No sexual experience: How do I handle sexual conversations in group settings or with peers.

norwegiandoggo · 2024-11-07T14:29:12+00:00

It's not your lack of experience that is an issue. It's your insecurity about it. You feel insecure so you feel like you need to stay silent or lie. That insecurity is something people pick up on and it's a turn-off. The lack of experience could be a turn-off to some women, but it's usually not as big of a deal as guys think. Just be up front and confident about it. Think about the Jonas Brothers as they proudly displayed their virgin status. You think women didn't want to fuck them? WRONG. Women were all over these guys. Showing that lack of experience isn't such a big turn-off as you probably think

Physical_Run_1257 · 2024-11-07T14:12:38+00:00

You have two(three) options.

Fake it till you make it.

Get a hooker.(or get laid)

It really comes to this.

connor42 · 2024-11-07T14:14:31+00:00

How old are you approx? The answer for a teen will be different than if you’re in your 30s

IME women aren’t deciding to sleep with a man because of how he talks about sex in a platonic conversation

Get women on dates, whether she is willing to spend time with you one on one is much bigger gatekeeper/indicator on whether she will sleep with you than almost anything else

You can discuss your lack of experience once you’re pretty certain she actually wants to sleep with you

KoleSekor · 2024-11-07T14:49:15+00:00

What would you ideally like to happen?

For you to have real, genuine sexual encounters with which you can later share?

Or continue to remain inexperienced, but just have something of value to add to these discussions?

Eastern_Strike_3646 · 2024-11-07T17:21:51+00:00

why not just smirk secretively and let them make fill in the blanks with their assumptions about all the depraved shit you're honourably choosing to keep private? that, and keeping the focus on them by showing curiosity (goes for all social situations where you're experiencing self-consciousness). as long as you do it with confidence and not with an air of anxiety, you should be able to leave it up to their imaginations. but what are they even talking about that is so inaccessible for someone with 'less' experience. surely from your experiences with hookers you could at least contribute something? if you're as socially inhibited as you describe, it may actually draw more (suspicious) attention if you suddenly start sharing private info, and be more consistent with your friends' expectations of you for you to remain reserved.

Best_Difference_523 · 2024-11-07T17:44:44+00:00

Just say you don't want to talk about it, and assert your boundaries and if they continue to grill you, tell them to f- off.

Informal_Sherbert251 · 2024-11-07T18:25:51+00:00

Ligit you have the greatest advantage to just make virgin jokes for days until a woman gives you a chance. Just roll with it, an experience woman may give you a chance if she has a heart.

Of course if you are her type. Remember that not everyone likes tea, and you may be the greatest cup of tea ever in some categories. Just not her drink.

Dickyblu · 2024-11-07T19:14:14+00:00

Big bags of sand

youngyut · 2024-11-07T20:01:48+00:00

So? I been doing this stuff for almost a year and got laid only 4 times. Ik, lousy PUA. But you don’t just become an expert of everything over night. Learning is like a straight line (but to me an exponential curve). It takes me FOREVER to get something but then overnight I master it after a while.

Back on topic though, what you could do is just be a listener and listen. The more you feel insecure about it, the more power you are giving sex and it’ll intimidate you. Just listen or talk about the furthest you’ve made it with anyone. Even some of us as PUAs don’t care about your lack of experience, in fact that’s why we’re all here… to help each other.

Even the best of the best, aside from naturals, started off frustrated and extremely slow. In fact, their frustration is what drove them to learn the skills that they write books about today.

Squali_squal · 2024-11-08T11:20:44+00:00

I'm a virgin and am older than you and I've had to turn sex down. I would worry about it in convo. Just properly attract the girl and it won't matter.

DenseResponse6757 · 2024-11-09T12:28:22+00:00

bro just say nothing. if a girl asks, just play coy, change the subject in a funny way. act like you just don’t like to talk about those things.

Title	No sexual experience: How do I handle sexual conversations in group settings or with peers.
Author	letsgo2044
Upvotes	16
Comments	35
Date	November 7, 2024 2:08 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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