endgame ? Responding to the second paragraph of your post : I'll give you an example that I've listed in my op. I currently want to do some volunteering. I think it would help me a lot. But it would provide with very little money, although enough to get by. Money…
/r/seduction03/08/20 04:02 PM
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What makes it unattractive for you ? I do think they can benefit somebody who's got their life together but then again maybe you wouldn't need them if you did.
/r/seduction03/08/20 03:10 PM
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So how do you reconcile this with what you actually want to do in life ? Is there such a thing as intrinsic motivation or does it all come back to mating again ? Is the conscious effort with sex as the end game in mind and making life decisions based on that idea actually counter-productive ? Aren't women much more willing to follow you if they realize you're just doing whatever you want to do ?
/r/seduction03/08/20 03:08 PM
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Video games are fun. They also simulate achievements. One could argue that achievements in real life are made to foster sexual opportunity. Achievements in video games could simulate a similar feeling. My point is though that the reason you make something out of yourself is that you know that if you didn't - mating wouldn't be possible in the long term.
/r/seduction03/08/20 03:04 PM
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What if doing what I want minimizes my mating choices ? Is there even such a thing as "intrinsic" motivation ? Doesn't it come back to mating in the end ? And how do I recognize my "gut" ? How do I differentiate between gut and other 'voices/instincts' ? I honestly don't know when my gut is speaking to me. And thank you the response. I will message you when I get to it.
/r/seduction03/08/20 03:01 PM
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I think about this often. Gratitude as a way of positive mental health. But anytime I came to the conclusion that tomorrow isn't garantueed and being alive every moment is a miracle in itself, another argument pops up in my head as to why the first argument doesn't seem to have that much of an effect. Because tomorrow isn't garantueed but how likely are those tragic incidents to occur in a first world country ? I think really not likely. So in terms of probability "tomorrow" seems likely. So one…
/r/seduction31/07/20 09:08 PM
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I've thought about this a lot. This sort of self sufficiency is a common theme here and while it sounds badass, I don't consider it realistic. It's also contradictory to some extend in my opinion. If you loved yourself you would consider yourself worthy of being with somebody else despite being flawed. It's human nature wanting to bond and wanting to be loved. If you always wait before to get with somebody you'll end up waiting a long time. It also neglects the notion that having a partner can b…
/r/seduction18/05/20 06:32 PM
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