Long post about my personal experience. Hoping to maybe inspire bros who are currently in a position that I once was. Nothing revolutionary here just a plain dude helping plain dudes know that there is light at the end of the tunnel

TL;DR Was a normal-looking nobody (still am but with a much more active social life now), forced myself into the outside world with help of friends, got dates, got laid a bit, got a girlfriend that I’m certain is the one blahblahblah. The moral of the story is there hope for everybody.

-So here’s my anecdotal trip through time. 3 years time. Added hypens before to make it an easier read? Did this on mobile, hope the formatting is okay.

-Went from zero to hero. 3 years ago at 21 I was living at home with no direction ANYWHERE in life. Virgin, desperate, shit with money and not even a raindrop of social prowess. I was on that online hustle (dating and money making, trust me it’s miserable all around. Go outside).

-I tried all that bullshit that is always recommended here. You know, like diets and gyms and dressing for success (I keep it casual), but never could stick with it. Kind of dropped those foundational seduction aspects. Which is not usually a key to the success we all seek, aka banging or dating 10/10s. So follow those if that’s your goal, but I was able to do it without them.

-Well the hygiene aspect definitely keep up on. Get braces too, it’s worth it.

-It’s cliche to say “be yourself,” but really. Just be who you are (not a dick, treat everyone as a friend). Be fun too. Don’t look sad, smile! Laugh. Enjoy your time on Earth.

-Bars and clubs are the go to. Not for everyone but it’s the best place to find single women letting loose. Plus the whole social lubricant aspect is nice.

-Fast forward to around Dec 2017-Jan 2018. Finally have a decent job. I spent over half a year just going out with 1-4 friends every other weekend to the hot bars with the best vibe.

-The power of dance suprisingly works. And I am not a trained dancer. Just smile, laugh and groove with some silliness mixed in and the girls come to you.

-It led to some amazing results, by my standards. Lots of grinding and making out. Got like a dozen dates and some lays over that 8 month span. They were all about 8s with one being a 6/10 but doesn’t matter had sex.

-Coming up on a year with my girlfriend. Met her at a downtown country bar. She was the only one who wasn’t annoying or crazy. Big plus is she makes more than me lmao. Haven’t fought or argued at all (maybe some board game arguments or early into the relationship I ignored her text asking to hangout, wasn’t on purpose, just having a shit day). Everything’s steady. Pretty much in love lol.

-I know for a fact I was never the best looking guy in the bar. I’m not ripped, I don’t have abs. I eat like shit really. If it weren’t for diet soda and lighter beers I’d be fat. I’m just a normal looking guy but damn I landed a chill 9/10 cutie petite girlfriend. And she said she moseyed over my way on the dancefloor cuz I looked like I was having the most fun.

-Back in the day I would have been shocked to know that I would be able to talk to a woman let alone even sleep with them.

-I don’t make good money but I make do with what I got. I do have goals, which is also key for keeping a girl around.

-For me personally I like what I have. When I first came to seddit years ago I was clueless what I wanted. I guess the goal initially was to bang hot chicks but turns out my true goal was to have fun with life. Yeah maybe sounds cringe or typical but it works.

-Not sure if this will help anyone. Not sure if anyone will even read this through. Not sure if it was enough detail or too much. Maybe too much? Fuck it just wanted to share my story because my dating journey did start on this subreddit.

-Haven’t browsed here since 2017 but I’m sure shit hasn’t changed and y’all are spouting the same recycled shit. Definitely helped though. Honest.