Need help from guys who stutter

etcomro · 2014-09-11T16:23:34+00:00

Dude.. I've been there. I was in speech therapy most of my school years. I even considered getting the SpeechEasy device but I didn't think my stutter was severe enough to warrant that.. plus it's expensive as shit.

A couple things that have helped me you may have not of thought of yet:

Meditate daily. I've tried Vipassana, Zen, and TM. All of them do wonders for dealing with that nasty circle of anxiety that causes and comes from our speech.
Belly breathing. It can be a part of the above meditation techniques but I wanted to mention it seperately because it may not be as important depending on the type of meditation. Practice breathing all the way down into your belly before you speak. A lot of disfluency is in just simple running out of breath.
Affirmations. There's plenty of stuff out there about this but definitely check out "Awaken the Giant Within" by Tony Robbins. It'll crush some of those deep self-limiting beliefs you have.
Sleep. Sleep cycles last 90 minutes and you want to wake up right on one. So you can sleep for 90 minutes, 3 hr, 4.5 hr, 6 hr, or 7.5 hr. Sleepyti.me will help you figure out when to wake up.
Intentional pauses. This is my favorite because it not only circumvents the speech impediment but also subcommunicates power. All you do is insert intentional pauses. Maybe in that pause you catch your breath, or maybe you're really thinking about something. But.. almost always.. I never stutter.. if I talk.. like this.

How much will it effect my life,career and all those stuff.

As much as you let it. I've worked in call centers, been a lead singer in a band, and worked on a submarine where my job was specifically communications. Challenge yourself. The most fiendish part of stuttering is what it does to your mind and you must battle it everyday. Stay fluent my brother.

rags_2_bitches · 2014-09-12T01:16:15+00:00

I used to have a really bad stutter growing up, Only until recently was I able to get it under control. At it's worst I'd 'jam up' frequently even during a single statement stalling on a sound for even a few minutes. Being a stubborn bastard I'd try and power through it and finish what I was trying to say which would only make it worse, and at times make me light headed from not breathing.

In my experience what helped me get over it:

Deep breathing, before speaking take one or two deep breaths and really think about what you're going to say. When approaching just take a few deep breaths on the walk over.
Really exaggerate your mouth movements and enunciate your speech. Overtime you wont need to exaggerate as much, and the enunciation will become natural helping you get a really clear, powerful tone.
Don't speak too fast, I found that since I was worried about stuttering I'd try and get what I wanted to say out fast as possible. Tone it back and really enunciate your words, Speak clearly, strong and with purpose.
I found that my stutter would trigger on certain words or sounds, Mainly "A" "Ah" sounds (kinda sucks because my name begins with an A) but practice on your own just making that sound until it becomes natural. When I had a problem saying my name, I'd normally say "My name is" or "Its" just to get into the flow, I noticed I wouldn't stutter as much/at all.

I used to be really anxious of my stutter, to a point where I became mute for a time. But I found most people are actually really understanding. If you start to stutter, just stop, take a deep breath, smile and continue what you were saying.

Nicker44 · 2014-09-12T01:37:10+00:00

I have a stutter but I just replace anytime I want to say uh, uhm, ah, or have a repetitive word coming on with a swear word.. It's not the best way to deal with it so my speech is something like "Hey my name is Nick Smith and I fuckin' work at a restaurant that serves fuckin' burgers and fuckin' fries and shit." I quickly turn into a potty mouth but I find it better than stuttering and stammering.

Xaxxus · 2014-09-11T20:34:01+00:00

Smoke weed.

Im serious. A guy in my highschool used to studder so bad he couldnt get through a sentence without studdering a few words like 5 times each.

He was also the biggest pothead in the school. He came to class blazing and didnt studder once when asked questions.

Not2original · 2014-09-11T21:00:21+00:00

Sutter brother!

Mine comes out when I get excited, and I admit that to the party I'm talking with.

I just stop, take a deep breath. Focus my thoughts and start talking again slowly at first to make sure it's gone. If not I take a drink, and motion for the conversation to continue while I collect myself. Then rejoin at an appropriate time.

I don't let it control me, I shrug it off because it's part of who I am and I can try and control it but it will never go away and there is nothing I can do about it, so Fuck it!

insidescoop84 · 2014-09-11T23:33:54+00:00

I have a friend, he has a bit of a stutter. He's aware of it, he's not fond of it, but he's not heavily self-conscious of it, and as a result, it doesn't affect him much in any facet of his life. Women are attracted to him regardless, some have even told him they found his stutter cute. His stutter has actually made him more endearing to some of them.

It doesn't have to be a weakness!

Draxlar · 2014-09-12T01:02:36+00:00

Sounds obvious but speak slower, take your time to think. I've been stuttering all my life and I was bullied for it. Mediation helps.

carlospicywiener2121 · 2014-09-12T02:04:06+00:00

search simple pickup- picking up girls with a speech jammer on YouTube. you'll realize having a stutter doesn't matter, just own it and make fun of yourself a little bit

Interrupting_Otter · 2014-09-12T07:30:25+00:00

something that helped me:

speaking too fast implies that you have to quickly say something because the other person doesn't have time to grant you their full attention. You are undervaluing your self worth.

something like that.

Daroude · 2014-09-12T16:36:45+00:00

"How much will it effect my life,career and all those stuff." Not at all if you don't let it.

A colleague of mine stutters really really bad. Within the first times I met him we tried to talk in the morning. He could barely say a word. He just said "today it's really bad" which was the only complete sentence that morning.

Guess what: He has a lawyer position in one of the biggest banks in our country, wears awesome suits and his girlfriend is easily a 9. She is really hot. And he is fun as hell and does an awesome job

I know him now for about 1 or 2 years now, and the more he is comfortable with you it's not that bad anymore. He still stutters when he talks to me but it's ok.

RandianHero · 2014-09-11T18:28:06+00:00

Definitely go get that sorted out. With modern advances in speech therapy, there's no need whatsoever that you have to suffer through that. James Earl Jones, Bruce Willis, and Samuel L. Jackson all had pretty bad stutters, and they managed to get past them.

I suggest consulting a professional. You can only do so much on your own.

Title	Need help from guys who stutter
Author	Akasho1
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Date	September 11, 2014 4:08 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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