[Long] Learn when to walk away

Eyitsyaboii · 2024-08-15T09:15:13+00:00

I can tell exactly where you lost her. You guys talked about science, dreams? Who talks about science and life dreams in the club? That's the type of convo girls have with their gay best friend.

You broke rule number one, which is to keep it fun. Here's what you need to understand. If you're keeping it classy, then she is going to keep it classy. And the classiest thing she can do is to not fuck you.

Sex is absurd and dirty. I am putting my genital where I piss from in her genitalia where she pisses and bleeds from, we rub it together and we cum, but the girl probably won't cum. Do you realize what kind of emotional state she has to be in to be willing to do that? She has to be completely irrational. That is why you also have to be absurd when you are flirting with a girl. You have to take her to the world of fun, where nothing needs to make sense, and you just do whatever you feel like. I guarantee the guys she was talking to are way more fun than you, and the convos were totally nonsensical.

And if you are worried you cannot be absurd and fun, spend some time playing with children. This might sound weird but my game gets so much better after I play with my cousins, because they are in the world of absurdity. They say whatever they want and do whatever they want without fear of judgement. Women crave that level of freedom from social pressure, and you can give that to her.

Next time you meet that girl i want you to just mess with her. Stop trying to be sophisticated. Make jokes about how she prolly has the nastiest farts. It will show that a) you don't give a fuck about whether she rejects or accepts you b) you will show her that you are a free spirit that does whatever you feel like, which is something she is probably craving.

You will get better at it overtime, but remember the principles I have taught you. I have yet to see someone get laid talking about science lol, but I have seen guys get laid talking about a nasty shit they took this morning.

gtaIIIstan · 2024-08-15T19:53:55+00:00

In addition to some of the good advice that's already here, sometimes it's a matter of timing. Sounds like you were the guy she ran into early in the night, when the story of Weds night was just beginning. And though many guys are happy for any interest and ready to settle down right then and there, a woman wants to go through the full experience of the night. That means potentially talking to MULTIPLE GUYS, dancing with her GFs, dancing by herself, hitting the bar a few times, and then eventually going off with a cool guy. But it's a full spectrum, which can continue at an afterparty too. And you can stand out as a guy by basically having the same philosophy. In fact, most cool guys do. They're not immediately settling down with the first woman who shows interest in them. Instead, they're bouncing around, being social with a lot of kinds of people at the party including women, and planting seeds. Then eventually at some point at the apex of the night, things start paying off.

I also would've kissed her on the dance floor, not while sitting down talking. Sounds like her state wasn't there yet, nor does it sound like you had full isolation (her friends, onlookers etc). You're in college. Keep it simple. Most people "hook up" (aka make out for the first time) while grinding. So talk a bit to the side of the dance floor, then take her by the hand and lead her onto the dance floor. Dance grinding first. Then face to face. You'd probably have grabbed another drink by this point with her too. THEN, if you see she's cool with the face to face, then you go in for the kiss.

epimpstyle · 2024-08-15T11:35:53+00:00

I went in for the kiss, but she pulled away.

Kino my friend, start with kino before going for a kiss, there is no shortcut... what you do is only a lottery, it is high-risk, high reward but is not the way to go.

This is the first point I should have walked away and focused on someone else

No, you only have to build more comfort or if you want to leave, just take her phone number and later try to go on a date.

she kept giving mixed signals.

It is time for "compliance ladder" when you get "mixed signals"

I tried a small test. I told her I would get some air outside and asked if she wanted to join. She said she would be on the dance floor and hoped I knew where to find her when I returned.

Too late!

A younger me would have gone back and demanded an explanation from her

Never ever do this!

In the beginning, you skipped the basic KINO and you tried the kiss and later you skipped small compliance tests but actually you went straight to big compliance (to follow you outside).

When people don't follow a scheme/routine, they end up like you said, at least next time do everything in order, it will only take you a few more minutes, but at least you are "playing it safe".

Sketchy-Turtle · 2024-08-15T13:17:14+00:00

I just had this exact situation last night lmao.

I was dancing with her upstairs and she was grinding her ass on me. She wasn't a good dancer, so we ended up taking a sitting. I asked if she wanted to head downstairs to talk where it's quiet....

When we got downstairs I started dancing with her to Hispanic music. We were close and I was feeling her lower back, so I went for a kiss, but she rejected it. I ended up wasting a lot of time trying to talk and convince her to dance again. Eventually, I left her alone and she was dancing with another guy. Although, she didn't go home with anyone except her girlfriends.

Looking back, maybe I should've just talked to her when we went downstairs. But I didn't know how to make a move when we were just talking. I only know how to make a move when we're dancing.

Apples_into_Snapple · 2024-08-15T12:46:31+00:00

Take it as a learning lesson bro. Just to add on to what everyone else is saying, you need to get the girl comfortable with your touch before you go in for the kiss. Make sure that when you’re talking, you’re talking about you and her (showing intent/premise) do teases, negs, basically make it as if she not into you, you don’t care cuz you have a full roster to chose from, and yeah still have fun with the convo and escalate at the high points with her.

She clearly got bored with you and the convo so she wanted to find someone else. Mystery said that if the convo or interaction starts to die/get boring, the girl will blame you for it and assume you have lower value. Girls (especially at the club) are really only loyal to their vaginas, so she did what she did to find another guy and get you to leave.

The only thing you could have done if you wanted to keep the girl would have been game the guys( become bois with them) and became the leader/coolest guy in the group (showing alpha behavior attracts girls). This is a lot of effort, so it depends how much more time you wanted to keep putting into this girl

Title	[Long] Learn when to walk away
Author	shaunaknn
Upvotes	10
Comments	18
Date	August 15, 2024 8:44 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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