I've found if I read seduction material before I go out I often go too much into my head and do worse, so I've taken to not reading up on game before I go out. Do you think it's better or worse to read r/seduction before going out?

30vanquish · 2012-03-09T20:00:05+00:00

You know, it seems like the reverse situation for me. Reading this stuff actually motivates me more to go out and try. One day after reading something I found on here, it gave me the motivation to try a more direct opener and now I realize how unfounded my fear of direct openers was.

I can understand how it can get people trapped in their heads, absolutely. But I think for me it feels more like a peptalk.

ThrowawayPUA · 2012-03-09T19:05:57+00:00

Don't overthink things. Take one idea out into the field each time and commit to working on it. As you study and gain more experience, little tidbits of seduction materials will work their way into your game naturally.

redditor3000 · 2012-03-09T19:16:35+00:00

I don't like to read up before I go out, at least not immediately before.

Much better to hit the gym and then go out. You look better/bigger, your cortisol levels are down, and you're ready for a good time.

thr_pkc · 2012-03-10T01:16:43+00:00

I actually found this too. What I do is I'll listen/read/watch some inspirational (just generally inspirational, not necessarily related to seduction) and I find that usually gives me more will and drive to go up and approach. Sometimes everything I'll do will be 'natural' and sometimes I'll remember some seduction material and use that.

vj88 · 2012-03-10T02:45:18+00:00

I generally get too much in my head so last weekend I called my mate (who im always in a good state when talking to him) while i walked to the pub and i was in a pretty talkative/happy state when i first walked in so i had a pretty awesome night. opened about 10 people that night.

nycprowl · 2012-03-10T01:41:33+00:00

I try to avoid too much theory and read more of the 'stop being a douche and go approach' before going out

redditor3000 · 2012-03-10T06:06:22+00:00

Dude reading this type of shit is the worst possible thing you could do.

All of this stuff puts you in your head.

Read it and let it sink in. The quicker it become unconscious information: all of it. The better. I've read pretty much EVERYTHING there is out there. And I don't even think about it anymore. The only thing I think about consciously is body language and that is because my posture is so poor.

sniperace · 2012-03-10T07:45:37+00:00

It really depends on the person, but in general I'd recommend just getting yourself in a feel-good state and if you want to really work on something, small chunk it and make it manageable. I think you've also partly answered your question by saying you get too much in your head, which is probably hindering your game.

Also, this might seem to be a bit irrelevant, but warming up when you go out by talking to people helps put you in a feel good state and helps make things flow along easier. I've found that symptom of "getting in my head" to really be paralyzing when I wait around too long to approach women.

BinaryShadow · 2012-03-11T07:13:29+00:00

I find that reading the basics is far better than the material that's pre-packaged. Learn about inner game. Learn about confidence. Get some idea about social dynamics involving value and threading conversations.

Don't do things like memorize pick up lines or openers. Yeah, read a few to get an idea of what to do, but don't just program yourself before going out. You still need to be yourself.

But yes, had I not read anything at all, I'd be far less likely to go out and talk to strangers in a bar for example. And yeah, I'm no professional, but I am enjoying myself on the weekends a lot more than I used to. Pizza and TV are fun, but not every weekend.

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