Push or pull?

volavi · 2025-09-16T11:56:41+00:00

If a woman wants you to chase her she will make herself available to you. She will be in close proximity.

In this situation she has done the opposite: she has asked for space and created distance between you. The short answer is: move on. The likelihood that she wants to be chased after clearly stating she doesn't is zero.

Illustrious_Size610 · 2025-09-16T12:13:38+00:00

When a woman pulls away and you already reached out once, the ball is in her court. You don't text anymore.

If she had a great time with you she will feel nostalgic and reach out again. If she doesn't reach out it's because the expereince wasn't that great or worthy of another one, from her point of view.

Seduciton is not about chasing, so if she already distanced herself you keep meeting other women while she makes her mind up.

You don't sit waiting for her and you certainly don't try to play Tennis by yourself while she sits there observing. And no you never ask a woman what she wants or where you stand with her. NEVER. That's needy.

AddLightness1 · 2025-09-16T12:37:02+00:00

She already told you what she wanted: space. Give it to her. Keep yourself busy and continue to meet people, consider her gone.

Altruistic-Patient-8 · 2025-09-16T13:10:09+00:00

Dont chase woman that dont want you. She needs space is code for leave her alone. Their is no push or pull, just moving on. Respect yourself.

AlastairXXL · 2025-09-16T15:56:02+00:00

She's gone, you must of had a small penis

Dandys3107 · 2025-09-16T15:52:55+00:00

In this case you locate your engagement and energy in more promising targets. If the girl can make a radio silence with you for a couple of weeks just on her whim, there is little reason to invest yourself more than a casual hookup. You can keep things opened and match her involvement, but it would be better to find girls who you have better dynamics with.

Virtual_Ad_4817 · 2025-09-16T19:20:01+00:00

If she told you she needed space then don't interpret that as her playing games with you. Give her space.

IMO push/pull is a counterproductive thing to tell a newbie to do for the exact reason you're saying here. Guys just do it blindly and don't calibrate to the girl's emotional state or the connection, which is really the most important part.

Rather than push/pull, learn microcalibration. Read Mystery's book Revelation. It's in there.

DreamShort3109 · 2025-09-17T01:43:13+00:00

I dunno man. Women are impossible to understand.

norwegiandoggo · 2025-09-16T12:05:50+00:00

Why did she want space from you? Were you behaving too needy? Was the sex bad? Or is she just not interested?

It's very context dependant. What happened before she wanted space? Did you bombard her with messages and date invites? Or what led up to that conversation? This is crucial information.

Title	Push or pull?
Author	Healthy-Two217
Upvotes	21
Comments	13
Date	September 16, 2025 11:39 AM UTC (10 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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