Online Dating Apps vs Daygame vs Nightgame

hunterpua · 2026-06-11T22:08:03+00:00

My thing is, I will see a gorgeous girl in public and want to talk to her but I have just never done it. How do I change?

By doing it.

It sounds like you're putting too much pressure on cold approach to quickly get on par with your performance on dating apps.

If that's the case, stop that.

Accept that you will start much further back than you've been with dating apps.

Accept that you will have to gradually build things up.

We can use exercise as an analogy for this.

We could say dating apps are like running and you just happened to always enjoy running so you took to it really well and made improvements quickly.

On the other hand, cold approach is more like lifting weights.

You're gonna have to start with those smaller plates before you graduate to the full sized plates.

Good news is, your abilities from dating apps will transfer so the overall learning curve will be shorter.

All you're essentially replacing with cold approach is the first half of the equation.

It's just the meeting and getting a date part. From the date onwards it's the same as you're used to.

So just bite the bullet and work up from humble beginnings.

Start by just making sure you're actually physically approaching at all.

That means don't even try to do well. Don't even try to get flirty responses.

Just make sure you're physically approaching.

So do small things like asking for directions at first, and do them for multiple approaches for multiple days, even weeks if you have to.

The early stage isn't about getting numbers or even flirting. It's about developing consistency.

Just like the gym, the first priority is to make sure you train regularly.

So don't be ashamed of just asking for directions and then leaving. And don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

In most cases the guys who immediately try to flirt will be walking for hours hesitating to approach girl after girl that passes them by, meanwhile the guys who humble themselves and ask simple questions to open have already approached 10 girls in quick succession.

And even when the guys manage to force themselves to immediately do a flirty approach, they will find that they still continue to hesitate and often times they go home after that one approach and then procrastinate on approaching again for multiple weeks.

Better to start small, focus on frequency and consistency and then once you have that momentum going, that's when you start making your approaches more flirty.

It might seem like a longer process because there is more steps but that's only because most guys overestimate the courage they will have when they're actually there seeing a girl they could approach.

If you try it, be honest with yourself and acknowledge the hours you spend hesitating and the number of approaches you squandered trying to gather up the courage.

Also acknowledge after that day, the weeks you spend thinking about it instead of actually going and doing it again.

That hesitation and procrastination will slow things down far more than going through the baby steps and actually doing something.

So go through the baby steps and do something instead of just talking to yourself and trying to psych yourself up.

If you feel good after a few approaches asking for directions on your first day, you can always try to get more flirty then.

The important thing is you're not just spending weeks thinking, you're actually out there taking action.

Independent-Bad218 · 2026-06-11T20:48:45+00:00

Let’s see this from two sides, one is the mechanics of acquiring girls and one is from your own inner world and satisfaction.

As far as mechanics go, every strategy engages with screening and filtering. The first is an active process, while the second is a set it and forget it passive process. In dating apps for example ypur profile is a filter. The girl who swipe left, you will never know of them. When cold approaching you are engaging in both. The filter is lower than the dating apps (as the only barrier for entry is that they find you interesting socially or sexually. In apps it is “very sexually interesting”), so you have access to a large pool of girls.

Now once in set it is an active process. You need to screen girls that really showcase interest (this is a skill you havent implemented in online game). And you also have to showcase value to lift the girls that were semi-interested to very interested. Therefore this is the difference you can expect.

Now, as to which one is more “satisfying”. Cold approach will give you more options and the sense of achievement. But i think you are relying on novelty too much. As time passes the forms of dating dont diverge too much. This is not to dissuade you, this is just being realistic.

With cold approach you will have a very big learning curve as well, as it is trial and error till you get it. So get your courage up and be ready to fail till you learn

South-Excitement1720 · 2026-06-11T20:56:35+00:00

My honest take, is nightgame is brutal, but can be worth it, IF you enjoy the social aspect of it.

You say you are in the UK, so I am guessing a University City, just go on Meetup dot com and find some events near you, drop along and talk to people. Forget seduction for now, just get used to the social aspect of life.

If that does not appeal, then no offence, but putting yourself in the same social situations, and putting yourself out there, is going to feel 100x worst.

I can preach all day about how rejection is just "water off a ducks back", "your sense of self worth is not defined by what some girl thinks of you", I am sure you have read all this. But the reality is, especially when starting out, rejection can feel brutal.

All that said, to seduce or not seduce, I would say building social skills is a good thing.

As for where to start:

I know at one point, "Models" was the goto book on this sub, never read it myself, cannot comment.

There is some guy on here who preaches Mystery Method, I have mixed views on that.

Then there are dudes on here, who will probably DM you and try and sell you stuff.

My own favourite poisons of choice are Ross J and Eric Von Sydow (Hypnotica).

I actually recommend following a system to start with, just so its one less thing to think about.

Anyway, whatever you choose to do, good luck. And nice to see someone from the United Kingdom on here. PS: If you get good at this, take yourself to Liverpool for a weekend, just been and them Scouse Ladies make it worth every step of the journey.

i-like-dutch-cheese · 2026-06-11T21:01:43+00:00

I mean I've been on here a bit. I've read models and the game but neither did very much to get my started. And quite frankly, the game was just terrible, maybe it works and maybe it doesn't but the whole book felt kind of silly.

I'll give yours a read, I've got a 7 hour train journey coming up so lines up quite well.

Maybe I should make it down to Liverpool, but then again there's other options that I'm saving up for. Either an trip to the States, interailing or SE asia. Situations where I'm kind of forced to practice. I think a lot of the anxiety around approach doesn't necessarily come from rejection but instead comes from the fact that I have to do it in my home city? Either way, I think after the first it should be easier... Also, don't care what people say but I've, by far, had the most fun with Americans. Scouse seems fun, haven't tried it yet

wapskiii · 2026-06-11T23:25:29+00:00

I’m autistic too bro asbergers im assuming? I was super awkward as a kid but now I got hella game, I have a New Orleans accent too so u hear that “hey my baeebayy” but u jus gotta man up n b socially aware, instead of over analyzing places and thing analyze people and pick up on signs

ImpossibleWaiting · 2026-06-12T03:21:19+00:00

You've got to start hitting on women consistently while showing fun, positive and challenging emotions. If you want a good program to get out of it, read Make Woman Chase You by Justin Rigney.

Title	Online Dating Apps vs Daygame vs Nightgame
Author	i-like-dutch-cheese
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Comments	7
Date	June 11, 2026 8:34 PM UTC (2 months ago)
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