keeping eye contact just makes everything a lot more intense. cant process everything. Tips?

TacticalBouncyCastle · 2015-05-28T18:49:04+00:00

That happens, stick with it and your awareness will open up.

RPSigmaStigma · 2015-05-28T18:20:02+00:00

Don't just stare at their eyes, watch their face while they're talking. It's part of listening.

killaswagyolo420 · 2015-05-28T21:08:57+00:00

With more exposure to women you'll be just as appreciative, but much less overawed by beauty. Keep approaching.

Gab_the_Great · 2015-05-28T22:06:10+00:00

Holy shit I have the exact same problem. I thought I was the only one.

goetz_von_cyborg · 2015-05-29T03:06:06+00:00

Be present in the moment. If you stop your own train of thought, it becomes a lot easier to absorb information from all your senses.

Your attention is a limited resource at any given time. If you're expending attention on your own train of thought, how can you actually listen effectively to anyone else?

sunday_silence · 2015-05-29T06:42:38+00:00

one of the best tips I got was to look at the person's left ear...

OK what difference does it make which ear? It doesnt really. But it makes you think as you're doing it. In other words instead of staring like a zombie at someone the idea is best stated as "focused and alert" WHich means, you are focused, but you are not a zombie, you are still able to respond to what is going on around you. Talk, jokes, music, etc.

So you look at the person and which ear is the left? My left or her left? Well then her left is on this side...so that means.. And then you move your eyes to the other side, and then you move them again to look natural...etc.

so this way you are looking at something, but your mind is still active and alert to what is going on. Just a technique. Try it.

JessePinkman88 · 2015-05-29T11:52:59+00:00

Yeah, it was like this for me for a long time too and still happens sometimes. It's something you have to get used to, just break the eye contact when it gets to intense for you but you'll notice that you're keeping longer eye and longer contact over time with practice.

Title	keeping eye contact just makes everything a lot more intense. cant process everything. Tips?
Author	kingvalant
Upvotes	8
Comments	7
Date	May 28, 2015 6:08 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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