How to be less annoying?

DerpishGambino · 2016-02-22T16:50:07+00:00

Stop talking so much.

And never trust them to be straight with you, women give terrible advice (not intentionally).

Most likely you're coming across needy and insecure.

StevieBoyB · 2016-02-22T18:44:19+00:00

Difficult to diagnose on a forum, but my guess would be pull back a bit, listen to the girl more (or make her talk more), stop trying to impress and don't be overly pushy for kisses/sexual escalation. Your issue probably lies somewhere within the areas I've just described if not a combination of them.

Woujo · 2016-02-22T19:56:02+00:00

Being annoying is really just being needy.

A needy person needs something from the other person. It may be attention, advice, sympathy, etc... Anything. A real "alpha" (god, I hate that word) guy doesn't need anything from you - that's why are they so easy to talk to. You don't feel pressured to give them what they want - because they don't want anything.

Ask yourself these questions:

1) Do you ask a lot of questions? There is nothing wrong with asking questions if the point is to allow the person to talk about themselves. But if you are just asking questions to get information and the other person would rather be doing other things, guess what, you're annoying.

2) Do you talk about yourself a lot? Nothing wrong with talking about yourself, but if the other person clearly doesn't give a fuck, guess what, you're annoying.

3) Do you pester people to do things for you? Hey, come to my thing? Hey, can I get a piece of your sandwich, etc...

daddymonsterpoodle · 2016-02-23T01:17:06+00:00

First step, shut the hell up. Don't be a babbling, try hard to impress, needy motherfucker. Second step. Listen to what they are saying. You dont need to have the best stories/jokes/life experiences. You just need to show that you are intetested in them (not just their tits). Step three. Relax. Quit trying so hard to impress. Just have fun. The things I find annoying are people who are only interested in themselves, who won't shut the hell up, are bad listeners, won't get out of my personal space, ignore obvious social cues, don't know how to relax, are arrogant and not afraid to let you know how brilliant they are or people who are obviously fake. See which ones apply to you and fix it. Quick tip: most of these are caused by insecurity, insensitivity or just being an asshole. All of these ate fixable.

CrushHazard · 2016-02-22T15:36:42+00:00

Jesus Christ, if multiple women are telling you that you are annoying, you must be doing something really obvious. Can you really not figure it out?

zenoscus · 2016-02-22T17:54:31+00:00

The best advice I can give to anyone is make the girl be interested in you but while not talking much show her you are interested in her, otherwise they will think you are not interested. Become a version of yourself that girls will want to talk to you , because when a girl is not interested she doesn't really talk to you so when you try to spark a conversation you come off as anoying.

Overnight_Delivery · 2016-02-22T19:36:25+00:00

quit using you being attracted to them, as a reason for them to be attracted to you. sounds like you are using material to attract them that they don't find attractive and then are trying to run with it. there are entire sections of conversation you should completely avoid ie anything in the realm which would give you feeling of asking "so how was your day today hunny?" to your wife of 10 years. Mainly stick to being a witty goof who teases alot and who puts themselves out there for consumption.

AttractandSeduce · 2016-02-22T19:44:04+00:00

Have you been fully honest with yourself? Have you asked yourself the following question: "What am I doing too much of?"

Your sticking point may be that your putting too much effort in creating attraction. You may be over teasing, self amusing more then you need to or just in general fucking around girls too much WITHOUT creating real moments to build rapport with them.

You can always ask your closest guy friends for feedback on what your sticking point really is. Let them know that your not joking about it and you want to know what is really holding you back right now.

KatSenpai · 2016-02-22T18:39:30+00:00

When I find a guy annoying it's normally because they talk way to much and it's always non-stop. To the point where I can't say anything because all they do is talk. Usually it's just them complaining about something or talking about something that they are doing. I find this highly irritable. Don't keep telling funny stories. Let her talk. Listen to her. Question her and get to know her rather than try and keep the conversation going by talking to yourself. Keep yourself a little closed up because girls like that. They love mystery and mysterious guys. They like guys who can listen to them. Also don't always message them first. It can get annoying if it's everyday all the time.

Title	How to be less annoying?
Author	mrazman
Upvotes	17
Comments	14
Date	February 22, 2016 3:33 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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