I got laid once in 2019

john18809 · 2020-01-18T04:29:09+00:00

I wish I got laid once in my entire life. Be thankful you even got laid once this year.

TANKER_06 · 2020-01-18T04:58:21+00:00

Hey man, it's good you are going for therapy. I'm no psychiatrist, but you might have depression, and that is no joking matter. Whatever the case is, get your head cleared and thinking straight, don't think about anything else, they will come after.

When I had a depression stint from getting overworked, it was like living life in a fog, and I feel all the negative emotions for anything I look at. Friends started to get irritated, and only the true ones stuck around and forced me to get diagnosed and medication.

You can imagine how that would affect any girls I approach!

Don't blame your job, the hours, your opportunities, it's you. When you start feeling better, and gain confidence in yourself, it will get better.

CharacterNote · 2020-01-18T09:41:28+00:00

How does your roomate do it? Is he good looking?

ps - I have many single friends who didn't get laid in 2019, so you're beating them! :) chin up!!

self_journey · 2020-01-18T15:06:20+00:00

Jesus Christ man you need a new perspective on life. Go on a fun vacation, go on a meditative retreat, get your mind off of this bullshit that our society had pushed on us to be so important.

The fact of the matter is that everyone is different and derives happiness from life differently. I slept with about 20 women in the last year but I'm 30 and not in a significant relationship. Should I kill myself per your logic? Even if I didn't sleep with one girl in the last year I wouldn't kill myself because it's absurd to make the simple act of sex such a determinant on whether you get to live or not.

You're 25. You seriously have so much time to sow your oats. That adage that guys peak in their 30s is so true. I've slept with more women in their early 20s as a 30 year old than I ever did in my 20s. But who the fuck cares anyways? Is there a panel of judges analyzing my sexual encounters? Fuck no there's not.

Life is absurd. It's a joke. There are guys getting pussy left and right and then there are paraplegics who can't even get their dick hard for the rest of their life. Both people go on living. Get out of your head.

Chroms · 2020-01-18T09:41:51+00:00

Chill dude! you are not even in your prime. I started to change things even later then you. My sex-life started picking up when I was 27 and I'm 32 now. And I'm not fucking girls every weekend but I get my fair share of it and it only works out for me when I'm good to myself. Hit the gym, get your sleep, dress well, eat healthy, cut down on masturbation, be social with friends, family and colleagues. It will slowly improve your confidence. Your looks doesn't matter (I'm bald) and as you get older girls will notice you more. The last few years I had girls every age and different backgrounds. It will get better if you get your shit together and find a positive outlook on your life. Trust me.

AaronDad · 2020-01-18T16:59:52+00:00

you need to change your mentality. tell yourself you are good enough, tell yourself you can get girls. slowly but surely your confidence will rise and everything will fall in place. it starts in your mind bro, get that right. you got this.

0urlasthope · 2020-01-19T02:31:29+00:00

A few thoughts to help you, coming from a virgin till 24 y/o:

Humans are good at what they practice at. You're good at music, your career, working out, because you've put effort into them directly.

Yes, working out and having hobbies helps socially, but only indirectly. Don't beat yourself up for not being good at socializing, you haven't practiced. To be mad at yourself for this is stupid.

You can be mad at yourself for allowing yourself to go for so long not realizing this or not pushing yourself ( I often do this unfortunately), but hopefully you use this as more motivation. Honestly though, letting emotions like fear and anger WILL cloud your judgement hard (ever try to play a videogame while tilted?)

I am guessing you practiced very little pushing your comfort zone socially? My goal was to, if all else fails, at least have challenged myself. I feel like this was the most critical step/realization.

Your fear of creeping girls is probably irrationally strong. I used to be this exact way, then I started realizing how much some girls EXPECT pursuit to a degree. I am still pretty respecting of them, but I am not going to have my night be boring cause I bother a girl with 20 seconds of conversation.

beinghonestlife · 2020-01-22T17:34:11+00:00

I totally understand how you feel. I am closer to 30 than you, am constantly surrounded by beautiful women in my university, and yet it seems like love - and female contact in general - is meant for other people and not for me.

I work out, I have a good social life, lots of friends, and am friends with many women. But, nobody has shown any romantic interest in me for years now. Everyone in my life seems to have a significant other, yet here I am going to bed alone every single night. I am so desperate for female affection, yet I am completely unable to make it happen.

And I always ask myself the question: why? My answer is that I must just be too ugly for any woman to be interested in me. Although I project confidence, deep down I feel like I am undeserving of intimacy and love, not because of who i am, but purely because of how I look. I really don't know what to do about it.

I've never said this out loud or written it down before, but I think I might be on the verge of depression because of it. Love and intimacy seem to be no big deal unless you are starved of it, in which case it turns into a massive issue.

Insaneflirt_max · 2020-01-18T09:59:27+00:00

im literally doing everything in my power to try to be a winner

And yet I'm pretty sure you don't cold approach women.

Title	I got laid once in 2019
Author	bigang99
Upvotes	1
Comments	15
Date	January 18, 2020 4:04 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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