How to focus on your progress, not others?

2020-07-28T13:03:24+00:00

You look at yourself in the mirror and be like that's one sweet looking dude and then your brain is so uplifted that you forget about everything around you

StephenDawg · 2020-07-28T15:03:12+00:00

I have confidence in my charm and ability to be playful and animated and get under her skin. I've outcompeted taller, bigger guys because of it.

RobinHeimonen · 2020-07-28T14:59:30+00:00

Great question since this is a way more common problem out there then you might think. We have a tendency to want to add values, just so we can compare things to each other. And in your case you are comparing your values in attractiveness and social values to other guys around you, so that you can put your own value in perspective.

We humans do this all the time and the problem with comparing your values to another, is that you will loose control over every situation that you put yourself in, since the only thing you can control is yourself and not weather or not the room your standing in will be full of guys that are attractive and with high social value. The result is that you feel a lost of control and a lowered self esteem, and since you seek value by comparing yourself to your surroundings it only gets worse and worse, like a snowball gaining speed.

As difficult as it may seem, try not acknowledge males in your surroundings, at least not as other potential partner for the girls that are around you. Only focus on yourself and what makes you a good partner for them and what it is that makes you a great guy. Remember those things and remind yourself whenever you are doubting or starting to focus on other guys around you.

hunterpua · 2020-07-28T16:39:31+00:00

One of the reasons is because you think outer game is only looks.

Outer game is also and in a larger part, your social skills. How quick witted you are, how captivating your stories are, how funny you can be on the fly, how good you are at pushing women's buttons, how well you can play people off of each other, etc.

If you just want to compete against other guys to see who is the most good looking then get into modeling but if you want to be as attractive as you can be to girls then develop every aspect of yourself.

Title	How to focus on your progress, not others?
Author	Goldfielddid911
Upvotes	5
Comments	4
Date	July 28, 2020 12:51 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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