How to assume attraction

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-06-29T11:01:08+00:00

Do you want me to be brutally honest or give you a PC answer?

Illustrious_Size610 · 2022-06-29T17:39:44+00:00

Assume attraction means that m you go around acting like you are sure that you are desirable no matter what other people say.

Now while this sounds like deluding yourself, the reality is that when you talk and act like you are desirable with conviction, then people feel attracted to this attitude.

It’s as if the fact that you delude yourself, can make other people to delude themselves that you are attractive and desirable.

Basically what you believe ends up manifesting itself. This works both ways. If you delude yourself into thinking you are unattractive and undesirable and a loser then people will delude themselves into thinking that you are a loser undesirable and unattractive because you will act in ways that are off putting.

Whereas when you believe you were desirable you will walk and talk and act in ways that are more attractive.

Basically your attitude is what determines how desirable you are, no matter if your traits are attractive or not. It’s how you feel about yourself what attracts or repels women regardless of your flaws or virtues.

notarealpersondw · 2022-06-29T11:05:51+00:00

The best way is to honestly work on yourself. Gym career fashion mental health etc. and I mean not half assed. When you reach your max potential you will have no choice but to be proud of yourself and assume attraction.

EthicalSeduction · 2022-06-29T15:32:13+00:00

Attraction is not just about looks. Looks make a quick first impression but once you start talking, things shift and it becomes more about who you are as a person and what value you have to offer. Focus on your value.

First ask friends what your best traits are. It's important to know what you excel at, why people like you, what you have to offer others.

Your looks are fine, as I saw your photo in your profile. Yes you can change it or improve it but this is not going to solve your attraction issues because looks are only part. They help with first impressions. Dig deeper about what is attractive about you.

Giving Value - This is where you want to focus.

A note about evolution and biology: We are attracted to those who somehow make our lives better and easier. This is what flips our attraction switches. Yes we love the hot person with the good genes but we also value the person we can team up with, count on, and do crazy cool things with (including sex).
Having quality conversations is a great way to demonstrate that you have high value. Try open ended questions (who, what, where, when, why type questions) to get people to expand. The point of an open ended question is not to get an answer but to have the other person stop and have to think deeper. And this is something they will find they will like about you - that you are deep and personal. This is attractive.
Qualification and Validation: When you see the person do something that you like and that's honestly cool about them, point it out. We all want to know that the other person values us. Don't placate someone with false compliments but when you see something real, point it out. Raise them up for legit reasons.
Conversations are use to figure out what shared interests and values you both have AND how you can team up to explore or pursue these things together. Keep this is mind as you talk and ask those good questions to find your shared interests. And then "label" them. Check in and say "You sound like a rather adventurous person. Are you? (labeling them as adventurous). And if they agree and that matches up with you as well, then you can start to explore that together - set up a date around that idea. Have further discussions around the topic. Explore together.

TheCream · 2022-06-29T11:15:32+00:00

Imagine visually having already f’d before and while you’re talking to her.

ResponsibilityKey427 · 2022-06-29T14:55:43+00:00

The advice assume attraction doesn’t make sense at all.

Canadian-Seductioner · 2022-06-29T12:08:09+00:00

By becoming attractive. This means lose the glasses, get ripped, get a better hairstyle, wear more stylish clothing, and pick up some cool hobbies.

Title	How to assume attraction
Author	real_mort
Upvotes	8
Comments	27
Date	June 29, 2022 10:45 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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