I know it is situation-dependent, but normally do you go for a kiss on (after) the first date if you only want sex?

2016-12-19T18:28:20+00:00

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suzy2018 · 2016-12-19T18:52:28+00:00

As far as kissing on the first date goes, I really don't like to wait til the end.

If there's an opportunity during the date, take it. It breaks the ice sooner and allows you to move a little further without the awkward tension arising from both wanting to kiss without going for it.

IMO waiting til after the date is almost like a form of payment. You two had fun, now you get to kiss her. A better route, for me, is to kiss her when you guys are laughing together or get caught in that standoff stare where you would normally back off because "it's not the end of the date yet".

Kissing sooner allows for more kisses throughout and more escalation. Regardless of whether or not you take her home that night, you will increase your chances of having a second date.

If she wants to go on a date with you, assume that "it's on" (to a calibrated extent, of course)

Velcade6 · 2016-12-19T19:17:05+00:00

Should always kiss on the first date if you are interested in the long run. If not make it clear you're not interested.

t_11 · 2016-12-19T20:04:39+00:00

A kiss is a kiss. Doesn't mean love anymore. It means affection. Girls want affection without all the other BS. Boy will you have the most awkward sex of your life if you don't wanna kiss her.

GuestsGetGreens · 2016-12-20T00:03:28+00:00

Always go for this kiss on the first date if you're feeling it. Reassess how she responds to the kiss and adjust your game accordingly

puafridaythrowaway · 2016-12-20T01:19:39+00:00

Kiss them in the first date. https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/4l356e/fr_first_date_with_a_girl_from_tinder/

recyclablebanthas · 2016-12-20T03:34:12+00:00

I know it is situation-dependent,

Why are you asking if we can generalize, if you acknowledge that we can't? :P

but normally do you go for a kiss on (after) the first date if you only want sex?

You're talking about our preferences here. What relevance does that have to you?

Can you look for casual, without the need to PUSH hard for the kiss and/or sex on the first date? Sure.

As for what I "normally" do..... That's situationally dependent. I go with the flow. Sometimes a girl wants to have sex within hours of meeting her. Sometimes a girl wants to wait a day. Or two. Or a week. Or two. Or until marriage.

Our preferences don't have any bearing on what you are probably wondering about: if you should go for the kiss on the first date if you only want sex. There is just no substitute for getting your ass in there, paying attention, and seeing if her preferences and yours match up.

If the girl is down, play ball. If she's not down or not down soon enough for you, then kindly peace out.

Title	I know it is situation-dependent, but normally do you go for a kiss on (after) the first date if you only want sex?
Author	Velcade6
Upvotes	8
Comments	11
Date	December 19, 2016 6:19 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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