I need help

epimpstyle · 2025-08-31T10:18:25+00:00

Why stress over height? Just go for girls who are shorter than you > simple fix.

Phil Heitlinger is only 160 cm, but that doesn’t stop him from doing what he does. Neil Strauss is also 5'6 and he's a legend. The only difference is that you need to put in more work to get the same results as a naturally tall and handsome guy but it is not impossible.

Acrobatic-Show3732 · 2025-08-31T10:49:25+00:00

The answer IS in statistics.

The harsher studies indicate that 80% of women would not date a shorter Guy than them. That means that you need to aproach and meet 5x more women than the tallest dude, assuming you are shorter than every single girl you meet, to make the 20% that dont care equivalent to the 100% the tallest meets regularly.

The answer IS not panicking, and putting 5x the effort in the worst case. If the dice IS loaded against you, this IS the type of Game where there are no penalties to throw It more often.

My opinión, once you get your confidence in check and stop thinking you suck, improve your fitness and social skills, your chances Will be even better. Buy shoes with heights and consider traveling to latin american countries with shorter Girls if desperate.

Vox_Dissidens · 2025-08-31T11:31:51+00:00

I lived with a short guy who pulled some of the most beautiful women I’d ever seen.

He wasn’t lacking in self-awareness, he admitted that there was a percentage of girls who would auto-reject him purely because of his height (I think he was about 5’2).

But he was super fit, an incredible musician and he knew how to flirt, so he’d still pull 10s. With confidence and drive, it can be done.

ProfessionalScope1 · 2025-09-01T21:35:09+00:00

Brother, the pain you’re feeling isn’t because you’re short — it’s because you believe your height makes you unworthy. That belief is the real trap, not your body.

I’m 5'6" too. I used to spiral the same way — thinking no girl would ever want me. But it was never my height holding me back. It was the signal I was sending: “I’m not enough. Please choose me.”

When I stopped chasing approval and started embodying the truth — that my presence alone has value — everything changed. People feel it when you stop negotiating your worth.

You don’t need to become ideal. You need to remember you already are.

Let that old story burn.

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-08-31T10:58:50+00:00

The problem is not whether it works, because first of all attraction is about mutual alignment, not about becoming an infallible god that no woman on the planet can resist if you learn ther right techniques....

Everyone gets rejected, some more often than not. But eventually everyone meets a bunch of woman that aren't interested in them and that is ok.

The problem you have is that you still can't manage to get rejected without taking it personal, without beating yourself for it, without acting like your worth as a person has been sentence because a woman is not interested in you.

I can get rejected 10 times in a row in one day, and i don't have a problem with it, i treat it no different than when i offer someone a piece of cheqing gum and they say no. I just brush it off and don't even think about it.

But if you get rejected once or twice, then you question your entire human nature, your worth as a man, whether life is worth living, and you might even depressed.

And that is the real problem here, not whether a particular woman is interested, but the fact that you need woman to say they like you for you to feel good about who you are. You are giving them too much power over your own feeligns about yourself.

You are treating women as objects of self-affirmation where a woman liking you is something you interpret as proof that you are worth something, and a woman not liking you is something you interpret as proof that you are worth nothing.

When you act like the stakes are so high, that's just a story you are telling yourself, not a reality. A woman not liking you has nothing to do with your worth, it has to do with not feeling an emotional and sexual connection with you and not every person we like is someone we will connect with like that and that's normal and it's ok.

But you keep treating it as something more deep than that because you have decided that relationships are about either about proving "normality" or "superiority vs inferiority".

You don't see dating like most people do which is hey either we vibe or we don't, we either get along or we don't. You see dating as some type of supreme court of a man's value where the ruthless women take on the role of supreme judges and sit down to determine your worth as a human being and their rejection is te final verdict of your worth.

The woman however is just thinking: "dude i don't wanna hurt your feelings or anything it's just that we just don't click, there is nothing wrong with that, not every guy has liked me either."

But you interprete those words she says wrong and assume this: "You bitch are trying to destroy and hurt me, you rejected me to punish me, to make me feel like shit about myself, to laugh at me, to hummiliate me, to shame me and remind me that i don't deserve you or any girl despite everything i'd willing to do to earn your affection".

But that's the thing affection is not about earning it and it's not about being good enough. It's about mutual chemistry. Those who have girflriedns are not necessarily better than you, they might be more ugly, more boring but their girl might also not be too pretty or anything special, they just clicked naturally with the right person.

So dude, this is not about what works, this is about a battle you have with your own mind, your self-esteem, your anxiety, your fear of rejection, your feelings of inadequacy, and dating is not about finding proof that you matter, or that you are worthy because a woman has liked you.

You are deciding that woman choosing you is the only valid way to determien your worth and that is disrespectful to women by the way. Because women did not ask to be put on that role where htey are these arbitteers of how you feel about yourself, you are making them responsible for your feelings and that is simply morally wrong for you to do.

Because if they are responsible and they don't soothe your feelings, then you are basically accusing them indirectly of being bad people for not liking you which removes their right to refuse what naturally doesn't click with them if they want you to think they are good people.

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-08-31T18:59:20+00:00

Don't worry about height. It's a variable about yourself that you can't change. But guess what, you can improve your confidence, build muscle, advance your career and so forth. Who cares if some women disqualify you for height. I'm 5'11 barefoot and multiple women called me "too short" during online dating talks. Consider it a blessing if you are rejected by shallow women.

I'll also add that I've been rejected for guys several inches shorter. And that's totally fine. One of the most charismatic guys I've ever seen was a guy who went on one of our vacations and was maybe 5'5 max. Women were literally competing for him and he slept with probably upwards of ten women on a week long trip. Casual sex isn't my thing, but he clearly had it figured out to work for him and height was obviously no deterrent.

Betyouwonthehehaha · 2025-09-01T23:44:45+00:00

Also 5’6” and also started later in life with women. Yeah it’s harder but it’s only an excuse if you decide to let it be. Here’s a hack no one else here has mentioned: many bisexual women care significantly less about a man’s height than heterosexual women. Not sure why this is but I’ve always had more success with bi women. Your mileage may vary

BigBroYoshi · 2025-09-01T11:51:22+00:00

Just know that you first need to acknowledge the facts, which you have done so.

So many guys will try and deny it and give outlier facts such as "oh such and such CELEBRITY is 5'5 and is still super successful with women". No, that doesn't make it different. It's still much harder to date as a shorter guy. Personally, every girl I've been with has mentioned that she wouldn't date a shorter guy.

However, there are exceptions to the rule.

I do know of girls who date shorter guys. The difference is the fact they seem confident and pleased with themselves. They do no height fraud, they own their height, and girls can sense whether you are insecure about yourself or not.

I highly recommend gymmaxing as well. Girls mainly find height to be attractive because of the protection factor. The guys I know who are short in relationships are all gymmaxed guys. It's a lot easier packing on size at that height, plus a girl will see you as attractive for your size.

Just know, I hear you, it is harder, but it isn't any reason for you to give up. Instead, you should fight harder than you ever did, so the future you will be thankful you put yourself through this challenge. Life is a test, the rest is up to you. It's about how we play our cards right.

Title	I need help
Author	HF_Twat2004
Upvotes	9
Comments	11
Date	August 31, 2025 8:40 AM UTC (10 months ago)
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