I've been doing this pickup thing for a few years now. In the beginning I read as much as I could and asked everyone for advice. I've got a notepad on my phone filled with random tips/notes I've acquired the past few years. I'm going to share a few here. If you guys want more, let me know. If you have any to add, please share. I'll try to elaborate where I can.
- Disqualification: do not seek approval of others. We are approval givers.
One thing I am constantly forgetting in the field is to disqualify the target. Something as simple as "oh, this will never work. You are WAY too sarcastic for me" usually does the trick. Or, "I can't date you, you are SUCH A GEEK!" DQ'ing works for two reasons: one, its a challenge. Most guys are needy approval seekers. PUAs are different. Two, which is really a different side of the same coin, it shows you are confident enough to not seek the approval of others.
Also hidden in this one is "we are approval givers." Don't forget to be a value giver to others.
- As a man, it is our job to approach. It is the female's job to say "go away." stay until they say "go away."
Just a reminder that if you don't approach, you're never going to get the girl. As men, as sexist as it may seem, it is our job to approach women and indicate interest. It is the girl's job to say "go away." Just an obvious disclaimer here: she might not actually say "go away." Read body language and be aware of your surroundings.
- Give a girl a nickname and use it.
This tip is so useful in the field. After you open the set, give the girl a nickname. Should be playful and teasing. "You are so cute like a chipmunk. I'm gonna call you Chippy! You like that Chippy?" Quick and easy way to build rapport.
- Before entering set, make eye contact and give a nonverbal cue. Check for her compliance, then enter the set.
I think I got this one from watching a video by Joker or something. If you see a girl across the room who is blazing hot and you wanna go over and talk to her, see if you catch her eye first. When you do, do something silly like smile and wave. If she waves back, there's your cue. Rock over there and get talking to her.
- Ramping up seduction: slow down convo, smooth out voice, change eye contact and introduce pauses. If she's rambling on, slowly move in closer, thinking, "all right, I'm gonna kiss you."
Same video as the one from above. After you're in a convo with a girl and you've iso'd and built a little rapport, you've got to escalate. So here we go. Slow. Down. Every. Sentence. Look deep into her eyes. Take.....pauses while speaking, all while moving closer. Your internal monologue is "i'm going to kiss you." She'll get the idea and if she doesn't pull away, it's on.
OK, that's it for now. Hope you guys find some tips in here that can help you. I've got a bunch more. If you need elaboration on any of the above, ask in the comments. Please share your own if you've got some good ones.
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