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[–]Fist__Bump 32 points33 points34 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Bro, move on. Hit the gym. Believe in yourself. Don’t let this stop you now. Move forward with other women.
[–]watermelonman35 3 points4 points5 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Thanks!
[–]charcoales 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
i mean if u want to practice flirting you got a girl who is a friend who can boost your state if you are out, and could help maybe fill in days where you'd only be playing videogames or something, other girls easier to open when you are with a wingwomen since you have solid social proof esp if you two are shooting the shit and bringing people into your convo that are around you
[–]AzorMX 8 points9 points10 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I thought this was gonna be a LPT about how it is better for your personal growth to go for it and get rejected instead of never trying at all.
[–]watermelonman35 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah, that's the point of me opening the discussion with her. Thanks anyway!
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Or about jist get rejected before you waste two years being her friend
[–][deleted] 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
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[–]watermelonman35 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You're right. She also said that she knew my intentions the whole time. Thanks anyway! Hope a better luck for next targets.
[–]stevenmarkryan5 points 8 years ago [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
Lunch and movies are not dates -- they are what friends (or people in longterm relationships) do. Sounds like you're a beta orbiter and she just hangs out when she's hungry or bored. Sorry for truth bombs. Pro tip: If you're "dating" only do things a lover would do. That means, dinner/drinks at night that can lead to sex at her place or yours. Lunch, Coffee, Movies, Picnics etc are what friends do.
[–]watermelonman35 -1 points0 points1 point 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Sex before marriage is against the culture here, so it's kinda impossible. That's always a good thing to know the truth, even it's the bitter one. Thanks dude!
[–]stevenmarkryan3 points 8 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
When are you moving? ;)
[–]watermelonman35 -1 points0 points1 point 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
What do you mean by moving? Sorry.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
She's using you for attention. Leave her, improve yourself, and go get a better girl (or 50)
[–]watermelonman35 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sometimes I feel used. Thanks!
[–]jeosol 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Never be friends with a woman you intend to have sex with. It is very hard to turn it around if you start by being friends.
Go with the intent of having sex or sth serious, if the woman turns you down, no worries, you just keep it moving but at least you made your intentions clear.
How do I know, this. Experience. Used to be friends with women, but that just takes longer and your intent is not always clear to her. The guys you see her with were direct to her from get go.
I have gotten girls being direct since Itried it. They like the confidence and directness. You will still get rejections still, but like i said above, you just keep moving, on to the next. It's not personal.
Don't be ashamed of your needs and always maintain your objective.
Thanks! Sex before marriage is against my culture, actually. And, my mistake was too late to make my intentions clear.
[–]ChelseaDagger14 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Two years of friendship was probably your failure, but we don’t even know if she was initially interested. As another poster said - move on.
She's my college classmate. Thanks!
[–]pezzatheswirly 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I agree that you are an ego boost for her. Move on. Hope the next one works out well for you.
[–]lItsAutomaticl 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Find other girls and limit contact with the old one. Don't attach to the next one, either.
[–]Not_unique_enuf 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
In six months of dating. Did you make a move?
[–]watermelonman35 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I always tried to invest lower than her. Actually, she asked for hanging out more than I do. That's sad actually.
[–]Not_unique_enuf 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So in 6 months of dating you guys didn't even kiss???????????? Huh. If that's the case. You guys were just hanging out.
[–]Mewz_x 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Strongest negotiating position is to be able to walk away and mean it.
[–]watermelonman35 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Any tips?
[–]domino1995 3 points4 points5 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
yes just walk away silently and don't return unless she actually wants to date
[–]Rndm_0101 points 8 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
Abundance mentality
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