how to become fun?

n1cey · 2012-09-30T19:34:03+00:00

If you don't have anything interesting to talk about, you got 3 options: 1. Learn to lie, everyone delivers a small lie , just learn to do it well. 2. Ask the right questions 3. Work on getting something interesting to talk about.

And read about topic threading, that is what I naturally did before reading here on seddit, but sometimes I staggered, now I never do.

Good luck, and get practical

silveridea · 2012-10-01T04:11:13+00:00

Just read this, and dude, lemme tell you. This is my exact same situation. The whole bad conversation, same background and mind blanking out. I've had relationships, but nothing that long.

Let this come from someone who is in the same place in life as you; trying to figure yourself out, appeal to others, and naturally be happy with the person you are:

Don't let the bad thoughts, you know the ones (he's awesome you aren't, you suck at this, you weren't even able to do this) overtake you. They will get to you at time, I can tell you that they will. But I believe persistence and perseverance are our strongest allies in this battle with ourselves.

ObiWan111 · 2012-09-30T17:31:54+00:00

i've been reading up here on seddit for a while now but i've hit a major bump, i can't keep a conversation running.

here

i've always been a loner and didn't do anything interesting

Start doing interesting things.

i can't really contribute to many topics so a short while after a conversation starts my mind just goes blank

I seriously doubt this is true. A lot of people with your problem are just afraid to say what's actually on their mind out of a fear of upsetting people/getting rejected/being "creepy". Say what you're thinking and stop holding yourself back. Take these examples 1 2

SelfAmuse · 2012-09-30T17:18:54+00:00

You need to have a GAME PLAN going in. Especially as a newbie. If you don't know the structure of pickup yet I highly suggest reading about the Mystery Method and learning the M3 model.

For now, practice opening. Know your OPENER. Practice it over and over again. Get good at that little piece then add another, and another, and another, etc. etc.

2012-10-01T20:20:29+00:00

turn off your computer, tv, & video game console. also take a time out from smoking too much pot. Go outside, and do anything: i.e. take a walk, hike, bike ride, a free concert if you can find one. bring a friend if you can. There you can meet & talk to more people. from there your conversational skill can improve, it's pretty hard to do that looking a tv/computer screen

Title	how to become fun?
Author	0newinged
Upvotes	9
Comments	13
Date	September 30, 2012 4:49 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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