I’m Afraid

fewbar2021 · 2022-02-28T04:02:54+00:00

I’m not really sure what you’re looking for. If you’re looking for reassurance, I can tell you that I’ve definitely been scared of all of that stuff before. I did push through it, and it’s not as scary anymore. It sounds like maybe you could use some help in the self-confidence department, as well. I think that’s the most important take away from all of this that I can see. I believe in you, man. It sucks that it’s not as common for women to approach men in society, but it also can happen.

Honestly though, even if someone turns you down, the worst that’s gonna happen is you wont be with that person you dont even know, because I’m assuming you arent seeing/approaching people for relationships or sex right now.

Hang in there, homie, you got this.

BensonInFL · 2022-02-28T08:19:45+00:00

I’m afraid of approaching and getting rejected

Some Thoughts

1) What specifically are you fearful of? Are you scared she will laugh at you? That your friends will see the rejection and make fun of you?? What is the issue? Most of the time, it is uncomfortable for a girl to issue a rejection, so it will be done as gently as possible.. they want to avoid confrontation.. sometimes they are even flattered by it...

2) Fear is good, it means that you are alive, that you care.. that this isn't boring or worthless. Don't try to block the fear or make it go away... FEEL IT, use it as part of your energy.... that this is exciting!

3) Try baby steps.... if you've never talked to a girl before.. make a comment or ask a question to the cashier, make small talk with the waitress...to a girl at a grocery store or coffee shop and ask an innocent question... later trying asking 2 or 3 questions...

4) Approaches are like a video game... when you play games, are you afraid that you will lose? No... if you die in a game, you just hit reset and try again.. its really the same thing with approaches... you hit reset and try again, learning from your mistakes.. just like the video game..

5) Have you considered the fear that you will miss out on everything if you don't follow through? Yes, you might get rejected, but if you don't ask, that is an automatic rejection... you go from 50/50 to 0%.... why make the odds worse for yourself?

6) They should be the ones to have fear, not you... after you've done this for a while, you will realize that they should be the ones afraid that you don't want a relationship with them... that perhaps you are too good for them.. that it limits your ability to be with other girls and ties you down... if you don't perform in bed, perhaps they didn't turn you on enough? ... no guy wants to meet the girl's parents.. their father looks you up and down knowing you are fucking his daughter..... but so what... she should be the one worried about whether you agree to go, and if you do, its her reputation on the line, not yours... etc..

-B

flowingandrolling · 2022-02-28T04:03:12+00:00

“Quite an experience to live in fear ……. That’s what it is to be a slave “ - Roy Batty

Captain_brownbeard · 2022-02-28T04:25:26+00:00

I feel like this reddit group provides more positive support and deals with more men's issues than /mensrights reddit group. Lol

Altec5499 · 2022-02-28T06:31:05+00:00

You’re overthinking the fuck out of this. The hard truth is that you need to stop being a pansy ass and approach women. Overcome your fear bro

Dodechaedron · 2022-02-28T07:34:08+00:00

If you are afraid of rejection, what about road accidents, incurable diseases, unemployment, mobs, aggression, war? There are far bigger threats out there than a girl's rejection, which is only a pain if you let it be. Incidentally, women are NOT attracted to fearful men.

Snadadap · 2022-02-28T11:21:29+00:00

You have two alternatives - 1) hope that a girl sees you and likes you enough to make all the moves or 2) make no moves and live a life filled with regret

If you approach somebody, you can't lose. You either get their contact details and can arrange something, or they're not interested in which case you're unlikely to ever see them again anyway so who cares?

bandsupjay · 2022-02-28T23:03:23+00:00

Hey man. Nothings wrong with being afraid. Just because you’re a man doesnt mean youre fucking bulletproof. It takes courage to admit this and take steps like this, you’re already on the path to greatness. Just feel it out, experiment it and take conscious careful steps. Figure out what you’re so afraid of and begin to break it and work on that process. You’re already doing great.

mysterious_evoX · 2022-03-01T00:23:39+00:00

I can relate to this. What I’m trying to do right now is reprogram myself to have a better mindset. I think what this means is learning to love myself.

Right now, I’m not at my happiest. I’m in a weird transitional period in my life.

Competitive_Duty2502 · 2022-03-01T02:17:37+00:00

Be loving with yourself. Don’t put your expectations on everything to much. Go with the flow and take care of yourself :)

Title	I’m Afraid
Author	dario_kai
Upvotes	10
Comments	15
Date	February 28, 2022 3:56 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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