I have a hard time finding girls interesting

Gnostromo · 2018-09-27T03:05:46+00:00

There’s that famous quote: “Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people”

When was the last time you heard women discuss ideas? Sure you might run into some but mostly they skip past events and gossip about people. If you find a woman that wants to talk ideas then latch onto her.

NoDoughThough · 2018-09-27T03:36:49+00:00

I thought I was one of the only ones who felt this way. Sure, I’m physically attracted to women (the “you must be gay,” quote gets old, but it doesn’t bother me anymore— because I’m not gay nor am I bothered by people who are.) But honestly I get more intrigued by ideas, arts, and most of all, my goals, than I do females. I feel like it’s kind of cut me off of the dating world and therefore I’m not as involved as other guys in their early 20s. But like another commenter said, when was the last time you heard an average female (or male too, for that matter) hold an interesting conversation? Goals are important. Become the best person you can be. When you feel lonely because you don’t have a date on weekends, think of me (lol) because I do too sometimes. But all jokes aside, think about in 10 years when your friends will be married with a 9-5 and you’ll have become the version of yourself you dreamed of becoming. There’s a handful of us guys out there just like you— we totally get your dilemma.

nastyamerican · 2018-09-27T03:45:49+00:00

If you’re not interested, you’re not interested. Don’t fake it.

Try this. Talk to them about things you’re interested in. If it doesn’t resonate at all with her. Then she’s not for you.

bringbackthefax · 2018-09-27T02:22:17+00:00

Get one ugly but interesting GF and one hot but boring one! Joking aside, the prettiest women are often the least interesting cause they typically have had a less challenging life and everyone is praising them for every fart that comes out of their shiny ass.

leftoversnacks · 2018-09-27T03:56:37+00:00

Find women that share interests, or else accept that you might be a narcissist.

NedsBastard1 · 2018-09-27T00:23:58+00:00

There’s a trick. Even if you’re not actually interested in their life, MAKE them believe that you really are and get that poon. Even if you don’t give af, ask them about their day.

HungDaddyNYC · 2018-09-27T03:03:45+00:00

Some people aren’t interesting. Many ugly and pretty people are dull. Move on to the next one. End it quickly and politely.

recyclablebanthas · 2018-09-27T03:50:12+00:00

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I have a hard time finding girls interesting

This comes down to what your focus is on.

If you are actively observing, listening, and paying attention, the world around you and the people in it, should not be boring. They should be defaulting to being of interest.

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Any advice on how to become more interested in a woman’s personal life?

Every person is a puzzle. People's emotions and motivations are all something anyone can relate to, when you get down to it. Think about some of the most famous stories in history. Othello, Jack and the Beanstalk, Hansel and Gretel, The Emperor's New Clothes, and so on. These stories stay famous in large part because the people relate to something in them..... the things that motivate the characters and the emotions they feel about situations in the story, are all things people can understand.

People in the real world all have the same basic motivations and emotions, even if their specific interests are wildly different.

Even if she's totally into something you have zero interest in, if you get to the root of what motivates her and how she feels about it all, there is going to be something interesting about it.

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Even if you’re not actually interested in their life, MAKE them believe that you really are

This isn't a trick and you shouldn't be pretending to be interested in anyone or anything.

And trying to make someone believe you are interested in them when you're not, is a great way to end up hating yourself and what you're doing with people.

K3wp · 2018-09-27T22:00:57+00:00

I've worked in IT for 25 years and I've long ago given up finding a woman I have anything in common with. The field is a sausage fest and the women I do meet tend to either be PMs or only interested in a paycheck.

I treat every woman as a unique individual (which they are) and try to find out what they are interested in. There is always something there if you look.

OGthelegendaryplaya · 2018-09-27T04:10:58+00:00

Sounds like you trying to justify your lack of success with women.

Finessence · 2018-09-27T03:29:48+00:00

Gotta keep looking. Ask deeper questions and get to know them better. I’ve found few women that I find both attractive and conversationally interesting. Being clever and witty and comical is a huge part of attraction for me, and I’ve only ever met a handful of them in my life.

poopfeast180 · 2018-09-27T19:26:31+00:00

You arent meeting the right women. We live in an age where we encourage women to pursue more than being house wives.

2018-09-27T00:18:22+00:00

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Title	I have a hard time finding girls interesting
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Date	September 26, 2018 11:53 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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