How to keep a conversation going?

GargantuaBlarg29 · 2016-05-14T13:30:10+00:00

1: Accept that sometimes a conversation just won't last more than 15 seconds, a minute, etc. Don't force it.

2: People love talking about themselves. People don't as much enjoy talking about you.

3: Every time they say something, ask yourself "is there anything in what they just said that I can branch this conversation into?" IF yes, do that. If no, ask yourself "Is there any way I can relate to that and open up a new avenue of something to talk about?

Example she says "I have a degree in biology". You can branch that into "Oh? Where did you go to college?" Or "Wow what interests you most about biology". Or "I remember back in 7th grade dissecting frogs. Did you have to do a lot of that?"

4: Try not to make it 20 questions by commenting about something she said before you ask something else. One or two sentences is fine, gauge if she's interested in what you're saying. Continue if so but change the subject if not.

5: People feed off your excitement level. Act (slightly) more excited to talk to them / more interested in what they're saying than you would in a normal conversation.

yadoya · 2016-05-14T10:56:34+00:00

Don't try. Love is like a fart. If you need to force it, it's probably shit.

JACKEDtheRIPPEST · 2016-05-14T10:39:12+00:00

I'm not much of a talker either, but I do enjoy (and want) social interaction with others. What I try to do is get the other person to do most of the talking. You just have to break their shell and find what they like to talk about.

Practice conversing with everyone, especially new people, this will carry over talking with girls.
Thread the needle: Listen to what people mention, they could be used as conversation topics.
Relate to others: relate to what they say, this is a good way to reciprocate conversation. It could be a common interest, experience, or feeling.
Say how things make you feel: e.g. I love hiking, I hate traffic too, I had a lot of fun. Try to share positive feelings.
Be interesting and find out what's interesting about them.

provin1327 · 2016-05-14T16:53:31+00:00

F.O.R.D Family, Occupation, Recreation, Dreams. Ask and talk about those things. Dont just ask questions, spin off jokes, respond with creative answers and observations

jocomoco · 2016-05-14T14:13:11+00:00

stack openers and questions - learn a few page worth of material - i did that - it helped me - you can be like an adventure video game

DonMcLongJon · 2016-05-14T17:09:57+00:00

https://youtu.be/mPRUNGGORDo

DirkDieGurke · 2016-05-15T04:21:06+00:00

Today I had a nice experience in a social setting. conversing with friends and this girl that happened to sit across from me (OH NO!). Anyway, I just flowed with whatever, asked her if she had gray hairs already, or painted them. She made fun of something I did, and I told her to eat shit (smiling), she seemed kinda surprised, but smiled. I didn't focus on her 100% and had fun with others. I'd say it worked out well. She was much more talkative towards me and made suggestions/comments about hanging out sometime.

Just flow, be outcome-independent, and treat her like a dude, so she has fun.

Strike48 · 2016-05-14T19:04:22+00:00

Once you get some experience on dates, you'll understand that heavily pre planning conversation topics will be a shit show. Not only does it put more pressure on you by having an agenda, but it just feels stiff and unnatural. All you need to focus on is genuinely trying to find out things about her. When people say that women love to talk, it's not a lie. Most women genuinely will talk their asses off if given the chance. They unload a truckload of information and if you read between the sentences, you'll have questions for days. Ask questions and when she answers them, branch out and ask other questions. The simple truth is that you just have to be interested and the questions come naturally. Also, there's nothing wrong with a few silent seconds. Don't fear them. Sometimes they're actually just really nice and build sexual tension on both ends.

Title	How to keep a conversation going?
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Upvotes	16
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Date	May 14, 2016 8:56 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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