Question on expressing emotion.

emprameen · 2012-03-04T22:28:16+00:00

"Fake it 'till you make it" actually works really well in this one. Also, aside from expressing, try being more observant and receptive to other people's emotions. Emulation can be an extremely powerful aid in feelings and expression. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mirror_neuron This might have something useful

orangeapplegrape · 2012-03-05T02:34:26+00:00

I kind of had this problem (I would be happy at times but never smiled). This is what I did. For one whole day I thought about happy things and smiled. The purpose was to loosen up my muscles and psychologically train myself to express my feelings as well as get used to smiling. Ever since that day I have found it much easier to smile when I am happy.

I recommend trying this exercise and in the future try to think about good things a lot in general that make you happy so that you smile naturally.

newyork20lives · 2012-03-04T23:31:15+00:00

Don't focus on that "my emotions are falsified" feeling. That doesn't mean ignore it - that'll only magnify its effects and make you feel very separate from the crowd (example: don't think about pink elephants..guess what you end up doing? thinking about them even more).

Acknowledge that feeling, and let it pass by directing your focus elsewhere. Maybe take in your surroundings: focus on the music for a second, or maybe the taste of your drink or anything else. The thought will slip away and from there you're probably fine to open up a set.

You need to be able to control your thoughts, and shut off your mind. Meditation is about having a tool to shut off your brain's internal chatter. This takes practice, but you can do it at work, in the grocery line, at a bar: anywhere, anytime. Just focus on a spot, on a sound, on your breathing whatever, and let any thoughts briefly pass and move on. Do this until you can consciously avoid the thoughts from forming in the first place, until you can silence the noise. This is a skill you get better at over time, after awhile you'll be amazed how easy this becomes!

Once there [at the club], I'm monitoring body for tension. If my shoulders are getting tight or whatever, deep breaths focusing on everything to relax. If it is mental, then I stare at my drink or the wall for 30 seconds and meditate, shutting out all thought. Often, I'll get some female eye contact that breaks me out of this(be aware of your surroundings). Be looking for your expectations to be fulfilled, notice the IOIs(smiles, laughs, touches) you get.

These are great quotes from puaCurveBall's excellent post. If you haven't already, read it. It's relatively short and outlines some powerful ways to confront and get past your stoic-feeling nature.

StarchSniffer · 2012-03-04T23:51:06+00:00

Looking at yourself in the mirror to try out different smiles and how they feel can be very helpful. This way you can see how the different smiles (muscles) feel and how they look as seen by another person.

Also making you feel comfortable about yourself. You can use this moment to show yourself some silly faces, to entertain yourself and see yourself as a fun person. If you find this hard to do, then you should certainly practice this every day. It will help you to gain more self respect which can be unconsciously seen in a smile. Because self improvements is more then just showing a smile. :)

So yes, you are on the right track. Don't overdo it, like 'Oh shit, I have to smile all the time!'. IMO it works great for greetings and conversation startups. And if you're smiling, remember that you can a lot with a smile. At least a 'Hi' or something.

2012-03-05T00:38:04+00:00

Eye-contact was unnatural to me until I started practicing it. Eventually, it became as natural as breathing, eating, or masturbating.

Learn to relax and be in the moment. "Go with the flow", as they say. Shitty advice for someone who doesn't know "how", sorry. A good book for this is Eckhart Tolle's "The Power of Now" (his writing style is a little out-there, but the content is great). When you're relaxed and in the moment, pretty much everything you do will flow naturally and easily.

healxph0enix · 2012-03-05T01:28:19+00:00

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Title	Question on expressing emotion.
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Date	March 4, 2012 9:59 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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