I just got out of a 7-year relationship and have decided it’s time to start learning how to approach women and build up my confidence in the dating world.

Last night was supposed to be my first real attempt. I’d been looking forward to it all week, thinking: “Finally, I get to try out everything I’ve learned.” I’ve listened to what feels like hundreds of hours of pickup advice and felt ready. Got dressed up, met a friend, and headed out.

But… nothing happened. I didn’t talk to a single girl. I’ve got plenty of excuses – it was the kind of bar where everyone was sitting at their own tables, it felt weird to leave my friend alone, etc. But the truth is, I just didn’t take any action.

The only thing I did was ask two girls outside if they had a lighter while I was having a smoke. That was mostly so I wouldn’t go home without having spoken to anyone at all. They weren’t attractive, so I didn’t feel like staying and talking to them.

It sucks. I had such high hopes and ended up doing nothing. I’m not even that shy – I have no problem talking to people in general. But when it comes to approaching women in nightlife settings, I freeze up. It feels like there's more at stake or something.

Anyway, this is the beginning of my journey. Even though I feel like crap today, I’m not giving up.

Have you been in a similar spot early on? How did you push through? I’d appreciate any tips or just hearing your experiences.