I had this problem when I was a bit younger in High-school wasn’t often chosen and I only got with one girl for prom but that’s besides the point. From my point of view most guys are chasing a feeling of being chosen and cared for and everyone should have that but a girlfriend or sex isn’t going to fulfill you I often find myself in bed with a girl and BOOM I nut and think to myself I rather be working on my business or improving my skills in something else it’s so frivolous don’t get me wrong building a connection with someone is beautiful but don’t let lust consume you stop actively trying to get or have sex funny thing is when you stop trying is the moment you have the most sex… Just focus on becoming the best you brother.