A lot of times my GF "tests" me with questions like this:

"You hate me don't you..? " "Actually I know you don't love me"

"- ..But maybe it's just that.. you know you can tell me if it's the case..

  • What?

"Maybe you don't really love me after all" (then stares deep in the eyes)

I know she's playing when she acts like this.

But this needy, loving, almost childish behavior boggles me. Maybe it's her way to ask for love, I don't know. Most of the time I kiss her hard as a pledge of answer but right after she insists: "so? I'm waiting for your reply" like she perfectly knows the answer but wants to hear it.

"- how do you love me??" -You don't have a clue"

That's really cliche but I've already replied this once or twice.

She wants some kind of "proof" of love from me but the more I will give her what she wants the less she will ask for it. That's not something I want. I like the current state our relationship is in: she asks for more love and affection, and not the opposite.

• So this emotional investment & vulnerability question comes to mind:

How do I manage my vulnerability and honestly show my feelings (we're in a relationship, FFS) to her without falling in the trap of the needy beta that shows too much love and gets boring? Where to draw the line?

Thanks guys and sorry for the nooby question.