One of the biggest myths that many buy in to is that there is only one special person out there for them. This limiting mindset leads to neediness, a willingness to please, putting their partners on a pedestal, and other self-sabotaging behaviors.

If the relationship doesn’t work, someone in this frame of mind will waste precious time and opportunity on their ex, who either rejected them, or just simply isn’t compatible.

This flawed belief of ‘the one’ leads to fixation on an idealized, fantasy version of their ex, not the real person. That person’s negative qualities and the issues in the relationship are overlooked or ignored, because romantic hopes are being projected onto them, instead of realizing that things ended for a reason.

Do not buy into the myth. There is not one single soulmate for everyone. Based purely on population numbers, there are a multitude of people that you would connect with. It’s tragic to see this opportunity traded in for fixation on an imagined, idealized version of someone.

The best relationships come when there is mutual prioritization. Trying to convince someone to take you back will typically yield the same results. For whatever reason, they felt they didn’t need you in their lives at some point, enough to cut things off. Even if you manage to win them back, they still inherently do not value you. Once the infatuation fades again, the same issues will typically come to the surface again.