I'm 25, 5'6", asian, dress fashionably, in shape, but not particularly attractive. Been in the game for about a year. Have had little success with women before then. Initially I was going out on Fri and Sat nights, at first with friends then solo. Then I stopped going out at night on the weekends altogether unless I was solely going out with my boys for hanging out. Learning day game has been an eye opener for me and really allowed me to attract the kind of women that I enjoy meeting. Here are some things I've learned.

At first I was doing nothing but direct. But direct game is hard to implement if you are not attracted to the girl like a wild dog in heat or an aboriginal warrior channeling his virility, aka she has to be worthy of the direct compliment and your open intention. Social context also makes this one challenging. Strong social calibration always improves your odds and makes you smoother in your approach. Just tracking down a random 7 in the mall and telling her she's the "epitome of physiological perfection" will seem crazy and incongruent to who she is.

Indirect opener with strong eye contact, followed by a quick light compliment usually works better in most situations such as waiting in line at the grocery store, airport terminals, coffee shops etc... A simple "Hi" is all you need. Making assumptions about a woman's character and framing that into a question works wonders. The other day I was standing behind a girl who had some very nice looking heels like a tango dancer's and she was buying flowers. So I said "you're a dancer or what? taking those flowers to a tango show?" Again doesn't really have to make sense. She responded well because it was an offhanded compliment (I assumed she was a dancer, a positive role). I knew that she wasn't a dancer or more than likely not but it's a good segway into talking about whatever. I quickly closed the interaction with "you're pretty cute, let's get a drink together... that's innocent enough." Before she could respond I busted out my phone and she just went along with it.

The strongest frame leads the conversation in any human communication. Be a leader. Remain calm and collected and she will go along with the interaction regardless of what is actually being said. This is especially true when you feel like others around you are listening or judging. Which they maybe but most people go on with their lives after a minute. Sometimes it's fun to be the one who has the balls to approach a woman in front of other men who obviously want to do the same thing but won't. Most other men will never laugh at you or work against you.

Finally like everything in game it's a numbers game. Take advantage of every opportunity to talk to people and especially attractive women. Dress well because women notice. Wear scarves cause women like scarves for some reason and keeps you warm. Guys will give you shit though but who cares. Wear nice shoes in day game. Remember go for volume, hit on every woman you come across so long as it doesn't affect your professional or inner social circle.