Not really a specific FR, but my general experience lately. Been getting fixated on my ‘PUA’ numbers, and it’s been equally useful as it is destructive. I’ve learned it’s more important to focus on becoming consistent and resilient, more than any set of techniques. Many nights I’ve spent feeling unwanted, unlovable, and wondering if all this is all a waste of time. I wondered, maybe I’m too ugly, too socially inept, not tall enough, not charismatic, people think I’m a loser by myself chasing women, maybe those fucking idiots who say “just focus on yourself bro and women will fall in your lap” are right, but I realized at the end of the day, it’s just grit. Putting ourselves in the position to be beat down is the same as putting ourselves in the position to win. As RSD Julien put it, if something happens that makes me feel emotionally scarred, then that means I’m growing. Rejection is always better than regret, and even the smallest actions accumulate.

I like Tyler’s advice too, simple: if you go out, most of your issues in game will autocorrect.

A couple of weeks ago on vacation in SD, i set out to do Daygame and night game for a week. During the night I approached as little as 5 times, and as much as 20 times per night. About 70 times in total, getting rejected every time, many times harshly. I didn’t pull once that week from night game. For Daygame, I had days where I got the boyfriend rejection 5 times, where the day before I went 6/6 numbers and one instadate (my first ever). Then, feeling unmotivated the next day, I approached 3 girls, and banged the 3rd one in a hotel. It took less than 1/20 Daygame approaches to get two dates, 11 ish numbers and one pull.

Another thing I noticed is that the more I game, the more efficient I become, and can thus play the numbers game better. Those 3 approaches took only like 40 minutes, where in the past it would take me hours. This comes down to doing ballsier approaches and not overthinking.

Point is, this shit is so random, and while I’ve pulled higher % at night usually, I got infinitely more results from Daygame, where I’ve never even been on an instadate.

Last week, forcing myself out of the house, about to fall asleep, i pull a hot white Italian girl on the 3rd approach of the night.

All of these lessons I already knew since being a chode, over-consuming content/advice not making a single approach, but it’s not the same knowing it versus living it.