After reflecting on the past couple days of spam approaching and dismal results, as well as reading comments on my post, I realized that my current approach was neither sustainable nor effective.

Spam approaching not only made me look desperate but also made me feel desperate.

So I decided to take things slower today.

One shot, one kill

Finished my meeting early, so I went to do some work outside. As I walked past a courtyard area, I spotted a beautiful blonde girl in a white dress sitting alone under the sun. But I decided not to approach yet. I had a task in front of me to complete my work, undistracted.

Once I finished working, I turned around to see if that girl was still there. Unfortunately she had left, but there was another cutie in her place. I walked over and prepared to deliver my opener.

I was suddenly struck with a mild pang of approach anxiety, and I sat down on a bench close to her instead. The reason for the anxiety was partly because I wasn’t warmed up yet, but also because the courtyard was in direct view of a classroom inside a glass-windowed building, in which a class was taking place.

After messing around on my phone for a bit, I realized that the more I hesitated the more creepy it would be. She had just packed up her stuff and crossed right in front of me to move to another table that was not in direct sunlight, so surely she had noticed me already.

No more time to waste. I walked up to her and got her attention since she was wearing headphones. Opened directly by telling her that I didn’t want to interrupt her studying, but I thought she was cute and I wanted to meet her.

She lit up. We had a good vibe during the conversation. She had beautiful eyes and was holding strong eye contact, which was a bit intimidating. Mixed in some humor and cold reads (she looked like a runner). I was focused on having a quality interaction and saying whatever came to mind, while also trying to get to know her. She had a very feminine voice, open body language, and a bubbly energy. Towards the end of the conversation when I introduced my time constraint, I realized that I didn’t even ask for her name. We made introductions, and then shortly after she had already forgotten my name so asked me again (common IOI I have noticed).

Told her that we should hang out again and number closed. First and last name in my phone, which gave me confidence that it was a solid number. Texted her my name and she responded “Hey!!” soon after.

Pretty confident that this will result in a date. However, I did stalk her socials and she is in a popular sorority on campus, so if I have indeed poisoned the well with my spam approaching reputation, she might not be keen to see me once she discusses today’s happening with her sisters.