How to escalate correctly

HappyJerk · 2014-04-01T18:47:24+00:00

Tell her you want to date her.

Just do it. Don't wait for IOIs or other green lights. You have to just do it.

__JeRM · 2014-04-01T19:19:19+00:00

I came here thinking I was going to be taught how to escalate correctly.

Boy, was I wrong.

Tofabyk · 2014-04-01T20:49:16+00:00

You make this sound a lot more difficult than it really is. Just start touching her more and more intimately until she stops you. Then wait one minute and continue. If she keeps stopping you, it's time for a mini freeze.

Women love men who don't ask for sex (friend zone) and will usually not initiate any sexual contact. These men are the best thing that can happen to a girl as they provide security without asking for anything.

On the other hand women have to feel attracted to men who show a lot of sexual confidence. Men who display that they know how to get what they want. Men who laugh at the idea of being friendzoned.

You have to take the full responsability for the sex. She wants it, you want it, she has to play hard-to-get, you know how to play this game, no big deal, keep a smile.

She doesn't want to see herself as a slut or easy girl but she can live with the fact that she is 'simply to hot to resist'.

AnonyBot32 · 2014-04-02T02:29:14+00:00

Figuring out whether a girl is sexually interested really isn't particularly hard because it's typically just something you feel - reading these signals is hardwired into us (unless perhaps you fall somewhere on the autism-spectrum). It's like asking, "how can I tell when a guy is pissed and wants to beat the shit out of me?" It's often just something you can feel.

There are plenty of "indicator of interest" lists, but it's nearly impossible to actively keep track of them while you're interacting with a girl. Besides, very few of these indicators are particularly reliable. You're better off just trusting your instincts.

And if you have a problem trusting your instincts, then your real issue is confidence.

Tfsr92 · 2014-04-01T18:38:25+00:00

The only way to do it is to immerse yourself in it. Start off by initiating conversations with girls your don't know. The more you talk to the better you'll get. Sure, you're going to suck at first, expect it. You will eventually (or quickly) get better. Use you're confidence as an advantage to improve your image, girls love confidence. As long as you use your head and remember all that you've learned (eye contact, kino, body language, etc) you will do just fine.

imathrowaway9 · 2014-04-02T01:39:37+00:00

Is your issue fear or is it that you view the situation as possibly fuck up able by going for something when she doesn't want it? I mean this as a legitimate question. If fear isn't the issue, just make a point to always go for a kiss/full on makeout. I have gone straight to a make out with no kino lead up and completely un ideal positioning many times and it's never turned out badly. If fear is your issue, that's a much harder battle. I'd suggest using alcohol to make it easier, and once it's more normal you'll be transitioning more and more to not being afraid to pull the trigger.

Mr_Cherry_Poppins · 2014-04-02T15:37:02+00:00

This belongs in r/askseddit That's ask seddit. Not ask reddit.

2014-04-02T21:10:27+00:00

Semi irrelevant, but after reading your post, I realized that a guy in my past helped me out of the "ugly duckling" phase. I didn't even realize that this was a thing, or that guys actively try to help ugly ducklings. Do you think he did it on purpose? He would say stuff like "you're beautiful no matter what" and "I liked you better curvy" but oddly enough, the compliments had a reverse psychological effect, motivating me to eat healthy and exercise 50 lbs off within months.

How common is this?

joshsway · 2014-04-01T18:41:19+00:00

I wrote about this here: https://www.joshsway.com/articles/view/how-to-escalate-on-a-date hope that helps...

Title	How to escalate correctly
Author	huoqhuoohu
Upvotes	44
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Date	April 1, 2014 5:20 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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