How to get confidence back after a breakup?

SnapSocialGuru · 2018-07-04T03:04:17+00:00

I went through a breakup 8 weeks ago.

It was a 2 year relationship. And it was my 3rd LTR.

And let me tell you. IT DOESNT GET EASIER.

But I do know the cycles I go through. I know what works. And what doesn’t.

Here’s what’s initially going to happen: you’re going to want to get back out and fuck tons of girls. You say to yourself, “this will make me confident again! It’ll prove I’ve got ‘game’. It’ll prove I’m cool.”

But that shit begins to feel shallow after a while. It doesn’t fulfill you. And you realize you’ve been wasting your time on strange girls you don’t even know.

Here’s the best thing to do: Go out. Make new friends. Take a solo hike. Read a book. Work harder than ever. Hit the gym. Eat healthy. Keep a journal. Jog often. Pickup a hobby. Develop an awesome, big ass social circle with new friends. Talk to everyone. Be eccentric. Develop a NEW, better you.

But hold off on the fucking. Don’t hook up or date anyone new. Learn to be confident, alone. Without having someone there to validate you.

Trust, that’s the right path my n*gga. It really is. You’ll develop some SERIOUS confidence. After 2-3 months.. man. You’ll be someone different. More powerful. BETTER! The world won’t be ready for you.

Believe that.

TheManWithThreePlans · 2018-07-04T08:22:26+00:00

You got good advice.

However, getting another chick under you is super useful too. It doesn't really feel hollow as long as you're making connections, not just having a string of one night stands.

The main thing is building your life. That's already been discussed though.

I wanna talk about spinning plates. Go out, talk to women, have zero expectations because your game is probably shit (it's always shit after a relationship). Get used to flirting again, get used to getting solid numbers. Try not to pull on the same night. Get them on dates (nothing serious, just a one on one man to woman interaction), and connect to other women. Connecting with other women on more than just a genital level will let you see how awesome women in general are.

You're not gonna worry too much about your ex anymore. There are just sooooo many women out there. Don't spin too many plates, since it could get in the way of your life building (2-3).

Source: Had a super long term relationship. 6 years. Didn't work out. Was actually in physical pain and wanted to die. I built my life (but really I was just filling my time with distractions, even if they were the good kind, so I was too busy to think about anything else), the pain was still there, under it all. Tried fucking everything that moved. That made it worse. Connecting with other women on a personal level REALLY helped me out.

masterduelistky · 2018-07-04T06:47:53+00:00

Almost a year later and I'm still a train wreck....

cowgomoo37 · 2018-07-04T13:30:13+00:00

I understand this feeling all too well. Just broke up with who I thought was my soulmate just a month ago. Been relying on bad coping machinists, such as comparing my social life with hers. This is the most toxic trait to have. This post helps being an idea to mind on how to make this better for me, us. Thanks for the post. Good luck friends in the same boat.

Title	How to get confidence back after a breakup?
Author	zoyzause
Upvotes	6
Comments	9
Date	July 4, 2018 2:32 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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