Get ready, this is gonna be a long one!

So time and time again, I hear Indian men posting about how bad they have it or how it is impossible to date hot girls because they are Indian. You see it on reddit and well, just about anywhere. I don't even think Asian men whine as much as we do and quite frankly, we go way overboard with it no matter how much Indian men will justify stereotypes and all that.

My dark story.

I grew up in a lower middle class area of New Jersey with an abusive father and an emotionally manipulative mother. My parents were not good people, they had no contact with the rest of the extended family because they had ripped everyone off and stolen from them. Manipulation, blackmail, emotional guilt trips, and total control were their way.

My dad is a short fat guy who is always angry, always yelled me at growing up and started beating me when he saw that I was taking working out seriously. My mom would use emotional guilt trips and things like how she will kill herself because of me to get me to do things like not workout, eat garbage Indian diets, and not hang out with friends. To my parents, being fit was for dumb people because being chubby meant that you were well fed and taken care of while being shredded and jacked meant you didn't take studying seriously.

Long story short since I do not want to spend so much of the post on it, I ended up having to go to community college after high school because of my psychopath mom's attachment issues and my dad's scheming. I rebelled because being a virgin at 20 was killing me. Transferred to party school in another state, stayed there for 3 years, and graduated at the age of 23 a virgin. Lost it months later to a girl I met on Tinder.

Now I am 27 and have slept with at least 50 different women, kind of lost count after that.

But now let's get to some life lessons.

You won't seriously improve with women or get the dating life you want unless you fix the mess in your own life first.

Still living at home with parents?

No job?

Living in a crappy town where people try to get out after high school if they are doing anything with their lives?

No hobbies or anything to look to?

No friends you can go out with?

Usually depressed or not emotionally content?

You are not going to do well with women. Women are going to get the best version of you, it would be like selling a busted up Mercedes. Until you fix the root of what is stopping you from being confident, you will not be able to get the results you are capable of getting with women. If you had a toxic family, grew up in a shit town, or feel like maybe you were the socially odd misfit growing up? Get over that first before approaching women. In fact, prioritize getting your mental health and emotional well being right before doing 100+ approaches. That is what is wrong with all of these PUAs, they ask broken dudes with serious issues and problems to go out and approach hot girls, then these dudes crash and burn and give up.

It was not until I told my toxic parents to eat shit, cut them out of my life entirely, started going after what I wanted in life, and found fulfillment outside of meeting women that I actually met a lot of women I would have normally been beating off too.

You are the average of the 5 people you spend most of your time with, watch the company you keep.

Friends constantly pessimistic and talk down to you?

Loser friends not going anywhere in life?

Judgmental friends who hate you for running game?

Toxic friends that suck the air out of the room?

Yeah, bad friends and bad people in your life will slowly kill you. Toxic people will take years off of your life and your mental sanity. Watch the company you keep. Similarly, I avoid Indian men who whine about race all the time. If an Indian guy even shows a sign of "but it's harder because I am brown", they are gone and ghosted, ASAP.

Find better friends, find friends that do well with women, be around positive people, and be around people others want to be around. You learn through osmosis and their swagger will rub off on you.

Looks matter as a guy but not in the way you think.

You don't have to look like John Stamos or Keanu Reeves to score the hottest girls but you do have to look like someone who cares for his own appearance. When I got fit, wore fitted clothes, and worked on presenting myself in a stylish way? My results went through the roof. If you cannot take care of yourself, how will you ever take care of a beautiful woman? Your looks do not matter, how much effort you are shown to put into them to look presentable does.

You'll relate with women more when you get a lot of attractive women in your life, now you will see why they do not have time for everyone.

You have 100+ matches on dating apps to write back to, if one wants to get your attention, there better be something damn special about her. You have 10+ girls you are texting at once, you cannot do it all successfully without feeling overwhelmed. Now imagine an attractive women, she will have to deal with 100+ men like this. You cannot hate her because she does not have the time during the day to entertain them all. In order to get her, you better have a damn powerful message or something convincing about you to separate you from those 100+ men.

I used to be bitter and think that women were snotty or just playing games. The truth is when you have 10 plus people texting you at once, you are naturally going to go for the best ones. Nothing personal.

Sometimes, the ugliest girls will reject you in the most cruel way while the hottest girls are super nice and receptive.

Same with jobs, sometimes a shit one will reject you and a high quality one break for you. In other words, just because some hideous pig was rude to you at a club does not mean that the model will be just as rude. That is the beauty of trying and the game, it is not as black and white as you think. No, it's all an area shaded grey. You will notice it often where average looking women burn you or destroy you while hot ones give you a chance, it can be just that random.

Majority of the times, beautiful women and genuinely cool people are not bad people. Often times, people ugly on the inside are usually ugly on the outside.

I have been around a lot of beautiful women and people that were well connected, wanna know something? Most were genuinely good people. A lot brought a positive energy, saw the best in others, and when they met bad energy they ignored it. Meanwhile, I found that the nastiest people I met whether at work or in my life were usually ugly on the outside as well. These people often schemed to get someone fired, tried to ruin the lives of others, and did nasty things to sabotage other people. Often times, they had such envy towards the naturally beautiful and charismatic people, felt that they could not be that, and ended up trying to sabotage it.

At times, you might meet certain women who are "cute" but have a ton of makeup on and tried hard to look good yet failed, such women can be quite judgmental to overcompensate for their own insecurity of not being a top notch girl. You will also meet men who never had much talents and were not good at anything, such men will take advantage of others to get ahead if they want to be successful at times. Read books by Robert Greene on this.

Hot girls and beautiful women are not bad people, they are on guard because they have to be, they risk a lot by not being selective. Ultimately, they want men who can provide them safety in one way or another.

Imagine if a beautiful woman simply overlooked you being pessimistic, having bad friends, being whiny all the time, and being a weak dude and still went with you. She risks her own mental well being and emotional well being in this situation. Beautiful women learned earlier in life that there are some bad people out there and awful men who can do some serious harm to them. The reason beautiful women go for the bad boy? Because having such a man in their lives means protection from such bad toxic people in an ironic way.

Wealthy guys, socially charismatic guys, tough guys, and high status guys provide women one thing, safety. A wealthy guy provides her shelter in a nice environment free of danger, unless he is fucking dangerous. Charismatic and high status guys can talk their way out of trouble and inconveniences. Tough guys can put an intruder on his back.

Women sometimes reject you because you don't seem like a guy who is actually READY.

If she was to take in a guy who is not fit and has low testosterone for instance, that means a guy who might have a tough time getting it up. Such a guy might suffer from dysfunction after foreplay and not be able to please her. If she was to take in a guy who was not socially aware or sharp enough, she risks putting him in a situation where other men might tool him and take her. If she was in a tough environment and was to take in a guy who was too weak, she risks making herself an easy target and the guy being sacrificed to horrible men.

Sometimes, women reject you because they sense that you are not ready in the state you are right now. Maybe you are too fat, too skinny, too nervous, too anxious, too awkward, and not socially sharp enough. Women have to take all of this into account when deciding to go for you, your job is to convince them you are more than ready.

Your life and results will get better when you are less bitter and hateful.

I used to be very bitter, racist, hateful, bigoted, judgmental, and just a bad person. I had a rough upbringing. I hated people and judged people in the worst ways. I fantasized about punishing certain people. After years of recovery, I came to peace with myself and found a way to bring out the best me when going out. Somehow, in some weird way, the universe balanced in my favor. Better people came in my life, I got better friends, and I attracted better energy in a bar. I ended up finding quality wingmen and taking home attractive women.

Somehow, that emotional energy and vibe you have will ultimately determine the friends that come into your life, women you meet, and the success you have.

In some weird way, the universe unfolds as it should.