Location for the second date?

ind_saha · 2018-03-09T09:04:57+00:00

Go to the art museum and then go out for a late dinner

Ragnrok · 2018-03-09T12:36:48+00:00

Bar near your home. Like, within walking distance. Seal the deal, my friend.

PhilSoprano · 2018-03-09T10:02:41+00:00

Be bold, cooking at your place for a second date is fine. You met through Tinder after all...

Alternatively go for drinks and escalate.

TallDarkandBot · 2018-03-09T14:29:25+00:00

I always have my second dates revolving around ending up at home. Cooking dinner and having wine, then movies is an easy one. Meeting at either ones house then going hiking, then when we get back have a few drinks. Doggy date then back for a few drinks.

ImJustSo · 2018-03-09T16:58:09+00:00

If you're a good cook, then definitely suggest it. Why the hell not? That's not bold, it's a second date.

I gave a girl options: Drinks at a bar near a restaurant, table tennis gastropub, or coming over to my house.

She chose my house.

abcgoodyabc · 2018-03-09T09:11:30+00:00

art museum, a slow walk in the park or beach, amusement park, cafe, bar

t1mman · 2018-03-09T17:54:34+00:00

You can offer a choice, "I have a restaurant close to my place if you want, but I can also show you my talent as a cook! I do prefer home cook meals TBH!"

Leave her an alternative, if she doesn't feel safe being alone with you, she'll feel "threaten" and you'll have to work twice as hard to overcome the mindset created.

Subconsciously, offering the alternative makes you appear "safer" and she'll more likely go to your place.

ls737100 · 2018-03-09T17:56:08+00:00

Dude, be bold! If you are a good cook, suggest a dinner at your place. If she's uncomfortable but attracted, she will suggest meeting in public. I tried this on a third date, she said she'd rather meet in public and I was fine with that (she's moved slow), date 4 and every date after has been dinner at my place.

One tip though, you asked her for suggestions, don't do that. It sends a beta vibe. Either tell her what you are going to do, or tell her it will be a surprise (They love surprises), and if you make it a surprise, then make it unusual.

Dating973 · 2018-03-09T10:05:37+00:00

You could do museum or, my preference, a place with alcohol. Way too soon for cooking at your place

Dating973 · 2018-03-09T16:53:02+00:00

Well ok maybe I should try that then lol

WIA20XX · 2018-03-09T18:59:28+00:00

She's trying to get to "know you" and the path you're headed down leads to boyfriend. So what she's expecting from you is more monetary investment, with -possible- physical investment from her - if you manage to jump through her hoops perfectly.

The "natural" direction is a safe date where you spend money to impress her. Think dinner, movie, miniature golf, bowling, billiards. Maybe an art gallery. Maybe home cooked meal, maybe Netflix and chill.

However you play this, you're currently not running game, this isn't PUA that you're doing. There is no fast seduction in taking a girl on a series of dates.

Not that you won't get with this girl, you're just taking the traditional path.

How I would play this? Pick a bar near you, get one drink and invite her back to your place. I wouldn't be all handsy like you were during the first date. I'd tell her, "we're just going to make out, but then I got to kick you out"

aguirre2018 · 2018-03-11T18:12:10+00:00

Thank you all very much for the responses. It always amazes me how helpful this community is.

I suggested the art museum which was a hit because she is really into this. After that she was hungry though. At that point I was not bold enough and we ended up in a restaurant. We had Dinner there and talked a lot. So much in fact that at 11:30 PM she was just tired. We still kissed and made plans for the next day (saturday evening).

This time (3rd date in 3 days) I invited her straight to my home and cooked for her. After Dinner we started to make out and the rest is history.

Luffydude · 2018-03-09T13:19:30+00:00

You're doing a few things wrong already

1 - Do NOT schedule dates when the girl doesn't have time. Here it led to a date where nothing happened.

2 - Do NOT "agree with the girl", just specify X place and lead. You do not want to appear indecisive without a plan or worse, agree to a place with terrible logistics

3 - I would say do NOT take a girl you haven't closed to the restaurant, however restaurant downstairs is perfect as long as it's not expensive. If you even skip that and she comes to your place it's a done deal

4 - Avoid dates on Fridays and Saturdays

5 - Avoid meeting with very few days in between

Anyone care to defend their downvote or was this one of those posts that got downvoted because feelings were hurt?

Title	Location for the second date?
Author	aguirre2018
Upvotes	19
Comments	23
Date	March 9, 2018 8:26 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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