How to be... respected?

bl1y · 2013-11-07T15:14:22+00:00

Let's start with the very basics. What have you done in order to earn respect?

dnask8r46 · 2013-11-07T18:32:14+00:00

Stop desiring respect from others.

Squidward_On_Drugs · 2013-11-07T15:16:49+00:00

Be a provider of value.

You can do this by introduce people to each other, let cool people meet other cool people. Everyone likes to make new friends, so they will remember you for it.

Be positive about everything. Never talk negative. Don't complain. Nobody likes to be around someone who can only complain about everything.

Invite your friends to cool shit/parties. Or come up with ideas to do something with your group of friends. Be the one who invites the others. Why would people invite you if you never invite them to some party or whatever.

Give people reasons to hang out with you.

joshsway · 2013-11-07T17:26:56+00:00

Lift weights. I used to be kinda skinny and people would fuck with me sometimes, but now I can sense people are kind of intimidated by me and respect me more.

subscribeaccount · 2013-11-07T16:17:15+00:00

from what i understand of your post is, you dont feel respected, a run-over, so to speak, but you have no clue why.

i break it down for you:

-you are afraid of conflicts and avoid them as much as you can, right? you want to live in peace and harmony. behind that is always fear and a lack of self-worth. you are unable to set boundaries in a proper way. you can learn that. its scary if you are not used to it but it works wonders. people will respect you and you wont be afraid to show the world who you really are(honesty to yourself and to the outside world).

READ: no more mr.nice guy - dr. robert glover

in addition to that what helped me to understand more about myself and especially the world around me is:

eckhart tolle: a new earth.

read the standart literature(in that order):

no more mr. nice guy
models - mark manson
get your hands on every tolle-book you can get(pua tyler is a huge fan- and he is basically the reason why i started reading tolle).

relax. take your time. commit yourself to self-improvement, girls is just something that comes along the way of your journey.

Calandresh · 2013-11-07T16:39:27+00:00

i'm trying not to be an asshole but to put it bluntly and being straight up, don't be a little bitch and dont be a douche. say what you mean and act with intention. Do good deeds for no reason other than wanting to help people, not to show off. Be the person you would want to respect. this feeling may also be stemming from a self esteem issue. which is a huge problem with a large number of people. What im trying to say is, how can others respect you if you dont respect yourself. Hope this helped.

-that guy on the internet

L1AM · 2013-11-08T07:57:26+00:00

This is what worked for me: get fit. Join a gym and get fit. It's an odd thing, but when you're athletically-built (goes hand-in-hand with good posture!), you get more respect right off the bat. This way, you have a better base when you go in with flirting and intellect.

L1AM · 2013-11-08T08:02:11+00:00

Speak passionately. People admire people who have ambition and passions, because those people are different and way more exciting than the vapid media-consuming populace.

If we're talking about your job, don't come at it like a "I landed this job, aw yeah." Approach it like "I can't believe I got this opportunity! This is how I put in hard work and surmounted obstacles!"

TheRedditorist · 2013-11-08T21:15:11+00:00

Build your confidence in doing what you enjoy/love. If building a relationship with someone because you're trying to get ANYTHING (approval, respect, etc) you've already failed. People will pick up on what you project, so before ANYONE can respect you, you have to begin respecting yourself first.

Seroru · 2013-11-07T20:20:05+00:00

Be trustworthy. Be positive.

itseemstoberaining · 2013-11-08T00:42:04+00:00

Self-respect is required to get respect from others.

If you do not respect yourself, others will follow suit. Even for good and kind people, trying to respect a person who has no self-respect is like walking upriver.

How do you treat yourself? Do you neglect to do the things you know are good for you, while engaging in activities that harm you or stunt your growth? How do you treat your body? How do you treat yourself emotionally? When another person treats you with disrespect, how do you respond? When you are in a situation that is undesirable, do you take action to improve your situation without bullshitting yourself?

Self-respect is basically believing that you deserve happiness and acting in line with that belief.

You transmit the level of self-respect you have through all your actions - from big life decisions and daily habits to the tiniest body language.

ultrasuperthrowaway · 2013-11-07T15:42:16+00:00

Be a connector, introduce people to agents, brokers, attorneys, judges, government officials whoever they need at the time. They will value the relationships you have cultivated.

Title	How to be... respected?
Author	kjegrhwkeefw
Upvotes	8
Comments	15
Date	November 7, 2013 2:34 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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