Losing the spark?

2011-01-22T21:19:31+00:00

I'm a 25-year-old female, and it's happening to me, too. Theories:

The better I understand my own value (which also inherently raises it, IMO), the less excited I become at the prospect of being accepted/validated by even a high-value man.
Once you've dated enough, the novelty and suspense of "what will happen next?" wears off. Dating, on the whole, is relatively predictable, and our relentless anti-oneitis (attitude of abundance) campaigning makes us indifferent to stuff going wrong with one particular potential mate. In the context of seduction, we operate like we have an infinite number of tries with desirable members of the opposite sex. Which ultimately kills the tension with any given target.

You might consider meeting a high-value HB who is looking for a relationship. She won't respond to seduction tactics, and you'd have to reawaken your emotional sincerity to keep her around. Yes, women like this are rare, but...c'est la vie.

nivar · 2011-01-22T15:24:57+00:00

pursuit of happiness, when you reach the goal, it not that important any longer.

throwawaying · 2011-01-22T15:58:42+00:00

I also feel it, dude.

I have two theories:

The more times I felt that spark was in my teens. So, I think that I'm loosing the spark because my hormones are more relaxed than then.
Applying the seddit advices gives me more value, so I require females with more value. Unfortunately, I will fuck only girls that are on my scope and I will never get laid with the girl that causes me the spark.

How old are you? I'm 21.

frogma · 2011-01-22T23:30:22+00:00

We're just waiting for the right girl. The more experience we have, the more we understand what we're looking for. Our standards go up, so a lot of girls won't make the grade. But I really don't think anyone's SO disillusioned that they'll never find a girl who's good enough- she'll come around, and you'll be glad you've had so much experience when that happens.

RedErin · 2011-01-22T20:14:23+00:00

It could be that you go too far in the "I'm the prize" mentality. Maybe you just sooooo vain that you think you're just too good for almost all women.

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Title	Losing the spark?
Author	Dexter77
Upvotes	3
Comments	8
Date	January 22, 2011 2:21 PM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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