I just don't know what to say

penguin_says_slide · 2015-02-19T23:03:13+00:00

bluehat9 · 2015-02-19T22:29:58+00:00

Some ideas:

In conversation, assume something about her that is sort of outlandish. "I bet you take like 8 showers a day" "You seem like someone who's probably had quite a few adventures"

Misinterpret things she says. her: "Oh I love xyz restaurant!" you: "Ok Ok, I'll let you take me there, as long as you promise to be on good behavior. No touching!"

Sometimes you have to actually get to know someone and ask them interview type questions, but you can at least make them open ended, and make your responses to them playful.

You: How do you spend your time? Her: Oh, all sorts of stuff, I love going to movies. You: Ok, this is a possible dealbreaker right here. What is your favorite movie?

I just think the way you frame things, and being playful really brings color and emotion into a conversation that isn't there if it's a back and forth interview.

Sometimes the chemistry just isn't there, also, so you don't always have to try to force it in.

tooeasilybored · 2015-02-19T23:38:02+00:00

First, realize that there is no perfect thing to say in those situations. The initial conversation can be awkward if you make it so. Makes sense right? As two people meet for the first time you both have no idea what the other person is like.

Sort out those who REALLY might be interested in you. Eye contact, it's so important. How many times have you seen a guy look at a girl like this. They start at the face, then look down slowly then back up. Not very respectful, and makes you seem not so manly really. Instead try standing with confidence, and just stare into her eyes. You will be able to tell by her reaction if she is interested or not.

Realize this, the initial contact is really just to get her to think about you. She will judge you pretty quickly. Planting the seed sort of to speak. You don't need to know details about her life, what she does, her hobbies and stuff. Save that stuff for real dates when you both are comfortable enough to swap embarrassing stories.

At this point you are fishing for things to talk about, literally. So go fishing! If you are a fun guy, make some sort of a joke that you find amusing and see if she bites. If not, you're probably better off without her anyways. If she does reply, chances are somewhere within her response will be something you can use for your next question. The key here is confidence, theres a world of difference between a guy who says something witty with confidence and a guy without. It's the difference between a charmer and a creep.

Do that a couple of times, to keep a conversation going and just when it's about to get really good ask her for her number. At this point you have two options, stay with her and see where it goes or make up some excuse and move/leave.

If you really made an impression on her, 9/10 times she will follow or at least really will want to interact with you more.

As you already know, the first contact is the hardest part. Make it fun, make some sort of witty remark and see where it takes you. Just be very careful what you say, the key is not to offend anyone.

edit: Girls are just like guys. They want to have fun, they want adventure. Make yourself desirable. I've seen countless people go around and literally ask out every single girl they can find, they all say no. When you like a girl...what makes you like her? Her body? Her personality? Well the same goes for them as well, if you've got nothing to offer....ain't no fish gonna bite!

ultrasuperthrowaway · 2015-02-19T21:10:49+00:00

Just talk about your travels, what kind of airplanes you pilot, what kind of instruments you enjoy playing and what kind of mountains you've climbed. What do you talk about with your frat bros? Stuff you like talking about!

Weegoh · 2015-02-20T04:29:16+00:00

Take a genuine interest in her.

The reason that you run out of things to say is that you are trying too hard to think of things to say. The game isn't thinking about things to say to her until she bangs you, the game is to get to genuinely know her to see if she reaches your standards.

If you take an interest in things she's saying and they're actually interesting to you, then boom. You guys have connected and there's a whole wide range of things you can talk about then. If her family, dreams, occupation, and recreations are all uninteresting to you, things just aren't going to happen unless she's way too drunk or you're George clooney. Girls value connecting on things. That's how they form relationships. The more you can genuinely connect with her, the better your connection.

That's why taking a genuine interest in her will give you endless conversation points and build your connection with her.

You'll probably enjoy getting laid more by people with whom you have more intimate connections too.

StraightCougar · 2015-02-19T20:42:51+00:00

Me and my homie used to run meetings for Cassanova Crew out in LA, and this was the problem we heard the most.

As lame as this is: You have confidence issues

You have over 21+ years of experiences/memories and hopefully passions, if you can't conjure up something to say, out of those 21+ years, I can't help you.

On the off chance that you've just led an uninteresting life, there are plenty of books on conversational skills, but I can assure you that I got over this boundary by acquiring confidence.

Title	I just don't know what to say
Author	lnoodle
Upvotes	14
Comments	10
Date	February 19, 2015 7:05 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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