Let me put you this analogy to show why needy men usually fail with women. Men are like a moving train 🚆 they must be clear about the type of train they are, and the destination that it's going, and never change it for a woman.

If you know you have to go to Barcelona, and a woman tells you she doesn’t want to go to Barcelona anymore, but rather to Lisbon, you can’t just adapt and change your route for the sake of the relationship.

What you have to do is let her get off the train and keep heading to Barcelona.

If she complains that the color of your train, or the type of seats are or the general design of the train isn't appealing to her, you don't change it just to please her. You say take it or leave it, my train is like this, period.

But of course, many needy desperate lonely men panic and adapt, because they think:

“But… what if I don’t find another woman who wants to get on my train? What if no other girl wants to go to Barcelona with me? What if no girl likes the design of my train? At least, this one is kinda interested in my train, maybe i should change it and change my destination so that i at least have a passenger"

And so they adapt to what she wants because they wanna make her happy, but ironically this makes her lose respect for him sooner or later and she ends up getting off the train anyway, once it’s already headed to Lisbon. Why?

Because while intiially she might think, that it's very convenient that you changed you destination and adapted the train for her, sooner or later she changes her mind... Now, she doesn't wanna go to lisbon anymore and wants to go to Porto, and now she also doesn't like the changes that you made to the train anymore, and demands you change everything again. Because women often change their mind about everything all the time.

So of course you adapt again "to make her happy", you "sacriface yourself for her" because "that's what love is" or so you've been told... But sooner or later she realizes that your train is going nowhere and so she abandons the train, while you complain that "after all you've sacrifaced and done for her, how could she do this to you?"

That same girl will then get on another man’s train that's still going to Barcelona and which has the same design that your train initially had, which makes you feel like an idiot, realizing you sacrificed your destination and your identity for nothing, and she still ended up going to Barcelona with someone else who never tried to do what she wanted.

Moral of the story: Women don’t respect needy men, men who don’t know what they want, men who adapt instead of lead, or men who let a woman tell them who they should be, where they should go, what they should say, or what is right or wrong for him to do. They only respect men who don't bend.

Stop treating women like she is your mummy or your teacher... You are an adult, you should already have full conviction that anything you do, say or want is legitimate simply by recognizing it's what your heart wants and that's the only truth that matters.

Women don't get to tell you what you should do or say, where you should go or what is right from wrong, cuz you are not a child anymore, and she is not your teacher or your mom.

So if she doesn't get on board so be it, the right girl or girls for you will definetely get on board and will respect you for not adapting to their demands. You can want a girl to be in your train, but always remember that you should never'need her to be in your train. And if you do need her because you are desperate, she won't respect you.

Always leave the door open for her if she doesn't trust your lead... And continue leading your life by being grouended in yourself, eventually you'll find another woman, another passenger who actually supports you in your mission and purpose and "go to barcelona" with you.