I get anxious when I don't get a response to a text or the girl just stops responding, how do I start conversations up again?

tab13092 · 2018-02-14T18:15:21+00:00

Don't worry pal, even the best of them slip up from time to time.

Just try to focus on other areas of your life/self improvement. I too used to do this, and got over it by just not worrying about it (easier said then done of course)

If you've made the mistake of reaching out and get no response, just put it on the back burner. Understand and accept that it's not in your best interest to do it again and just let go of the negativity you associate with it. Keep busy. I've done this and recovered from it, given that there was already a pretty well established connection to begin with. You can too, just play it cool and don't reach out. If she cares/misses you then trust me she will get in touch.

cbh28 · 2018-02-14T19:36:43+00:00

If she stops responding, move on. If she really wants to talk to you, she'll text you.

LingeringGnome · 2018-02-15T00:01:27+00:00

Texting is for arranging dates. It's also for crisp, playful POSITIVE emotions, not boring novels about their day or politics or your beliefs.

I talk a lot about "emotionally-centered" men. Being UNABLE to walk away from a text conversation is neurotic and emotionally-uncentered behavior. Take this as a great opportunity to learn to control your emotions.

You should be having conversations IN PERSON. If a girl goes cold on you (usually she has other male orbiters, a boyfriend, or career) simply text her:

"Hey, it's Netflix and drinks night at my place. You';re welcome to join."

Most guys shudder at that kind of text. Why? They are terrified of being honest with women, of being honest with their intentions...mostly due to lack of experience and putting women on a pedestal. They hem and haw and mask their intentions with all kinds of ass-kissy bullshit.

If she says "no", you say "cool, no worries", and let her get back to you. See and date other women. If she doesn't get back to you, so what? At least you were congruent and honest.

And the thing is...after this woman hangs with a bunch of passive douchebags, she'll see your text as dominant and to the point...and there's a good chance she'll hit you back down the road. Could be weeks, could be months. Could be two days later.

Patience ATTRACTS women.

ChuckIsSatan · 2018-02-14T19:16:30+00:00

Firstly, recognize that it's probably not even you that is causing this. Life is busy, people get caught up in random stuff all the time. Also some people just aren't that glued to their phone and don't reply quickly. No need to get anxious over it.

Even if their lack of response is from something you said, polarizing people by being yourself is a good thing. You weed out the personalities that don't mesh with yours.

That being said, we all say dumb things sometimes which are not accurate representations of ourselves. If that's more the case then try this:

Wait at least a few hours, but preferably a day or two. If she hasn't responded to your initial remark after that period, change gears and don't bother with your last comment anymore since it was a bust. I like to reopen with something humorous and random to get them invested again. R/showerthoughts sorted by top has some great content if you really can't think of anything to say on your own.

If you don't get any sort of response after giving them something to become invested with, time to move on.

I too like a little text game before a date despite everyone's assertion to avoid it. It's only a good idea if you can use it to build attraction and investment though, avoid it if not.

Good luck connecting!

Title	I get anxious when I don't get a response to a text or the girl just stops responding, how do I start conversations up again?
Author	The_Reddit_Jester
Upvotes	9
Comments	14
Date	February 14, 2018 5:13 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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