Using a throwaway account. I am looking for a mentor in his 30s-50s, I do not want to f*ck 100s of girls, I only want quality women. Eventually, one day I would like a wife and kids, but I have to get out there first and find her, she isn't going to find me.

I have my life together, but I no longer get the basics, The dynamic has changed over the years.

About me: 30~M - SouthWest USA (Not Cali), finished my master's degree, 6 figure job, 1 house paid off, working on a 2nd, gym every day for 12+ years; I would say I am good looking, I have hobbies, but they aren't social hobbies Hiking, snowboarding, kayaking, camping. Recently ended a relationship that wasn't flourishing how I would've wanted.

This year I will not be playing video games and keeping watching TV to a minimum, I am also going to try and pickup country dancing.

When I was in my 20s I was a natural, I have been with 100s of women and caught 0 incurable diseases. I then stopped seduction and focused only on myself and my future, but it seems in chasing these goals and achievements, I fell out of line with the ability to properly seduce. I meet the checklist for all these women, but that is where it stops. It seems as if I am chasing and not attracting and I do not like it. I have been feeling needy af lately.

I would genuinely appreciate the help and constructive feedback. Give it to me as it is. Publicly shame me if that is what it takes, do as you must. I would like to be happy with myself and would like to be good with women again.

TLDR; I used to be good with women when I was a f*ckboi. I got my life together. I am no longer good with women and would like to be.