Is it wrong to be happy with your progress right now but mad that you didn't do this in the past?

modernsavage · 2017-10-26T22:29:49+00:00

No sense in dwelling on the past, just learn from your mistakes and move on.

tempacct12210 · 2017-10-26T23:20:04+00:00

Didn't learn this til earlier this year at 29. I'm just happy I learned at all. Best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago. The second best time is now.

daygamer0911 · 2017-10-27T00:05:36+00:00

Use the frustration of not taking action in the past to fuel your taking action NOW.

MiNombreEsElGnomo · 2017-10-27T02:21:27+00:00

It isn't wrong, but it is unhealthy. I did the same thing with my weightloss. Lost 150 lb in my early 20s, I still sometimes kick my arse over not doing it when I was a teenager. But, the thing is, all this does is add useless bad emotions to your life. You can't go back. You can't get those years spent before you made the change back. You just have to go forward and enjoy having made the change now.

I make the wrong/unhealthy distinction because we beat ourselves up for things that are "wrong" and beating yourself for beating yourself up for not having changed your life sooner just compounds the problem. Forgive yourself, look forwards.

grassmundur · 2017-10-26T22:34:13+00:00

If you don't believe in free will yes it's wrong otherwise it's just unhelpful and perhaps damaging

NoloRadio · 2017-10-27T03:57:52+00:00

I kick myself for being dense in the past, but there's really no point and I am working on doing it less. What matters is now. That said, it's worthwhile to think about the past, and the reasons you didn't understand or follow through with things that now seem important to you. I did this, and learned a lot about my overall reaction to stress and fear, and how it likes to sabotage my goals.

DirkDieGurke · 2017-10-27T18:00:59+00:00

Of course it would have been cool to have internet and this knowledge 30 years ago..... But...

Title	Is it wrong to be happy with your progress right now but mad that you didn't do this in the past?
Author	Zoidberg22
Upvotes	5
Comments	10
Date	October 26, 2017 10:01 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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