Is being a “good guy” and a “nice guy” the same thing?

cdb651 · 2018-12-26T00:02:22+00:00

To me it is not the same. A good guy does the right thing, even if it means telling someone something that they don’t want to hear. A nice guy is similar. They can be kind and generous. But in my experience they will go to great lengths to avoid tough conversations. They don’t want to hurt you by being honest. So they avoid and deflect. In my experience the nice guy I dated, left scars.

Be a good guy, listen, be kind, take care of others, but don’t avoid the tough conversations. In the end it is true kindness.

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Dilpil01 · 2018-12-26T03:37:38+00:00

Good guy = Comfortable and confident in ones self, has morals and beliefs they stand behind, generally trustworthy.

Nice guy = Only acts nice because it is easy and they don't know better, white knight, hopes acting this way will get them laid, orbiter, not sexual at all.

KookyWonder3 · 2018-12-26T01:20:15+00:00

There's a difference between being the good guy and having no spine. Please be the good guy aha

geeered · 2018-12-26T00:22:08+00:00

Normal advice; if you haven't, have a read to/listen of "No More Mr Nice Guy" to get an idea of where you may fall "on the spectrum".

MinuteStranger · 2018-12-26T04:02:09+00:00

in my opinion, Good guys are not afraid of confrontations. Also good guys give themselves first priority while remaining respectful towards others. on the other side nice guys are most likely to afraid of confrontations and also they give others more priority than themselves.

dryo · 2018-12-26T04:23:27+00:00

Sometimes a nice guy can looked as a people pleaser, or guys who put certain women in a pedestal.

Maluc0 · 2018-12-26T18:53:24+00:00

Nice guy is not the same as a good guy. Good guy is a positive quality and a Nice guy usually refers to someone overly nice.

wawakaka · 2018-12-26T04:11:25+00:00

in you situation it is the same thing. you would make a great friend and you will probably get friend zoned by most women you would like to go out with.

you have a mix of nice guy and care taker personality. this can set you up for being taken advantage of. people will use you because you are so giving. you may also be more concerned with what other want and need and not so much yourself. you may self sacrifice to the point where lose your sense of self.

Title	Is being a “good guy” and a “nice guy” the same thing?
Author	I_Main_TwistedFate
Upvotes	9
Comments	11
Date	December 25, 2018 11:47 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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